Ok... I get the urge to highlight the bright side, but it feels patronizing when it comes from the "outside". If we were both in the house having the struggle, it would feel like comradery or a good team spirit. But coming from a distance, it sure feels annoying. Like " sure, it's easy to see the bright side from your place. You aren't IN IT." He didn't take it well when I told him I would prefer to be responded to with "that sounds hard. I understand. Sorry you're dealing with that", or some other empathetic statement, rather than showing me the "bright side" with no acknowledgement of my frustration. For me, silence would even be better than that.
What do you think? Is that a genuinely sensitive thing to say, or a bit condescending?