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November 2013 Chat Thread

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Welcome to November's Chat Thread!


Due December 1-10

Anablis
EDD: 12-6, Baby Boy: Axel
So this is my info for the first thread: I'm 35+1 weeks pregnant, due 12/6 (I'm sure he will arrive early though), first child, pregnant with a baby boy named Axel. Married for 3 years to a man that I love deeply and spoils me to no end. I work with my sister, we have a business that we inherited from our father, so we manage it and make it grow. I'm building a new home, and it gets me as anxious as excited, I live in an apartment right now and I can't wait to have a back yard to fill with plants.

 

Hoda (Lilykay)

EDD: 12-6; Baby Boy

I'm Hoda and I'm a Lebanese girl living with my German partner in a lovely smallish German city on the Dutch border. We have the (IMHO) cutest 3 year old daughter, who looks like her Papa but has my temper :D. Now we're waiting for Baby Boy (Official due date Nov. 30, calculated Dec. 7). Our small family can be a bit confusing (3 languages are spoken and we each come from completely different backgrounds/culture) but it - thankfully - works. We both work as engineers but I daydream a lot of doing something completely different though I'm not sure what. 

 

Breanna (missbrea)
EDD: 12-10; Baby Boy
I'm Breanna, and I'm expecting my first baby Dec 10.  According to the ultrasound, I'm expecting a little boy. We don't have a name picked out yet, because my husband is very indecisive and insists that since I got to pick the baby's existence, he gets to pick the name :).  We're living in Texas for his work, but our hearts are in the Pacific Northwest, where we hope to return before this kid has much awareness of geography.  I'm already a full-time homemaker, and I'm very excited to become a mother.



Due December 10-20

Michelle (michelleepotter)
EDD: 12-12 (but expected 12-26), Baby Girl: Roisin Marie
Geek with Social Anxiety Disorder married to an outgoing, punk-rock nerd. Also stay-at-homeschooling-momma to Aryanna (15), Aoghdan (14), Seamus (11), Hamish (10), Sinead (8), Aisling (6), and Diarmuid (5). Roisin is our last-minute, let's-have-one-more baby before we're done. smile.gif

Kali (KaliShanti)
EDD: 12-13, Baby Girl: Zephyr Haven Verity
I am a Birth Doula, Photographer, Wife of 10 years to Joel, Mother to Tor (6.5), Zion (4) and Enoch (2). I homeschool, part time cloth diaper, homebirth, spend too much time reading, love the Lord, am quite introverted, enjoy singing and theatre, and think I'm part-elvish.

 

Taryn (Taryn237)

EDD: 12-18, Baby Girl: Linnea Marie

I'm Taryn, due 12/18 with baby #4, a girl, Linnea Marie. Married for ten years with three kids, boy 7, girl 4.5, girl 2.5. I'm a sahm, conservative Catholic, breastfeed until 2ish, and other crunchy attachment parenting stuff. I'm hoping to be an ibclc someday. Right now I have an Etsy shop (speckledsunshine) where I sell custom painted plates.

Carla (lilacvioletiris)
EDD 12-19, Twin Boys: William Ernest and Edward Ronald
Science, math, and technology lover and educator (37) married since 7/10 to DH (42) who is a machinist - tool and die maker. These boys are our first children and we are so excited to have them join our family after initially being told that DH had no sperm and we would have no chance of biological children. God and medical science made these babies possible. I truly believe in miracles and I can't wait to meet these two little boys. Looking forward to raising them to be God loving men.

Due December 20-31

Jenny (mataji4)
EDD: 12-25, Baby Boy
I'm Jenny, married for 17 years to my husband Koeby; I teach preschool in our home and he teaches middle school.  We have five kids- Karan (14), Fiona (12), Bodhi (9), Bjorn (6), and Devon (3), and we're due with another boy (our surprise baby) on Christmas Day!  Kids were all born at home, the last two unassisted.  I nurse til 2ish, we cloth diaper, no vaccinations; we're sort of old fashioned in the way we parent.

Lida (Lidamama84)
EDD: 12-26
, Baby Boy
I'm Lida, due with our first boy (third baby) on December 26. We live in cold Canada and we are pretty mainstream. We CD for the most part, breastfeed until toddlerhood, cosleep and attachment parent...ok, so maybe we are not super mainstream...more middle of the road, "do what works for us" people. We live in a largish city and are total suburbanites. I'm a public servant and my DH works in the car business. I like to decorate, organize, read and craft when I have time.
 

Trish (TrishWSU)
EDD: 12-30
, Baby Girl: Amelia
I'm Trish, due 12/30 with baby #4, although this is technically only my second child as babies 2 & 3 were surrogate babies. This is the first baby together for my DP and I, but together we have two DDs ages 10 (mine) and 7 (his). and this one is also a girl. We've been able to agree on Amelia as a first name but we're still undecided on a middle name. I've had a homebirth, unassisted home waterbirth, and a mw-attended home waterbirth. Right now I have a midwife and plan another home waterbirth, but I may just decide to wait "too long" to call her for the actual birth :) I consider myself fairly crunchy and AP-exclusively breastfeed, cloth diaper (I even sew them myself :wink), baby wear, but I'm undecided about bed sharing with this one. She'll definitely be in our room, but I never slept well with DD in bed with me. Right now I work as a server but I neither work very much nor make much money so we don't know if I'll go back to work after. I'd love to be a sahm until she's at least 6 months, then get something part time while the older kids are in school.

 

Sarah (crazykittymomma)
EDD: 12/30, Baby Girl: Kira Carolyn
Geek, cat lady, vegetarian, atheist, homebody and wife to a work at home husband, Nathan. Mom to Vala (4.5) and Anya (2).


Edited by KaliShanti - 11/4/13 at 3:08pm
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Michelle (michelleepotter)
EDD: 12-12 (but expected 12-26), Baby Girl: Roisin Marie
Geek with Social Anxiety Disorder married to an outgoing, punk-rock nerd. Also stay-at-homeschooling-momma to Aryanna (15), Aoghdan (14), Seamus (11), Hamish (10), Sinead (8), Aisling (6), and Diarmuid (5). Roisin is our last-minute, let's-have-one-more baby before we're done. smile.gif

And, not for the intros post, but I really wanted to share this pic of the Halloween shirts I made for DH and myself. I'm so super proud of them, because I think it's the first time I've ever made something like this and had it come out well! orngbiggrin.gif

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I'm Lida, due with our first boy (third baby) on Decmber 26. We live in cold Canada and we are pretty mainstream. We CD for the most part, breastfeed until toddlerhood, cosleep and attachment parent...ok, so maybe we are not super mainstream...more middle of the road, "do what works for us" people. We live in a largish city and are total suburbanites. I'm a public servant and my DH works in the car business. I like to decorate, organize, read and craft when I have time.

So, lice saga part 2: my dh checked me last night too and said he saw eggs, so I did the chemical treatment, and rubbed tea tree oil all over my toddler's scalp and combed out her hair as a prevention. Did not find anything. I thought I may have seen something tonight when I did it again, but not sure. I will for sure be doing a spray mixture to mist their hair with TTO and blowdry every other day when we don't wash their hair. Tomorrow, DD1 is going to get a major haircut! Rachel, I didn't know lice don't jump/walk off, thanks! Ugh! I really hope this is it! I keep telling my DH that its waaay better this happen now than with a new baby!
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Michelle: those are SUCH cute shirts!

 

Lida: Hope all lice is gone soon. Yikes.

 

I thought it'd be fun to ask each other random questions to get to know each other better, so I'll start... 
 

Everyone: What are you looking forward to the most about birth? What are you most anxious about?

 

My Answer: I actually like labor/birth. Yes it's intense but I feel very raw and real and powerful and connected to God. I adore the first few moments when I see and hold my slimy wet babies and they just look into my eyes... nothing like it. I try not to be anxious but each birth has gotten progressively easier so I guess I do worry sometimes that this one will be the one that will be awful, lol. Also I've had several friends had surprise stillborns or babies with surprise birth defects, so that is on my mind sometimes too.

 

AFM (As For Me): 34 weeks today! Hooray! I get to start taking Dr Christopher's Birth Prep now which is exciting as it makes me feel like the end draws somewhat nearer. My Mother Blessing/Baby Shower is this Sunday; I'm so excited about it. Family/Maternity pictures hopefully next week. 

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Everyone: What are you looking forward to the most about birth? What are you most anxious about?

I enjoy the physical process of birth. Intellectually, I know that it hurts, but I never remember that part. wink1.gif Overall, I feel like it's a very satisfying culmination of all those months of discomfort and difficulty. And I love getting to hold my baby for the first time!

I'm anxious about having other people around. My preference would be just DH and me. I feel like other people interfere, especially doctors and nurses. But, as I've mentioned, it's the way things have to be right now. I'm not doing a good job of accepting it.
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I'm Jenny, married for 17 years to my husband Koeby; I teach preschool in our home and he teaches middle school.  We have five kids- Karan (14), Fiona (12), Bodhi (9), Bjorn (6), and Devon (3), and we're due with another boy (our surprise baby) on Christmas Day!  Kids were all born at home, the last two unassisted.  I nurse til 2ish, we cloth diaper, no vaccinations; we're sort of old fashioned in the way we parent.  

 

Everyone ?:  I'm looking forward to getting a baby out of it!  I'm looking forward to feeling awesome afterwards, in that moment when I can't believe I've just birthed this BABY, and nursing them for the first time and cozying in bed with them and waking up to them and spending the first few days just mesmerized : )  I'm anxious about the intensity, though I always handle it well.  I'm anxious about his position and hoping everything goes as smoothly as last time with no weird surprises!!  Honestly, I'm always scared of having a cesarean, as that TERRIFIES me.  My body births really well, so I just keep reminding myself of that.  My babies just come out.  

 

AFM, I'm so happy it's November!  Just two weeks til my mom comes, my birthday and shower!  Woohoo!  Then I'll be heading into the home stretch.  I STILL can hardly believe that I'm having a baby- the shock of the unexpected pregnancy just hasn't lifted entirely!  So weird.  

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I also want to add that I am really looking forward to the end of prenatal depression, and being able to both sleep and breathe at the same time!!!
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Michelle, I love the shirts : )  That's a great, happy picture of you and your hubby!

 

Happy to report that I was just at a party and asked a friend midwife to feel the baby and tell me what position he's in- I'd been worried he was breech.  Turns out he is head down, just high which is why I'm hearing his heartbeat up by my belly button.  phew!  Good baby : )

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Blurb for the thread:

Carla (lilacvioletiris): EDD 12-19-13 Twin Boys: William Ernest and Edward Ronald

Science, math, and technology lover and educator (37) married since 7/10 to DH (42) who is a machinist - tool and die maker. These boys are our first children and we are so excited to have them join our family after initially being told that DH had no sperm and we would have no chance of biological children.  God and medical science made these babies possible. I truly believe in miracles and I can't wait to meet these two little boys. Looking forward to raising them to be God loving men.

 

Answer: What are you looking forward to the most about birth? What are you most anxious about?

I am most looking forward to seeing how my body can bring these two little lives into the world and meeting the miracles that God has prepared for my DH and me. I am anxious that both my babies stay head down so that I can have a vaginal delivery of twins. I am also anxious that DH be okay with the pain I will go through - we hired a doula so hopefully she can reassure him that the pain I feel is normal labor pain and that I will be okay.

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What are you looking forward to the most about birth? What are you most anxious about?

I am looking forward to giving birth again, I really enjoy that part. I'm looking forward to losing a bunch of weight in one day and feeling a bit more like myself. I am so tired of being in pain and feeling like an overblown balloon.

I am worried that this baby will have to come early because my placenta seems to be conking out and his growth is falling rapidly. I am worried if he has to come before 36 weeks we'll need to have a c-section as it causes less stress for the baby, and I'm worried about the stress of an early induced birth on a tiny baby, and that we may need a c-section even after 36 weeks. I'm worried about the care of a pre-term underweight baby and what it means for our family. Its not like I can just forget the rest of my family and just focus on this one baby. I'm worried about the logistics of pumping/feeding/trying to establish breastfeeding under these circumstances. BUT, I am also a lot more gentle with myself than I was with my first. I will do what I can, and what is best for our whole family as far as caring for baby goes, and if it means he's bottle-fed or partly bottle-fed, than so be it. If I can't be with him 24/7 in hospital, because I have to come home and care for our other kids, than so be it. If having a c-section is truly our best choice in this scenario, than so be it smile.gif
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Sarah (crazykittymomma)
EDD- 12/30, Baby Girl: Kira Carolyn

Geek, cat lady, vegetarian, athiest, homebody and wife to a work at home husband, Nathan. Mom to Vala (4.5) and Anya (2).

What are you looking forward to the most about birth? What are you most anxious about?
I'm looking forward to this pregnancy being over. I usually enjoy it, but this one has been really rough on me physically and emotionally. I'm not worried about the birth itself. I had my HBAC last time and know everything will go off without a hitch (or if it does, I can handle it after being through so much trauma the first time). I'm not afraid of the pain at all. I think I'm more anxious about my kids waking up and crying the whole time I'm laboring like last time! I'm also very anxious to find out if my husband will have a job as of Jan 1st, since his company's contract is up then and they don't know if they're getting renewed.

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Hello ladies, I'm back! Remember me?

I've had a lot of things going on this last few weeks. About 3 weeks ago it was past midnight and I was sitting in my dinning room when I felt something different. I checked and I was hemorrhaging a lot of red blood. We went to the hospital and got hooked up to an IV with meds, and eventually I stopped bleeding. I was (still am) 2 cm dilated 50% effaced. I had two ultrasounds, and emergency one and another one next day, both showed everything was perfect. They had me hospitalized for 3 days, and now I'm on bedrest (well I'm not strict about it...) until week 36 (next friday).

I had to mourn the lost of my homebirth. I talked to my HB MW and she and I thought the best was to plan a hospital birth, just in case. So now I have a new OB who supposedly will respect my wish to have a natural birth. But it's a hospital... what bothers me the most is the fact that I really want to give birth upright and catch my own baby, and they won't let me.

I have no idea where the bleeding came from. Just blood, no pain, no discomfort, nothing at all. I just felt the moisture. Anyway, even though I was depressed because I had to give up my homebirth, I am (and have been for the last weeks) in a very good mood. I had a birthday party that was beautiful, we start building our house next week, baby is fine, he moves a lot and makes my belly shakes with his movements.

 

So this is my info for the first thread: I'm 35+1 weeks pregnant, due 12/6 (I'm sure he will arrive early though), first child, pregnant with a baby boy named Axel. Married for 3 years to a man that I love deeply and spoils me to no end. I work with my sister, we have a business that we iherited from our father, so we manage it and make it grow. I'm building a new home, and it gets me as anxious as excited, I live in an appartment right now and I can't wait to have a back yard to fill with plants.

 

What are you looking forward to the most about birth? What are you most anxious about?

I can't wait to start labor. My husband and I are so anxious to meet our baby. I am also looking foward to experience labor, I'm not afraid. I just don't like the idea of giving birth in a hospital, but I had no choice but to make peace with the idea. Maybe I am a little afraid for my vagina, I like it very much as it is now, and I don't want it to change, to tear or be cut.. *sigh*.

Anyway, I can't believe it's november already. Baby will be here soon!

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Oh my gosh, Anablis, I'm sorry you had such a scare! But thank goodness that baby is ok! I'm also sorry you are losing your homebirth. greensad.gif Are you sure they won't let you catch your own baby? That's really too bad; it's one of the things that I'm looking forward to, and I'm birthing in the hospital, too. I hope your birth goes as well as possible, and baby comes out healthy!

Sarah, I hope your husband's job situation works out! Thursday was my DH's last day of work. (He got notice in August that he was being laid off.) But, he actually didn't go in that day, because he was at a follow-up interview with another company that seems very interested. I'm hoping they make an offer on Monday, and he can just relax for a few days until the new job starts.

Lida, *hugs*! When's your next appointment, or when will you find out more about what's going to happen? I hope your baby is able to stay in for as long as is safe, and comes out healthy!

Lilac, how amazing that you are able to have these sweet little blessings! I hope they both get head down and stay that way!

Jenny, yay that baby is head down!

Regarding position, my doctor hasn't said anything about it yet, but I'm guessing it will come up when I have my ultrasound at 36 weeks (in a week and a half). Personally, I feel like it's still too early to worry about it for me. But I've had a baby flip around on me at literally the last minute. :P
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Kali, I love the idea of intros! 

 

I'm Hoda and I'm a Lebanese girl living with my German partner in a lovely smallish German city on the Dutch border. We have the (IMHO) cutest 3 year old daughter, who looks like her Papa but has my temper :D. Now we're waiting for Baby Boy (Official due date Nov. 30, calculated Dec. 7). Our small family can be a bit confusing (3 languages are spoken and we each come from completely different backgrounds/culture) but it - thankfully - works. We both work as engineers but I daydream a lot of doing something completely different though I'm not sure what. 

 

What are you looking forward to the most about birth? What are you most anxious about?

The baby! I can't wait to hold him and cuddle him. I'm an absolute sucker for small babies (dimply baby butts, chubby legs and tiny toes, oh and that heavenly baby smell :throb).  I'm anxious about the birth itself but no where as panicky as I was when I first found out I'm pregnant. I'm (sort of) doing hypnobabies and it has helped a LOT in calming me down.

 

 

Anablis - so sorry to hear about the scare. I was also very worried about my vagina the first time around, and I had an episiotomy and a few minor tears but you know what? It all healed beautifully. I remember asking the OB in the hospital who checked me 3 days after giving birth, if it'll ever go back to normal and she smiled and held up a mirror for me to see. I was shocked and relieved that it did not look like a battlefield (felt like it though). It just looked a bit puffed up. 

 

AFM - Going by the official due date, today I'm 36 weeks. We're almost there! Baby is in a good position (LOA) so in a couple of weeks we're good to go! We really need a name though!!

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I'm Breanna, and I'm expecting my first baby Dec 10.  According to the ultrasound, I'm expecting a little boy. We don't have a name picked out yet, because my husband is very indecisive and insists that since I got to pick the baby's existence, he gets to pick the name :).  We're living in Texas for his work, but our hearts are in the Pacific Northwest, where we hope to return before this kid has much awareness of geography.  I'm already a full-time homemaker, and I'm very excited to become a mother.

 

What I'm looking forward to most about birth is just learning how the whole thing goes. It feels like a pretty key life experience and I'm looking forward to that. I'm planning a home waterbirth with a midwife I really like, so if all goes well it should be pretty peaceful.  I'm most anxious about my husband's reactions. He has a lot of negativity about bodies and their functions. I'd love this to be a bonding thing between us, but I've told him that if his primary emotions end up being fear or disgust that it would be better if he didn't attend. I have daydreams of us peacefully bringing the baby into the world together and having this huge bonding family thing together, but I'm holding that hope loosely and accepting that that might not be how it goes.

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I'm Taryn, due 12/18 with baby #4, a girl, Linnea Marie. Married for ten years with three kids, boy 7, girl 4.5, girl 2.5. I'm a sahm, conservative Catholic, breastfeed until 2ish, and other crunchy attachment parenting stuff. I'm hoping to be an ibclc someday. Right now I have an Etsy shop (speckledsunshine) where I sell custom painted plates.

What are you looking forward to the most about birth? What are you most anxious about?

I'm nervous about something being wrong with the baby since this is the first time we skipped the twenty week ultrasound. I'm just trying to trust God about everything. I'm also nervous about being due a week before Christmas. If this was my first baby I wouldn't care but I don't want to miss Christmas with my other children. I'm looking forward to holding my baby. I still can't believe I'm having another one in 6ish weeks.
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I'm Trish, due 12/30 with baby #4, although this is technically only my second child as babies 2 & 3 were surrogate babies. This is the first baby together for my DP and I, but together we have two DDs ages 10 (mine) and 7 (his). and this one is also a girl. We've been able to agree on Amelia as a first name but we're still undecided on a middle name. I've had a homebirth, unassisted home waterbirth, and a mw-attended home waterbirth. Right now I have a midwife and plan another home waterbirth, but I may just decide to wait "too long" to call her for the actual birth :) I consider myself fairly crunchy and AP-exclusively breastfeed, cloth diaper (I even sew them myself :wink), baby wear, but I'm undecided about bed sharing with this one. She'll definitely be in our room, but I never slept well with DD in bed with me. Right now I work as a server but I neither work very much nor make much money so we don't know if I'll go back to work after. I'd love to be a sahm until she's at least 6 months, then get something part time while the older kids are in school.

 

 

I guess the thing I'm looking forward to about birth is just getting it done with and having my baby here already! In my mind I'm thinking, "Ok, been here, done that....now let's move on to the next stage." I have a few things I'm anxiuos about right now. One being if I really want my midwife here. I originally started out UP/UC but my DP wanted the anatomy scan and said he'd be more comfortable if someone was here so I started seeing my midwife at 23 weeks. I like her well enough, she seems very hands-off and natural minded, but it's just the idea of someone else being here. I could honestly give birth 100% solo and be fine with it. I guess I'll just have to wait and see how I feel when I actually go into labor. The second thing I've been worrying about, and I don't know if it's even a legitimate thing to be worried about, is cord prolapse. I have a low-lying anterior placenta so I'm worried that it's position may increase the chance of this happening. To add to that, in my previous 3 births my water didn't break until after I started pushing so I'm worried that the cord may become compressed before we even know there's a prolapse. I have an appointment tomorrow and I'll ask my mw about the likelihood of this happening. Damn thought popped in my head the other day and now I can't stop thinking about it!

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Sarah-EDD Dec 12th expecting a boy as I had thought from the beginning of my pregnancy-ultrasound confirmed. I have a two year old girl who I absolutely adore and can't wait to see how she takes to being a big sister and all! Hubby is thrilled he is getting his boy as I think many men are. I'm a stay at home mom but also work a little at home. Am a dog groomer of 14 years and decided to stay home after having my daughter but still love my dog grooming and don't think I'd ever give that up completely! We havent picked out a name yet. Kind of hoping one just comes to me as it did with my daughter instead of spending endless hours on name sights which ended up doing me no good last time! :) Kind of hoping baby comes a bit early as pregnancy seems more uncomfortable to me these last few weeks than I remember. 

 

And what am I looking forward to? An empowering healing home birth. I found the hospital route last time to be very invasive, insensitive, controlling, traumatic to be quite honest. Little nervous about it seen as how last time I went with induction and epi hospital birth, so I've never experienced natural childbirth, but hoping all goes well. I think it will though. I strongly feel lead in this direction. I know I'm choosing the right path for me. I've actually chosen to go UC. I'm just not the social butterfly type and really only want my husband and daughter there. Am excited though and can't wait for the big day!

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Hi! It's been a while! Baby (probably) Boy is scheduled to arrive December 12! If I don't go into labour before 39 weeks. I am so looking forward ro having this baby in arms!! 5 weeks to go! I had fun getting our cloth diaper stash purchased and organized. As of a few days ago everything on the "to get" list is here. So now, I wait patiently for birth-day orngbiggrin.gif
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Wow, owl.  It must be wild to know THE day!  That is so soon too!  

 

Hi Sarah- I'm planning my third unassisted birth.  It's pretty awesome if that's what you're into.  I'm just hoping everything goes smoothly again!

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