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post #21 of 125
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I hate my HE machine, I couldn't use cloth diapers because of it, and I had to switch to Tide. 

I use flats and tide free and gentle.
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Oh, and not to quadruple post or anything, but I only got like 5 snaps in the last day.  And I usually get more than that from just Nicole.  Did everybody go get a life?
I was at work and my kid was feisty. Did you sen me any snaps deserving of a reply? Hmm? Better watch out, I'll send you cake making snaps.
Epi pen?!? Yikes!
post #22 of 125

Ash, Yikes!  How come we didn't hear about that, it sounds super scary!  I would definitely stay away from coconut oil too if I was you.  I'm sure there are good, healthy chocolate recipes online that don't use coconut oil, maybe palm oil instead?

post #23 of 125

So, this is unrelated, but I need to rant about this..  

 

Yesterday my MIL emailed my best friend on FB (who she has met maybe twice?) and her first opening message to her was, "What the hell are they thinking".  My friend was totally caught off guard, as they don't usually talk to each other.  I mean, we've known from the beginning that my IL's don't support us moving to SA, but really, this approach seems pretty childish and out of character for her.  She's a wealthy, educated woman that's normally pretty easy to get along with.  Then once in a while she does something like this and I'm just stunned.  My friend had a conversation with her and told her that we do indeed plan on moving and that while it's not her choice, she's still going to support me and be my friend.. and of course my MIL told her that I need to get a job again.  Gah, she needs to stop pushing that, we are NOT going to move to WI, live on a farm that they buy us, open a daycare (a way for me to pull in some money too) and live under their control.  We just aren't.  She watched the video of the new community and said that it looks super scary and that she's very scared for us.  I'm so confused about what is so scary about this?  Yes, it's an adventure, it's unknown, it's not what most people would do, but we really don't feel like we're putting ourselves in danger!  Geeeeesh, this doesn't make me feel warm and fussy toward them at all!  The video is below.  I guess if you think people with dreads are scary, than you might not want to watch this...  ;)

 

http://youtu.be/_fi8etTfODw

post #24 of 125
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Ash, Yikes!  How come we didn't hear about that, it sounds super scary!  I would definitely stay away from coconut oil too if I was you.  I'm sure there are good, healthy chocolate recipes online that don't use coconut oil, maybe palm oil instead?

 

 

I didn't purposely not mention it I don't think.  I don't remember.  But I had to go to Urgent Care afterwards and ended up sleeping most of the rest of the day.  It was the Wednesday before last.

 

Like I said, I just don't get it.  I have loved coconut my whole life- its always been one of my favorite things.

 

Sara I have had nothing even a tiny bit exciting going on to snap.  I have also had no smart ass comments to snap.  Because we all know Im kind of an ass like that.

post #25 of 125
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Yikes, Ash!  My first thought was the same as Abras, why didn't we hear about that?!  What a scary thing to go through!  I'm glad you know what caused it, so you can avoid it, but I'm sorry that you love it so much and now can't have it.  I personally hate coconut.

 

Abra, gah, I'm sorry that your MIL did that do your friend and to you guys.  It sucks when family doesn't support or understand your decisions.  How is your dh feeling about what she did?  How did you guys respond to her?

post #26 of 125
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So, this is unrelated, but I need to rant about this..  

 

Yesterday my MIL emailed my best friend on FB (who she has met maybe twice?) and her first opening message to her was, "What the hell are they thinking".  My friend was totally caught off guard, as they don't usually talk to each other.  I mean, we've known from the beginning that my IL's don't support us moving to SA, but really, this approach seems pretty childish and out of character for her.  She's a wealthy, educated woman that's normally pretty easy to get along with.  Then once in a while she does something like this and I'm just stunned.  My friend had a conversation with her and told her that we do indeed plan on moving and that while it's not her choice, she's still going to support me and be my friend.. and of course my MIL told her that I need to get a job again.  Gah, she needs to stop pushing that, we are NOT going to move to WI, live on a farm that they buy us, open a daycare (a way for me to pull in some money too) and live under their control.  We just aren't.  She watched the video of the new community and said that it looks super scary and that she's very scared for us.  I'm so confused about what is so scary about this?  Yes, it's an adventure, it's unknown, it's not what most people would do, but we really don't feel like we're putting ourselves in danger!  Geeeeesh, this doesn't make me feel warm and fussy toward them at all!  The video is below.  I guess if you think people with dreads are scary, than you might not want to watch this...  ;)

 

http://youtu.be/_fi8etTfODw

 

 

MY GOD ABRA!  Look at the HORROR of those happy smiling people, wearing babies, having dreadlocks, doing fun things!!  How can you even imagine living in such a happy place free from pretty much most of the crappiest things America has to offer?!?

 

Terrifying.

 

Me and DH talked about a switch in our...life path...I guess...a few days ago. Maybe moving somewhere. He works a job he doesnt like for good money.  So, is money worth not feeling fulfilled?  We talked about what he wanted to do and was passionate about, and how to get there.  And if I went to work part time if it made it possible for him to work from home so the kids would still be parented by us full time.  Its a lot to consider.  I love being a SAHM. But I also love trauma, and I love the ER, and I dont feel like me working would be the worst things ever.  SO, we might work towards downsizing our lives and seeing if we put the emphasis on doing what we love rather than what we need to do to have more things and do more stuff, how that will change us.

 

I dont know.  Complicated.  We are entering our 30's, and our 30's have the potential to be so much more awesome than our 20's.  We are like, grown ups.  Haha.  Our priorities have changed, 

post #27 of 125

Becky (24) Wife and SAHM to Michael (6), Casey (4), Levi (2) and expecting another in June. SAHM on Montana, blogger, runner, natural birth, breastfeeding and intactivism advocate. Looking to get my midwifery license sometime after the kiddos are a bit older.

 

 

post #28 of 125

Oh good LORD, what a piece of work, Abra. Thank goodness your hubby doesn't bend to her will. I don't think I could deal with that, especially if he listened to her every whim.

post #29 of 125
Emily was such a cute trick or treater, especially since she started doing a high pitched thank you, I wish I would have gotten it on video. When we got home she called her candy treats. We got way too much candy though, ugh.

I am waiting for the school to tell me DS is out for three weeks because of this whooping cough bs. Never mind that every case has been in vaccinated kids. Sending my kid home for almost a month isn't going to do a damn thing to stop it from spreading.

Abra, sorry about the crazy mil. I was just thinking I'm glad mine isn't like that, but then I remembered she did show her crazy when we moved. I can't imagine what would have happened if we moved to a different country.

Joanie, is your garage vented or do you leave the door open while running your dryer? As soon as it read that I immediately thought fire hazard. Just asked dh and he said putting lint and moisture into an enclosed area isn't a good idea. We use tide since it seems a lot of people have good results washing diapers with it. We have an he machine but it is a top loader.
post #30 of 125

First, for anyone that knows me, NEVER, EVER gossip about me to my best friend, she WILL tell me almost immediately, she can't keep her mouth shut.  Ha ha.

 

Thankfully, all of my family is pretty supportive about us moving.  My mom and her boyfriend are planning to come with us and my dad thinks we should live our lives however we want.  No, my dh does not bend to her will.  He takes his family's opinion into consideration, but we still do what we want.  He supports me first, which is the way it's supposed to be.  We haven't responded to her at all yet.  My dh said something like, "Wow, that was petty, let's just accept that they're worried about us and ignore their bad behavior".   He also added that it doesn't help him feel very close with his parents or like he wants to share any of our plans with them.  

 

Ash, From my experience, working a job that you hate for good money isn't worth it.  Eventually the person will get burnt out from years of being unhappy and explode.  Follow your dreams and do something that makes you all happy.  If having your dh start a business while you go back to work part time is the key, I say go for it!  You can always move to SA with us.  Wink, wink..

post #31 of 125

Melissa,  My MIL is usually like this either, she's had a few moments, but mostly she tries to be agreeable.  

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Subscribing. You guys have been busy today. LOL
post #33 of 125
Happy Birthday Shay and Greta!

We did a simple ToT, just to Grandpa's house (FIL), spent about an hour there, and then his neighbor. We tried to go to a friend's and to my SIL's but neither were home. Was still fun and I discovered something to talk with my FIL about-we like some of the same authors (cop mystery genre).

We use Arm and Hammer free and clear (or whatever the unscented one is called). It's not eco friendly but at least I don't get a migraine from scent. I had to do some laundry while on vacation and I still can't wear my favorite yoga pants because of the soap scent-they've been washed and I even hung them outside overnight. For my sweat stains I spray on Nature's Miracle, you know the stuff to clean up after pets (also works great when J pees on my floor and it's gotten blood out of my tan carpet). Not sure how "natural" it is but it works. I've also got a bar of Fels Naptha that I sometimes use on clothes, it works pretty well.

Abra-wow. I'm glad your family is supportive.

Ash-How scary on the reaction to coconut. It seems like working a job one doesn't like for good money is common in govt work. I know so many burnt out people working where I used to work because the money is so good. I'm glad I chose better work and more time with J over the job I had there even if financially it was a huge hit.
post #34 of 125
Oren was super gung-ho about TorTing. Lol. Torting. He loved it, ran the whole way. He didn't want to dress up though, which is hilarious because he spends every other day en costume.

The weather was perfect, warm and dry. Everyone just needed one extra layer under their costumes. My favourite part was that there was a roving band of teenagers handing out hot chocolate. So wholesome, right? No pumpkin smashing or candy stealing in my neighborhood!

Today is our gorge on candy day. And our choose your favourites and leave the rest for the Sugar Plum Fairy, who leaves a toy in return.
post #35 of 125

We also had our kids pick our their favorite candy and the rest will go with my mom to work.  My kids all chose to eat the popcorn and sunchips that they got first before the candy anyway..  Heh.

post #36 of 125
Oh, and laundry - we use Nellie's laundry soda, and baking soda as a booster. And vinegar in the rinse for stinky things. If I want a bit of extra scent on things, I put a moist cloth baby wipe with some EO in the dryer. I also use lavender sachets and our spare bars of handmade soap I'm my dresser drawers.

I wish the smell of the Ecos detergent didn't make me allergicky. So affordable!
post #37 of 125

Abra- I do remember having a similar conversation when your DH was having mental health problems, and you guys were thinking about downsizing dramatically and getting the bus.  You are right.  And Amber is right also.  It will just take some planning and preparing. 

 

Kirsten i meant to say earlier, your costume was fantastic.  Your make up was great!

 

And Amber, I don't remember where we left off with planning a meet-up. But did you have any day in mind you want to bounce off everyone and see if it works?

post #38 of 125
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I wish the smell of the Ecos detergent didn't make me allergicky. So affordable!

The free and clear?

post #39 of 125
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The free and clear?

The only kind available at Costco is the scented kind.  The scent is very mild imo and it's pretty much gone as soon as you put on the clothes.  It does have an odor though..

post #40 of 125
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The free and clear?

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The only kind available at Costco is the scented kind.  The scent is very mild imo and it's pretty much gone as soon as you put on the clothes.  It does have an odor though..

There's something about it that gives me headaches and an itchy nose and throat. I'm super sensitive to smells. sometimes even essential oils.
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