I agree with the perfume smells! It really annoys me.
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I don't even like it when my DF's scents get on her, although his aftershave doesn't leave nearly as strong or as lasting of an imprint as grandparents' thick smells. I can just wait out DF's smell-rub-off and it goes away shortly, but seems like anyone from the older generation and it's just not coming out without the total rinse/new clothes routine.
Serena, we are wondering if her skin will darken too. It will be fun to see what she looks like as she grows up.
Mrsandmrs, almost all my family has moved to the Seattle/Tacoma area. It rains too much for me. But i like that it never gets super hot. The library might have story time which might be a good rainy day activity. Its hard figuring out stuff to do with my little one. There is only so many times a week i can walk around target or IKEA.
LOL, ladies, you crack me up!
I wish we had an IKEA here, though I'd probably spend way too much time and money there if we had one closer. As it is we have a 6 hour drive to Denver for the nearest one and we tend to go once, maybe twice a year if I'm up there for cont. ed.
I get you though, OceanSolitude, being a FTM I have no idea what I'm supposed to be doing with my baby and I have so much doubt/fear/anxiety about whether I'm doing the right thing. Am I interacting enough with him during quiet alert time? Am I feeding him enough? Etc., etc. I think the hard part is that right now it's such a thankless job: the baby only lets you know when he's unhappy, not many smiles yet, and certainly no thank you's.
Serena, the Internet will hook you up with lots o good info on girl's afro textured hair if Liv turns out to have that type of hair.
I am black, my DH is not, and I have found many good resources on managing hair on the web (I had my hair straightened for years, until I went natural, and had no idea how to manage it).
The most important thing is to be positive about her hair, whatever it ends up like.
My DD is 5, and the spitting image of her dad. When she was born she was rather fair-skinned, but she now has a warm golden complexion.
Never mind that to do also she invaded the privacy of my bedroom, and only returned him (and woke me up) when he was so desperate for food he couldn't even be changed at that point. She took the baby!
I do not care how good your intentions are ir whatever, you do not ever take a baby from. His mother. Ever.
They're leaving tomorrow, so I'm wondering how big a deal to make out of this, specially since I'm not very confrontational in Person.
Next time, lock the door, and anytime she 'takes the baby' you let her know that she is allowed to have the baby until he is clearly not content, or until you ask for him back, whichever comes first. You don't need to discuss your feelings, but you can lay down pretty pointed ground rules in your own home, and not be shy in leaving the room, shutting and locking doors, etc, in order to get the privacy you need, and that should definitely make the situation crystal clear to MIL that there are boundaries she will not be crossing, period.
chispita - I would freak. Seriously. In my addled sleep state I would have said something harsh, I know it.
serena76 - I second cmu's advice on getting hair advice from the internet. All of my kids are white, but my eldest has DH's super curly hair and I put her through some hell before I found the right combination of hair products and styling techniques. No more tangles now!
Weight loss (or rather, the lack thereof) is bringing me down. I am STUCK at 197. I need to at least get to my prepregnancy weight of 178, which is still a daunting 20 pounds to go for someone who doesn't see the scale budge at all. I bought new size 12 pants to wear until I get back down into my 10s. Shirts are a joke, as anything that fits over my breasts now exposes my midriff. I need to find a store that sells nothing but fitted tunics. Maybe I could wear a normal-looking shirt again. I went to the thrift shop and just bought men's t-shirts instead; at least they're long enough.
River, on the other hand, is acing his weight gains. He has doubled his birth weight at 8 weeks, and is now 16 pounds and change. I'll have a more official amount at his appointment on Friday.
Our home purchase (short sale) just got bank approved. Our scheduled close date is December 30, though that could change to January.
I'm working on Christmas presents for now. Almost done!
and now they're (finally) gone. Looking forward to seeing how I deal all by myself, which is also a bit scary, but now that Cailan is less colicky I'm hoping the worse that can happen is that I'll get bored.
I completely agree about people leaving their scents on baby. It is also my ILs who do it the most! I always ask my husband to tell them not to wear any scents when visiting but he won't do it. I don't know what's worse, the perfume or aftershave. I gave Oliver a bath as soon as they left last week!
Wow I cannot believe what I'm reading re: MIL! I would have lost my sh*t.
This is my first babe and I'm already feeling a little tongue-bitey about my MIL who has somewhat different views on parenting a newborn. She has raised 6 kids so she certainly knows her stuff, and is a great mom, but she is a huge fan of putting baby on a schedule early on whereas I am more of the "follow my baby's cues and feed her when she wants it" mindset. Hardest thing so far has been seeing my baby girl crying while her Grandma is holding her and knowing that nursing would soothe her but Grandma wants to soothe her without nursing. I've definitely cut in a few times to take her but it's hard to watch her fuss longer than I would normally let her if it were just the two of us. To be clear, my daughter is only 5 weeks old, so certainly too young to be considered spoiled for being picked up/nursed when fussy, in my opinion!
Laughing at the perfume convo too. I hadn't thought about that pre-baby until my Mom came to visit and I noticed my daughter reeked of Estee Lauder - Beautiful every time she was returned to me. Yuck! She didn't seem to mind, which is surprising coming from a baby that screamed bloody murder when we walked past a stinky Sephora. This is totally gross I know but I feel guilty even wearing deodorant around my girl because her nose is so close to the armpit while nursing. So thanks to postpartum hormones I basically stink all day everyday, even after a shower. Glamorous!
dakipode - I feel a lot of that doubt about whether or not I am doing the 'right' thing, too. I have found it gets compounded by the foggy-brain from lack of sleep, where I find myself forgetting basic things that I think I should be doing... so much more mentally and physically exhausting than I ever imagined! Worth it of course, but sometimes I feel I need to have a little chart on the wall "Fussy baby? Did you try: nursing? diapering? burping? too hot? too cold? gassy? tired? overstimulated? not stimulated enough?" Ha!
For example... My gums are swollen and now I'm almost 100% sure I'm going to lose another tooth. It. Hurts. I'm starving and not eating well because it hurts. Not good. My dental issues are nothing new but nursing round the clock while trying to heal from an extraction will be challenging. Especially since my asshole (scuse the cursing) hormones are causing me alot of insomnia, mood swings, extra fatigue, headaches, nausea.
Then the gut issues. I'm not eating well. Completly gave up on gluten free and dairy free (she vomited all damn day today) but did cut way down. Am dealing with fussy times that last until 3am some nights. Not at all others. Huh? My first DD was like clockwork with that. This one is all over the place. I'm sort of afraid to leave the house! My weight. Ugh. I'm not weighing myself regularly but know I'm not losing anything. How it's possible to not lose weight with the amount of running around I do is a friggin mystery! Like I work up a sweat every day. My muscles are sore. I bought bigger clothes, they look so weird. The are big every where except for my belly. I still really look pregnant. Anyone else?
Oh me oh my I love the baby coos and general content! She's so cute. Huge smiles for me and esp. her big sis! She's already 11 pounds ladies! 11! She's in the 50% for everything. It's crazy because she was born at the lowest percentile. I'm really happy about that. She's just over 2 months. 10 weeks I believe.
Her sister is a mess. We are really struggling with balance. We got the sleep stuff figured out. Thanks to daylight savings ending she goes to bed at the same time DH does. He complains but puts her to sleep most nights. She's driving me insane with the crap behavior right now. Hitting, throwing, tantrums, running away from me. Ooh. It's hard. But overall things are really going well.
I however will NOT be having ANY more babies, thankyouverymuch.
Oh and on that note... Anyone practice fertility awareness method? I did before this baby and it works. Going to do it again but will be extra careful since I'm trying to be done procreating. I guess if it happens it's not the end of the world...
I've tried that fertility awareness method- and got pregnant immediately. I can apparently conceive on any day of my cycle. So I can't recommend it. I do however recommend a copper iud, no hormones. it's the only thing that works for me with no weight gain or other hormonal side effects, except of course condoms.
I asked my Dr about getting another iud but she said I need to give my uterus more time to recover so that won't be an option at my postpartum checkup. We bought some condoms. Goody.