I always had planned on cosleeping with baby, in a warm room, wearing long sleeves with the covers folded down to about waist length or so, on a firm mattress. We have the ability to do all of that because we have a nice firm king bed, and can keep our room warm easily. The only problem is my husband- who is a horrible sleeper.
this last month or two of pregnancy has really shown me HOW horrible of a sleeper he is- because I've had pregnancy insomnia and get up every 2 hours to pee, and then usually lie awake from 3/4am for an hour or so. He gets hot no matter what the situation- I think he'd only be comfortable temperature wise camping outside in the fall/winter... we keep the windows half open and it gets down to 45-50 at night, we keep the air filter on which gives white noise and circulates the air, we keep the room dark, and I am constantly taking the top comforter off him, and the blanket leaving just the sheet because he gets so hot and soaks the sheets. because he gets hot and uncomfortable, he tosses and turns, and kicks the blankets and sheets off, and is just a mess. I've experimented with keeping the windows wide open so it's the same temperature as outside in the bedroom which makes me freezing, and he still is a restless/thrashy sleeper- and he gets up 3-4 times a night to pee/eat/just get up - it's really annoying. I don't want to be one of those couples who sleeps separately.... but it looks like that's going to be how it's going to be in the early months especially because the added factor of a baby that gets up is going to get him sleeping even less and he needs to be up for work at 6.
so we have the co-sleeper bassinet that pulls up to my side of the bed and I guess we'll use that, but I'm just really sad because I don't think it will be safe to have the baby in the bed with us with him thrashing around and pulling the covers. it's driving me crazy. I've stopped making the bed because he literally pulls the fitted sheet all the way off on his side and i got sick of having to make it from scratch every day. before i met him when i slept alone I would literally make the bed once a week when i washed the sheets- and slide into it like an envelope- I never had to do more than fold the covers back to make it and fluff the pillows. aghghghg sleeping. something so simple made super complicated and frustrating.
we had an idea of getting one of those cosleeping nests/cuddlenests whatever you call it- which is just like a flat surface with a boundary around the edge for baby to sleep in between us, but I'm scared he would thrash on top of it or throw a blanket over her if we did that.