How old is your baby now?
8 months today!
How is feeding going? Are you introducing solids or EBF?
I think she's about like some of the rest of yours-- seems almost like she's trying to wean somedays! Baby-led solids continue to go well... We are doing twice a day many days now-- something not-too-messy (like steamed carrots) in the morning/lunchtime and then something with protein (usually) in the evening. Usually whatever we're eating. Sometimes, if we're busy around dinnertime (like last night, Halloween) we skip solids.
How is sleep going?
Actually okay.... ish. She is really restless lately, but I'm pretty sure that's d/t Wonder Weeks (should be over in about 2 weeks) and isn't anything I need to "train" out of her. It's sort of shocking/illuminating to visit other boards and see just how incredibly common and "necessary" CIO is perceived to be. And this in particular on a board for my local area, which is pretty much the most educated area in the US. I had the funniest moment when I thought, well, I'm not going to say anything against CIO, because no one will listen to me, since I got a "good" sleeper right out of the gate. But then I realized that all those people talking about babies who still wake every 2-3 hours per night and they're going crazy.... Um... Well, I guess so does Miss L. But since she almost never really "wakes" because I am in bed with her and can pop a boob in or whatever, it doesn't hurt my sleep much at all, so... Here I thought she was "STTN" (as I say, "more or less")! I know from experience, when I was on the toilet and couldn't get to her right away (she went from 0 to screaming in about 15 seconds), that if she were in a crib in another room-- especially if we bottle-fed-- she would be one of these "nightmare sleepers" everyone talks about. It's so funny how your expectations color your experience. I'd be so much more unhappy if I expected her to sleep straight through for 11 hours per night, but I had done my research and realized that was not actually typical (without CIO)... And I am a person who is a light sleeper, even lighter now, and always needed 8-9 hours of sleep, so it's not like I function well when sleep-deprived. I'm just not sleep-deprived, or maybe on a verrrrrry low level. I know my circumstances (super-supportive and involved spouse, WAHM, etc.) are not everyone's, but that's kind of the thing... I think the idea that we need-- on a biological or even basic anthropological level-- to "train" (the vast majority of) our kids to sleep is kind of crazy when you think about it. It makes total sense in a highly-industrialized society, esp with double-wage-earner households. But when I see justifications for CIO that have to do with what's "healthiest for the child" or how "they'll never learn to sleep otherwise" or "they're just waking out of habit" (at 4 months) or whatever... No, I don't think those things are true, not in most cases.
How about those teeth? And what's your go-to teething remedy?
She still has the 6 (since the last 6-8 weeks?), and they're really prominent and "finished" now-- so cute! Four on top and the center two on the bottom. I THINK she might have two additional "matching" teeth on the bottom coming through right now, but she hates to have you open her mouth, so I can only barely catch a glimpse when she gives me a big grin. Not sure.
And how about walking? ... anybody have first steps yet?
She is cruising along furniture and her pack-n-play pretty adeptly now (new development-- she can be put down and entertain herself with standing/sitting/cruising for a little while, while I work nearby), but I feel like "actual" first independent steps are a crapshoot. OOH, she has been big into practicing standing up and letting go-- standing totally independently, and she can do it without holding onto anything for up to 15 seconds or so-- getting pretty proficient. And she does like to "walk" forward and hold our fingers a little. So maybe steps will come soon? But OOH, she is also thisclose to really crawling, so maybe she'll do that and decide that works so well that she'll give up on walking for a while. My mom just found my baby book and saw that I started crawling at 7.5 months and cruising at the same time, but didn't walk until 10 months. She seems to have a less cautious personality than I did/do, but who knows?
She is hitting all other milestones-- getting into a sit easily, says a few words, everything on the CDC 9-month list (and some on the 12-month) except crawling and pointing at things... though I guess she does gesture. And she doesn't really respond to her name, but that's because we call her whatever pops into our heads. *smh* We are trying to be "better" about that-- I know it doesn't mean anything about her development, really, but it would be useful for getting her attention.
Her new fun thing is singing along, especially with daddy (who has a beautiful, trained voice). Blowing raspberries is also fun. She is definitely getting more frustrated at things, which I see as a positive in terms of development, protesting even if warned we are transitioning to a new activity, etc.
And how are YOU doing? Are you taking good care of yourself? Do the experienced mamas have some tips for first time moms on keeping up with active toddlers?
Yeah, I think I'm okay? DH decided on his own a couple weeks ago that he was not doing enough, which might sound odd... As an aside, when I told a playgroup he comes home from work at 3 or 4 MWF, they oohed and aahed-- and that's before I told them he works from home and takes baby half the time TTH! But he decided he was not doing enough with that schedule, so he now takes baby when she wakes up (between 6-7 am) until 7:30 am, every day, which gives me sleep and gear-up-for-the-day time. He also decided to come home by 2 pm MWF, and on TTH, instead of us switching off every 2 hours, he takes her from when she wakes up until about 12 or 1 pm (except for nursing). That really helps me get more done and he likes how it helps him get more in tune with Miss L (just in general, and with things like EC), since he has her for longer blocks.
Anyway. Big props to DH. No way I'd be the mom I wanted to be without him being the dad he is.
I would like advice on babyproofing/moving things around, though! We need to re-adjust the sidecarred crib down now, since she's cruising so well! It was on the higher level to match our bed, but we need to either A) lower it and take our bed off the frame and put some mats on the floor (she fell off the bed at my grandma's last weekend-- luckily I had put pillows down-- by half-crawling/sitting/rolling-- she was okay, but geez!) or B) just put our (queen) mattress on the floor without the box spring or anything, and maybe buy a twin mattress to "attach" to it, since she sometimes seems to like sleeping not totally cuddled up to me. IDK. Either way, we need to bolt some furniture to the wall and get rid of some things, hide cords, etc. in our bedroom. And clear a bunch of junk out of the sun room, where we spend the most time. I also need a little advice here...
We want to make the sun room a "yes" room, so we're getting rid of a lot of stuff that doesn't need to be there (rickety lamp, business supplies, etc.) We probably won't go all-out in buying stuff to make it a real kids' room (sling bookcase, tumbling blocks-- I was thinking of putting up a sort of "barre" for cruising, etc., LOL). We are moving in ~February and saving for a house anyway, so...
The only thing I feel I "NEED" to do is put up a baby gate for that room-- I just know she's going to be a runner/fast crawler SOON. It's a very wide doorway, about 6 feet, so I was thinking of getting this:
But then I thought that something like this might be an even better idea, more portable, no installation, and only $20 more. Of course, it encloses a smaller area, since the room is fairly big....
What do you think? Experienced moms?
Are you finding some community with other moms?
Kinda sorta. I have that not-so-crunchy prenatal yoga mom group (just 4 of us, all FTMs) that we've done twice, and will probably do at my house next month. It's okay... I think I talked about it before. I think people are relaxing a bit in the anxious comparisonfest department, but I know when it comes up that I am doing EC or anything about CDs or BW or cosleeping (which I don't bring up, per se, but when asked), it's kind of awkward. Like 1 mom is somewhat interested, 1 mom is neutral, and one mom's eyes REALLY glaze over and she sometimes seems a little agitated. I get the feeling she thinks I am some kind of uber-competitive crunchier-than-thou sanctimommy or something, IDK, even though I keep my "crunchiness" quiet in general. So, IDK. I am willing to keep meeting a couple more times-- it seems to be just monthly.
OTOH, I think I also mentioned getting together with my neighbor and some other local moms who are pretty chill and diverse and even lean somewhat natural-parent-y (like my neighbor had a HB and is only now weaning her 2.5-year-old). Not that people *need* to be "crunchy," but it's not just that-- a different vibe because it's more diverse and relaxed, as well. That is more informal and more frequent, and Miss L LOVES watching the "big kids" (toddlers) and interacting with adults, so I'm liking that. Of course, we'll be moving soon, but most likely just to the adjacent zip code (small state, so, like 2-3 miles away). So I can see continuing to hang with either group.