dakipode - I feel a lot of that doubt about whether or not I am doing the 'right' thing, too. I have found it gets compounded by the foggy-brain from lack of sleep, where I find myself forgetting basic things that I think I should be doing... so much more mentally and physically exhausting than I ever imagined! Worth it of course, but sometimes I feel I need to have a little chart on the wall "Fussy baby? Did you try: nursing? diapering? burping? too hot? too cold? gassy? tired? overstimulated? not stimulated enough?" Ha!
I need your chart!
On the birth control issue: DH and I will be using condoms. I can't use hormone pills, they just mess with me too much and DH didn't seem to mind the condoms. We used them religiously for the 10 years we were together before conceiving and never had any accidents. In theory I like the idea of FAM, that's what we used TTC, but I just don't want to risk getting pregnant since DH has made it very clear one child is it for us. I think he may eventually decide on a vasectomy but we haven't talked about it and if he brought it up now I would tell/ask him to wait at least a year, you never know, he might change his mind. (Then again I wouldn't mind adopting the next one)