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MelW - not sure Jo wants to get her son reading french through "those" kinds of books twins.gif! But hey, it might work!
 

I thought about that after I posted. What I meant was that something light, entertaining and a "step back" from what he's capable of might make it more enjoyable. I'm pretty sure you don't want him reading smutty French books, right? :lol I bet there are some cool French graphic novels or something. My youngest sister read a lot of TinTin in French. 

 

Gaye joining the chorus of not inviting that kind of stress. A park or coffee shop or other situation where there's less pressure on you and on your son will probably make the whole situation easier. Even meeting them without your son for the first time might be wise. (In a strange reverse situation, my kids met my FIL's new girlfriend over the summer, and it was pretty confusing for my oldest at seven. She wasn't sure how much of a "grandma" she might be, and as a woman who doesn't have any kids it's not a natural role for her. All is good, but we really downplayed the relationship to keep it low pressure. Yes, she's his girlfriend, but she's not your grandparent..)

 

JayGee, sending lots of healing to your dad.

 

RR- Bootcamp tonight

 

NRR- Insert grumble about my partner's stress level here. 

post #142 of 305
So much I want to say, but posting from my phone is too clunky to quote and scroll back and forth.

Mel, when you mentioned that idea about the books, things like teen lit came to mind, but I really love the graphic novel idea!! Asterix and Obelix!

JG, I hope your dad feels better soon and you all get answers.



RR, 7 miles this am and 1k yards at lunch. I wish I could be more disciplined about fitting in workouts every day.
post #143 of 305
Well. there will be a turkey dinner, regardless. Because, you see, I have not yet cooked last year's thanksgiving turkey yet, so I had to pull that one out of the freezer in order to make room for this year's. bag.gif But, I think it might be best to just have it be me and DS and C...and maybe a couple of random friends if they're not busy. DS leaves for his dad's next Friday, so maybe we can do the parental meet and greet next weekend. They all leave for Mexico that Tuesday, though, so not a whole lot of time to spare, unless I actually am going to meet them IN Mexico, which...yeah. Not my preference. orngtongue.gif

I've been desperately hoping for release from work tonight, but it is so not going to happen. I'm holding out a slim amount of hope for possibly getting to go home early, but probably not.
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JayGee - I'm sorry about your father, I'm sending prayers his way.

 

Gaye - Speaking as one who has never lived within easy visiting distance of parents or ILs, would it really be so bad to meet them in Mexico?  Everyone will be in a good mood, the weather will be delightful, the IM will be the obvious conversational center point and everyone will look snazzy and relaxed with a margarita in hand (and no driving anywhere later!)

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Gaye, yeah, I think I'd be okay meeting in Mexico for the first time - very informal, fun, etc. Good luck with the turkey! smile.gif

JG, thinking about your dad... goodvibes.gif

Sparkle, um, thanks for the link. I just spent about 2 hours reading, researching and following every little rabbit hole thereafter. lol.gif Another option is to get my masters in library science and return to school as a librarian. But I don't know. I'm boring.

Counseling was really good. It must've been an especially good release for him bc he's so talkative now. I, however, am still so annoyed. And resentful. About so much stuff that wasn't brought up b/c I just didn't want to "rush" the counselor and therefore I left a bit relieved yet still frustrated. Sigh. Better is good, right?

Then I drove 2 hours to my mom's b/c I just feel emotionally battered. And my mom's house is all lounge-y comfy relaxing. Nothing is expected of me and they are so completely happy with anything I do. So it's a really nice kind of easy.

I know I'm missing some comments. Blame it on the rabbit trail. smile.gif

eta: Since you are so obviously good at life-coaching, I'll tell you my other passion besides libraries: religious studies, theology. I have a half-dozen research ideas going through my head at any given moment, none of which have been done, as far as I know. Religion, theology, cross-cultural identity, linguistics, semantics. These are things I think about all the time. I think I have really good thesis ideas. Not really a money-maker or great job field, though, right?
Edited by loftmama - 11/15/13 at 7:27pm
post #146 of 305

Gaye, Plady makes an excellent point about the IM and meeting there. Might not be the worst.

 

JayGee, I hope the docs can arrest this strange cascade of problems, and that your Dad is soon on his way back to normal in no time.

 

RM, glad you are feeling better, and hopeful that the graft heals well on ds.

 

MelW and Mel38, LOL, I did download some classics in French, and I think we can struggle through some reading, with the right attitude. Thinking Arabian Nights or Alice in Wonderland, and maybe he'll get to the smut on his own. In about ten years. :twins Looking at my college transcripts, I only had one semester of French. So I am frankly a little proud of what I have been able to do with it. I don't always suck.

 

Lofty, I am feeling your bewilderment in that combination of passion and diffusion. I could see it channeled in an MA/PhD in lit, but certainly religion/history could provide similar fuel for your fire? Hard to think about it.

 

I am absolutely knee-deep right now in the application process, and I think I have settled on the decision to also apply to low-res programs to hedge my bets. Given the experience of the past few weeks, and the ignition of passion just in turning on my laptop and firing up Word, I know I could do good work even in a low-res situation. And that wouldn't require the dismantling of my family. Of course, it would require $35-50K plus travel expenses over two years. The kids would return to classrooms either way, so the next step will be applying for local school (not fun, recommendations, the whole deal), just in case.

 

Meantime, I also have to write a lit analysis for a TA-ship app, and while it is hard to find the time for focus between everything else, OMG I love this stuff. Reading Kafka (in German, too!) again and revisiting symbols and allegory. I don't have digital copies of old work and it is frankly easier to write from scratch than to send my parents to the attic in hopes they might find the right paper. Anyway, it goes on. I have completed on application, should have one more done this week, then after my transcript comes in the mail, I will wrap these up and hope I don't bomb the GRE. Lofty, like you said, doable but I should study. I am intuitive with math and a pretty good gamer on standardized tests, but anything could happen. Ugh. Anyway, life goes on.

 

RR: rode bike yesterday AM with dh in a sandstorm. It was not just hard, it was dumb--my breathing suffered the rest of the day, and my eyes are threatening to grow those beautiful chalazia again. Always when the sand comes in from Kuwait. Weird. Also walked about 5 miles with dh.

post #147 of 305
bec--R liked the jogger again at 4 and even more at 5, though I think 5 had to do with J's arrival. I'm guessing it will still get some use for the next couple of years, especially if we do running school pick-ups in the spring again. My kids are small and light which helps matters, of course.

JayGee--yes, on how difficult it is to watch your parents age. My parents are fine, knock on wood, but the grandfather of one of R's classmates died Wednesday night, unexpectedly. He or her grandmother were often waiting to pick her up after school, so they talked about it in class and made her a sort of condolence gift. greensad.gif Her older sister is at Outdoor Lab this week (6th graders spend a week in the mountains, so I feel really badly for her. I don't know if she decided to come back early or not.

Plady--here's goodvibes.gif for moisturized hands and memory! Glad to hear the rehearsals are going well and hope it's a fluke in all of the good ways.

lofty--I'd like to teach at the university level as well! Oh wait.... lol.gif Seriously though, if you have a master's degree that would allow you to teach though mostly at community colleges and perhaps smaller local ones. You may be in a location that has ample opportunities too. I know the whole field is overpopulated now, but my situation isn't helped by the fact that DH is tenured so any job I want needs to be in the area--and most of those are state-funded (barely) with more budget cuts ahead. Working as a librarian, however, would be lovely. I worked in a library in high school and during my undergrad years and it was awesome. It still appeals to me, largely because it's quiet and because a place for everything and everything in its place kind of job would suit me well. But I have enough degrees at the current time and none translate to that kind of work.

I'm still moving forward on the jobs front, if slowly. I learned yesterday that our church synod has a regional office that does public policy work concerning state legislation if it relates to church policies on social positions (largely social justice-related kind of things). They have an opening and that also would be a great fit, except that it's also the kind of position where "full-time" means more than 40 hours and not a lot of telecommuting. But maybe when the kids are bigger. (Is this where I admit that I'm a terrible person at a party, because I love to talk politics and religion? I find it so odd that most people want to steer away from those topics.)
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It's a limited mojo week. I did a ton of stuff for our school's Holiday Shop on Thursday, including setting up the display case and filling out 540 flyers with the date and time and counting them out for each class for today's Friday folders. (I'm running it this year and probably every year to come until J heads to middle school. Which is fine because I really like retail during the holidays. If the store is managed properly, the customers are happy and it's a great time.) But I haven't run since Tuesday and I think I'm going to regret that soon. Hopefully I really will pound out the miles this weekend, come what may. I did a 30-minute core workout last night and keep pretending that's good enough. Maybe I'll still do one tonight too. My abs could use it.
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I haven't looked recently, but a few years ago heard from a librarian acquaintance that library jobs are hard to find and there are an abundance of MLS grads.

Bootcamp was terrific and my oldest joined us for a cross-fit style workout. She kicked my butt on burpees and pull-ups. We also made it to an art opening fundraiser for the community forest on the way home. Now bed, with prenatal class and a contra dance that my kids (yep, even the little one will join in for one fiddle song!) are playing tomorrow evening.
post #149 of 305
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JG - Any news? Is he IN the hospital? Did he go home after the fall, with the O2, and then return b/c of new symptoms? Maybe something else started after he was in the hospital for the fall (especially if he picked up C. Diff. there, maybe some upper respiratory bug too, which would account for the coughing and fever). I hope things are improving and that they are figuring it out goodvibes.gif Im so sorry

Jo - wow. The passion and plans sound exciting

Mamajb - goodvibes.gif to you mama!! Something about this year; so many friends have had just a miserable year. I hope your struggles are solvable with time. I hope you are finding something to support you through it. Im thinking of you

Real - its hard not to tell you to TAKE THAT JOB lol.gif It sounds so perfect. I too love a good religious/political discussion, but rarely engage b/c I know others dont. My in-laws especially redface.gif

Lofty - Small steps. Frustrating that you had to lead this charge and he's the one seeming to feel better for it? irked.gif At least its a door opened, that hopefully will lead to the two of you able to have a healthy conversation at home without the 3rd party.

NRR: So much for that enthusiasm. I cant get the previous M.A., due to an arbitrary protocol issue, which makes me irked.gif Not surprised, but deflated and irked nonetheless greensad.gif Also, dh and I went through our budget with one private school tuition and yeah, that dream may be just a dream. We are very conservative financially, so we have a lot going to various funds (retirement, disability, college, etc), but holy cow it takes away a lot. And then taxes yikes2.gif omg. Anyway, we are very lucky to even be able to consider it and will be lucky to be able to struggle to make it happen. But, yeah, hello unpleasant reality in one afternoon. And of course I feel like the obvious thing is for me to get a j.o.b., whether Im interested in whatever it is or not ... first world problems, I know, but a downer ....

edited to add: I meant "Real" not "RM" redface.gif
Edited by sparkletruck - 11/16/13 at 8:23am
post #150 of 305

Just popping in here to let you know I am so grateful to be a Dingo  :grouphug  and I will check in with you all later today. 

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JG - Any news? Is he IN the hospital? Did he go home after the fall, with the O2, and then return b/c of new symptoms? Maybe something else started after he was in the hospital for the fall (especially if he picked up C. Diff. there, maybe some upper respiratory bug too, which would account for the coughing and fever). I hope things are improving and that they are figuring it out goodvibes.gif Im so sorry

Jo - wow. The passion and plans sound exciting

Mamajb - goodvibes.gif to you mama!! Something about this year; so many friends have had just a miserable year. I hope your struggles are solvable with time. I hope you are finding something to support you through it. Im thinking of you

RM - its hard not to tell you to TAKE THAT JOB lol.gif It sounds so perfect. I too love a good religious/political discussion, but rarely engage b/c I know others dont. My in-laws especially redface.gif

Lofty - Small steps. Frustrating that you had to lead this charge and he's the one seeming to feel better for it? irked.gif At least its a door opened, that hopefully will lead to the two of you able to have a healthy conversation at home without the 3rd party.

NRR: So much for that enthusiasm. I cant get the previous M.A., due to an arbitrary protocol issue, which makes me irked.gif Not surprised, but deflated and irked nonetheless greensad.gif Also, dh and I went through our budget with one private school tuition and yeah, that dream may be just a dream. We are very conservative financially, so we have a lot going to various funds (retirement, disability, college, etc), but holy cow it takes away a lot. And then taxes yikes2.gif omg. Anyway, we are very lucky to even be able to consider it and will be lucky to be able to struggle to make it happen. But, yeah, hello unpleasant reality in one afternoon. And of course I feel like the obvious thing is for me to get a j.o.b., whether Im interested in whatever it is or not ... first world problems, I know, but a downer ....

Just nodding and "yeah that"ing with all of the above.  I'm sorry about the bummer news about the no easy M.A. Though I guess it can't be a surprise.  Dh and I just began to discuss sending C to the local private school here for middle school.  They are supposedly pretty accommodating to island families and the class sizes are terrific.  I have noticed that the behavioral and attitudinal differences between their kids and the public school kids is like night and day too.  But we'll have to see what the bottom line is.  I'm hoping that it's low enough.

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Wow, Plady, my whole post loveeyes.gif

Ok, so Im gonna gripe for just a sec: the deal with the old MA is that the courses dont count after 7 years. However, as I noted to the woman, they would count if I were applying for a PhD? In other words, I would somehow have some intellectual props if I were applying for another degree, but the courses are outdated and I must not know anything if I want to submit a paper (um, that shows that I know something!) And the ONLY difference between the 2 is a 20 page paper! It kills me. Fine, coulda shoulda, (as I told Dh last night; I never should have followed you to med school bag.giflol.gif) but still irked.gif


As for the private school, omg I want to go there! Maybe I should go back and get my high school degree again lol.gif It has an amazing curriculum that does not, interestingly enough, include AP coursework. The director of the school called us yesterday to ask if we had any more questions and I asked him about this and we ended up having a long conversation about educational theory and policy (apparently, colleges are starting to not take AP credit, Dartmouth for one). So fun, and made me want a job at that school. What the school does instead is 3 theses; in 10th, 11th and 12th, building in challenge, so that by the final one, you write a 30 page paper that you have to defend in front of the staff and your peers in the auditorium! They also have a really well thought out STEM curriculum to address keeping girls in STEM studies, and the school has a statistically very high rate of girls in advanced level science/math courses. The one comment DD1 made after her shadow day was "how do I get into the advanced math class? My buddy was in the advanced class and it was FUN", so I asked the director about it and we ended up talking a lot about women in STEM and he referenced that NYT article, and other sources Im familiar with as if he assumed I would know about them already, which I liked. Maybe we could put our kids there for middle school, where I would hope that they (especially DD1, as she is the one who most needs self-possession to realize all her skills/abilities/potential) would build confidence and cultivate self-directed learning, and then put them in the public high school in our district, which does offer a full AP line-up, and does turn out very successful students (at least in the limited sense of students who go on to competitive colleges) ....

Anyway Plady, I get it ... Le sigh
Edited by sparkletruck - 11/16/13 at 8:43am
post #153 of 305
Shanti, hug.gif Glad to see your hello!

Jo, good luck with those apps and that test! I am really excited and inspired by you! thumb.gif

Real, yes:
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Is this where I admit that I'm a terrible person at a party, because I love to talk politics and religion? I find it so odd that most people want to steer away from those topics.
This makes me want to say I love you. I could do this on and on and on and on ad nauseum. I think it's why I tend to stick to the periphery where I live but really long to be right smack in the middle, just listening and taking it all in. It's also why I'm so grateful to have accidentally found it in Austin and to long for it again. loveeyes.gif I like the job description and it sounds like a good fit. I wonder if they'd consider modifying the position to part-time for the right person.

MelW, yes those jobs are hard to find and don't pay well. Have fun tonight!

MammaJB, hug.gif

Plady, curious about the private school.

Sparkle, that school sounds really awesome - and like a fun place to teach! I'm sorry about the hours not transferring for the MA. I guess that will probably be the case for mine since I was pregnant with ds1 when I was last in grad school. I le sigh with you.

Fabulous day spent bopping around town with my parents. It's cliche but it totally restores my soul. We didn't do anything but boring errands but they are such peaceful people. I think my kids and I crave this kind of peace more than anything else. Boring. Steady. Monotonous. Predictable. Content. And absolutely pleasant. Why can't I make the rest of my life like this? (I've been thinking about buying this book and this book and this book and this book. Anyone have experience with these books, feel free to pm me.)
post #154 of 305
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As for the private school, omg I want to go there! Maybe I should go back and get my high school degree again lol.gif It has an amazing curriculum that does not, interestingly enough, include AP coursework. The director of the school called us yesterday to ask if we had any more questions and I asked him about this and we ended up having a long conversation about educational theory and policy (apparently, colleges are starting to not take AP credit, Dartmouth for one). So fun, and made me want a job at that school. What the school does instead is 3 theses; in 10th, 11th and 12th, building in challenge, so that by the final one, you write a 30 page paper that you have to defend in front of the staff and your peers in the auditorium! They also have a really well thought out STEM curriculum to address keeping girls in STEM studies, and the school has a statistically very high rate of girls in advanced level science/math courses. The one comment DD1 made after her shadow day was "how do I get into the advanced math class? My buddy was in the advanced class and it was FUN", so I asked the director about it and we ended up talking a lot about women in STEM and he referenced that NYT article, and other sources Im familiar with as if he assumed I would know about them already, which I liked. Maybe we could put our kids there for middle school, where I would hope that they (especially DD1, as she is the one who most needs self-possession to realize all her skills/abilities/potential) would build confidence and cultivate self-directed learning, and then put them in the public high school in our district, which does offer a full AP line-up, and does turn out very successful students (at least in the limited sense of students who go on to competitive colleges) ....

Anyway Plady, I get it ... Le sigh

 

Sparkle, are they looking for teachers by any chance?

 

I'm actually not really kidding (that much). I would give anything to work in a place like that, in a relatively warm climate, near friends I love. 

 

Springfield, MA was just voted the top worst city to live in in the nation. Yeah. I have friends here, thank G-d. Otherwise...just, no.

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Nic - omg that would the best lol.gif In fact, the director ended up (in our winding conversation) describing the course he co-teaches with a history PhD on international relations, which includes a huge chunk on the middle east, and comparative religion. Plus, there is a Jewish presence here; two synagogues in my neighborhood and a new Jewish cafe in our funky little university district (serves Challah french toast my kids are dying to try lol.gif) and many of my close friends are Jewish, although I havent seen any Orthodox (not that you are seriously coming, but just putting it out there winky.gif) I actually know someone who teaches English at the school, and happened to see him at a kid bday party the weekend before we went for our observation. He's from upstate NY and taught in Vermont for a long time at Breadloaf (which happens to be where the director of the middle school got her MA too shrug.gif). They both moved here for the job. Now we just need to convince JG's dh to come here for the airforce ROTFLMAO.gif

Oh, and did I mention, we have one of the highest number of sunny days in the country (not kidding, one of the reasons we it on the residency match list bag.gif). Not warm, but blue and sunny loveeyes.gif
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I don't know, Sparkle, it sounds pretty good to me. Maybe I could at least come out for an interview. You know, for a job. Not just a visit or anything. :innocent

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sparkle--I know what you mean about the job, but it would wreak havoc on our lives during the spring legislative session. Ten years from now, something along those lines should be quite feasible. On the MA--I hear you and I also wonder if there might be a strong benefit in taking those doctoral courses anyhow. I could have applied my M.Mus. to reduce my coursework but the knowledge base required for comps was huge. We all took a full two years and then a couple more. Even with all those courses I still ended up studying the entire romantic era on my own because no one had offered a graduate-level course on that era. Our comps were nothing to be trifled with, and the fact that a woman failed her comps during my first year really drove that point home. But if you don't have comps, that changes the picture.

lofty--I love you too. It's nice to know I'm not the only one! Based on your comments about peaceful and pleasant, maybe you should see what the market is for librarians in your area. I've heard the degrees are relatively low-cost and if there are jobs, then yes! Also, no experience with the books, but at work we discussed a co-worker whom we'd diagnosed with that issue. Said co-worker is chair of the department again this year. And reportedly divorced two or three times. Need I say more?

Nic--and if you were in NM, tjsmama and I would have to come down for a meet-up. The number of sunny days is important too. It's one of the reasons I don't think I'd leave Colorado, which also advertises the number of sunny days (more than 300 ever year!). But seriously, that sun, even on cold days, does a lot for one's soul.

RR: 6 as the sun was beginning to set. I've been very twitchy running when it gets dark but the only thing I was concerned about tonight was coyotes. So, that's an improvement. The full moon was bright enough to cast shadows, which helped a lot.
post #158 of 305
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Originally Posted by Realrellim View Post The number of sunny days is important too. It's one of the reasons I don't think I'd leave Colorado, which also advertises the number of sunny days (more than 300 ever year!). But seriously, that sun, even on cold days, does a lot for one's soul.

Yes. YES. YES!!!! (blue skies do wonders).

 

Coursework: yes, if your classes are expiring (7 is a usual number), there are lots of benefits in taking classes, especially after 7 years.  There comes a point where you take too many classes and that becomes counter productive. There's a sweet spot there someplace.

 

I'm headed off to the office here momentarily, I think. Need to take off my pjs. It's been a busy few weeks/months at work. This is my own doing.

And also Gaye and Real: family reunion in Breckenridge July 15-19.  See you guys 2 x in one year! 

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Good Morning!

lofty - the library thing is my dream too! I've done some research into MLS programs and job opportunities. At least around here, school jobs are scarce due to budget issues, but other library jobs are relatively plentiful. Good luck whichever way you go!

Real - I'd ask about part-time or job-sharing at that job. It sounds perfect for you. And I love to talk about both politics and religion! Oh, and education!

sparkle - how I wish I could talk DH into that! The private school you describe sounds AMAZING! As for my Dad, he went into the hospital with the head injury for 2 days, got sent home, and the next morning his pulse ox was in the low 80s, so my Mom brought him back to the hospital. After that it was downhill. I did talk to him yesterday and he was doing a lot better, so hopefully they'll move him to the rehab floor soon. He's very weak and can't even walk right now. Tests cam back negative for C.Diff. though, so that's good.

Nic - can't hurt to look into the school in NM, can it?!

lofty - so glad you had such a rejuvenating day with your parents!

NRR - my poopin' cat has disappeared! DH put him outside Friday afternoon around 5:00, but we haven't seen him since then. He's NEVER been away from the back porch for more than 20 or 30 minutes and then he usually just hangs out on the patio or in his spot in the weeds where the woods start. DH and I looked everywhere for him yesterday and no signs of him at all. Even though he's a pain and the pooping is driving me crazy, I've had him for 12 1/2 years and he's my cuddly, purry boy who will plant himself on my lap as soon as I sit down. I hope he comes home, but I'm honestly not optimistic. He's never even left the yard.

RR - still really congested and coughing, but I think I'll brave a walk today.
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JayGee, neg for C.diff is good news. I hope he's back on the mend soon. Also that kitty is OK. Wonder whether the pooping may have had to do with a backyard lurker, and he chased it off? I hope he's home soon.

 

Nic...do it...DO IT...That sky sparkle speaks of? It is so blue.

 

And I am all :lurkon the school talk. Looks like mine are going to school next fall, here or there, and I am not even going to shop around here. Most are such a waste. The one we are looking at has an IB option for HS. Thoughts on IB, you smart ladies?

 

Planned run turned into a visa run to Oman today. And now we're in the middle of a sandstorm. My eyes are all bigeyes.gif and chewing sand is no fun.

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