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post #21 of 234

I am loving these introductions! I'm most commonly known as Rosy, and my beloved husband Ben and I are due a boy Dec 22. No name yet agreed upon. I'm a 6th year PhD student in 18th Century Literature, but my real area is Scottish Enlightenment. We have a 2 year old, Veronica, who madly kisses my belly everyday and can't wait to be a big sister sometime around "Scrimpustime" (don't ask, but you should hear her say "Christopher" if you think Christmas is bad). Ben's a grade school teacher at a trilingual public school, and we are New England Irish Catholics who co-sleep, breastfeed past two (now, haha!), and go as natural as we can on a limited budget with a small yard!  

 

 

Birth: looking forward to meeting my new darling, and seeing his little face. Had a rough experience the first time with an endless induction at 42 weeks, so I'm figuring anything this time will be better than that barring unforeseen complications, but I really hoping to go into labor this time and have a more natural experience. Definitely keeping an epidural in the cards, though, if I want it. Also, love the feeling of getting my body back, after pregnancy and newborn phase are over...touching my toes, rolling over, having normal bladder capacity, lol. 

post #22 of 234
Yeah, I threw my back out rolling over last night eyesroll.gif I spent today hobbling around until I got in to see my chiropractor...
post #23 of 234
Thread Starter 
Pretty sure my baby dropped some today. Feeling it more in my pelvis. We will see if my midwife can tell at my prenatal Thursday.
post #24 of 234
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Originally Posted by mataji4 View Post

Wow, owl.  It must be wild to know THE day!  That is so soon too!  

Hi Sarah- I'm planning my third unassisted birth.  It's pretty awesome if that's what you're into.  I'm just hoping everything goes smoothly again!
awesome! Love to hear of other mothers happy with their uc choice! I know this is the route for me. Very excited about it :-) good luck in your upcoming uc! Let us know how it goes!
post #25 of 234

We had an ultrasound yesterday and the doctor said baby is measuring at around 3400g (7 lbs 8 ounces)... bigeyes.gif I know these measurements are not exact but I couldn't help blurting "WHAT?". We're still barely 36 weeks. She told me he'll probably be around 9 lbs at birth hide.gif 

 

Can I also just vent a little? Especially to you mamas with toddlers or older children. I was just crying to DP on the phone - again - because picking up DD from Kindergarten is such a low point in my day. When I drop her off, she does not want me to leave but when I pick her up, she does not want to leave. So we set a timer for 10 minutes for her to finish playing and when it rings, we have to go. But she keeps stalling with everything that what should be a 10 min business, takes 40 and more, during which I'm doing a lot of bending down and lifting - leading to lots of BH and contractions. I'm extremely uncomfortable and losing my patience, and she's crying and screaming at some point.  I'm just so exhausted, everyday it's almost an hour of walking, squatting and lifting - who needs a workout! 

post #26 of 234

Babies dropping and term size and all the emotions and contracting...you ladies sound like you are gearing up to birth in a few weeks or something!!!  : )

 

Lilykay, my baby feels HUGE and I'm only at 33 weeks.  He feels like a whole big baby to me.  Mine have been mostly 10 1/2 pounds so I know about anxiety around birthing large babies.  But it's always worked out fine.  I guess I just grow them that way because I can birth them...they come out very "ripe"- holding their heads up and looking like most people's 6 week old babies.  I just overcook them a bit!  : )  I'd love a little 9 pounder!

 

And about pick up, can someone else bring her home for you, or even outside to the car or sidewalk?  It would probably be easier for anyone else to extract her.

post #27 of 234

This is a great thread!  I have not been on mothering much this week, for whatever reasons, so here is my intro:

I am Courtney, 32. EDD: 12/10 (ish).  I have two older children, DD, age 4 and DS age 2.  We live in eastern MA which I absolutely adore until right around when the clocks change in November, too much dark and cold for me!   My husband is a tech geek, and I bounced around from field to field (Math, psyche, early childhood education, taught preschool, nannied) until we finally settled down and had children.  Being a mom is my true calling, I think, which is a weird place to be in this modern world.  I wish I were better at the homemaking part of it though!  It's a work in progress.  

 

What am I looking forward to?  Mostly the end of this endless waiting!  I feel like life is very much in limbo right now, and as much as I would like to be able to slow down and appreciate the now-ness of my life at the moment, I really just want to jump ahead to the next part.  Very excited to meet this baby, and see what he looks like/is like.  Anxious- I have this possibly unfounded fear that we will not be able to arrange transportation/childcare/get to the hospital before the baby comes.  We have one car, my husband works an hour away in the city (it can take much longer than this to get home, since the commuter rail doesn't run very often at mid day) and the hospital is near his work.  I have many friends who have offered to help with transport/childcare if needed, but they all have multiple children and complicated schedules.  And my last baby was born in a triage room, 45 minutes after we arrived at the hospital.  Anxiety!  I feel like I/we should probably do some reading on managing childbirth emergencies, if it comes down to that, but I am not sure where to start.  Any advice from the UCers?

post #28 of 234

Courtney- don't sweat it too much! I'm sure someone will be around if your h can't make it home (I would be nervous about relying on the t, too, haha). 

Hoda (or do you prefer LilyKay, missus?)- bribes? I know that its bad, but the only thing that works sometimes to get my two-year-old in her stroller or carseat is an m&m or something.  On the upside, its great that she loves her preschool!

big baby-havers...umm, with you. Ours was almost 5lbs at 31 weeks, and I'm horrified that he might be even bigger than my 9lb daughter. 

 

I've had 3 dreams about owls the past week or so- supposedly ominous, but I'm guessing its just related to fears about birth! 

post #29 of 234
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Originally Posted by CourtBChase View Post

This is a great thread!  I have not been on mothering much this week, for whatever reasons, so here is my intro:


I am Courtney, 32. EDD: 12/10 (ish).  I have two older children, DD, age 4 and DS age 2.  We live in eastern MA which I absolutely adore until right around when the clocks change in November, too much dark and cold for me!   My husband is a tech geek, and I bounced around from field to field (Math, psyche, early childhood education, taught preschool, nannied) until we finally settled down and had children.  Being a mom is my true calling, I think, which is a weird place to be in this modern world.  I wish I were better at the homemaking part of it though!  It's a work in progress.  

What am I looking forward to?  Mostly the end of this endless waiting!  I feel like life is very much in limbo right now, and as much as I would like to be able to slow down and appreciate the now-ness of my life at the moment, I really just want to jump ahead to the next part.  Very excited to meet this baby, and see what he looks like/is like.  Anxious- I have this possibly unfounded fear that we will not be able to arrange transportation/childcare/get to the hospital before the baby comes.  We have one car, my husband works an hour away in the city (it can take much longer than this to get home, since the commuter rail doesn't run very often at mid day) and the hospital is near his work.  I have many friends who have offered to help with transport/childcare if needed, but they all have multiple children and complicated schedules.  And my last baby was born in a triage room, 45 minutes after we arrived at the hospital.  Anxiety!  I feel like I/we should probably do some reading on managing childbirth emergencies, if it comes down to that, but I am not sure where to start.  Any advice from the UCers?
I'm planning uc and super excited about it. If you are wanting hospital but worried about making it in time though I would study up on everything you can before hand just in case. You can read emergency childbirth and read up on natural childbirth and birth stories and stuff. At least to put your mind at ease in case you don't make it there. Best thing is just to be well informed and not panic when time comes. Birth is a beautiful, natural process!
post #30 of 234
I have had two previous natural hospital births.  We looked into a home birth, but ended up staying with the same group we birthed with last time.  It really is a lovely baby friendly hospital and midwife group.  I hear you that birth is natural and not necessarily something to be afraid of, but I have had significant bleeding and some amount of tearing with both births, so birthing in my living room without an attendant is not my ideal.  Especially not alone while my husband tries to get home on the train, with two small children to care for! (my big fear).  I am good at imagining disaster scenarios.  My back-up plan is to call the local EMT, we are walking distance to the fire station, so I am sure it will be fine if it comes down to that.  And there is a (very ill regarded in the local birth community) hospital 10 minutes away, and en route to our hospital, so we can always pull over if things are moving fast in the car.  Hopefully this baby will cooperate and come at night like both of his siblings, with enough warning to call a babysitter, and get into the city.  :-)
post #31 of 234

I heard an owl in the middle of the night, in our backyard!  I didn't know owls were ominous.

post #32 of 234

Jenny - That's a good idea, no one here can really pick her up on a regular basis so I'm planning to talk to her teachers that they bring her out to me instead of me trying to get her out. And I'm packing a small bag of gummy bears today - I give up, I'm against bribes but really right now I don't have the stamina at all!

 

Courtney - we have no car and DP's parents live a 50 minute drive away (and they don't drive at night). Right now I'm a bit worried what to do with DD if an emergency happens during the night.  My best friend is coming back from a trip tomorrow and the plan is to call her but she still needs 20 minutes to get here (especially if I wake her up in the middle of the night). Fingers crossed everything goes smoothly and we have some time to plan.

 

OMG I can be giving birth in TWO weeks. I can't wrap my head around that still.  I really need to get going on getting everything ready! 

post #33 of 234
Lily I totally feel your panic about these babies could come at any time.

Ugh major hip pain is bothering me now. I sleep in a cocoon of pillows but it doesn't seem to be helping. I have taken hot baths to no avail.
Any other ideas?
post #34 of 234

Lilac I'm right there with you on the hip pain. No sleep position helps, chiro isn't helping either with this. I guess it's just put up with it til it's over. Sadly giving birth doesn't relieve it. In the past Ive noticed I still experience it for a few weeks PP as things shift back into place. Gotta love those hormones!

 

Know what's really fun? Getting sick while pregnant! It already sucks I can't take any meds to help, but add constantly coughing with a baby's head already pressing into your bladder and we're talking about some fun times over here! 

post #35 of 234

Hip pain- the worst.  I have been dealing with hip/pelvic etc pain for what seems like forever here.  I think the chiro is helping a little, but I had to give her some feedback, the first few times I noticed no difference, and once she stopped adjusted the front of my pelvis, it was much better.  I don't know why that would be, but...  I have been taking warm baths with epsom salts before bed and I think that helps my muscles relax a little.  I don't know that it actually helps with the joint/ligament pain, but I had been getting really tense from constantly bracing for pain when walking/rolling over etc.  I find it helps reduce braxton hicks a little too.  Yoga/stretching stuff:  Cat/cow is really helpful and also moving my hips from side to side in that position.  I like child's pose, though it is getting to be somewhat impossible with the belly.  Keeping knees together as much as possible also helps (which is not the normal advice for late pregnancy, unless you are having pelvic girdle pain type pain).  So I don't sit cross legged, I keep a pillow between my knees when rolling over in bed, and I do squats without spreading my knees, if I need to get something off the ground.  Also, I sit to get pants/shoes on.  Can you tell I have put a lot of thought into this?  Fingers crossed this baby will come in a reasonable time frame and we will all feel normal again soon! 

 

ETA:  Changing positions also seems to be important for me, for pain levels.  I mentioned to my midwife that all the driving I am doing for preschool (2 hours, 4 days a week, and the midwife and Chiro are a half an hour the other way) was really hurting, and she commented that it seems to be whatever position you are stuck in most that gives people trouble.  I thought about that and noticed that when I spend a lot of time standing/sitting/driving etc it is definitely worse.  So I have been trying to make a point to vary my activity every so often.  This is probably less practical if you are stuck sitting in an office environment, but maybe getting up for a short walk every so often? 

post #36 of 234
On the hip pain subject-I've been dealing with that for weeks now. From what I've read I think
Hot baths with Epsom and vinegar is supposed to help that a lot. I did it once but I hate taking baths in my tub. It's ridiculously small but I should still get on that! :-) also it makes huge difference if I keep a pillow between my legs at night. Sometimes when I'm getting up and down to pee a lot I get lazy and don't put it back, but then I'm in much more pain the next day. As long as I'm consistent with it tho it's so much better
post #37 of 234
A little late with this intro! Also, I changed my username from whitneymcmike... wanted something a little more anonymous smile.gif

EDD: 12/1, sex is a surprise!
I'm Whitney, 30 years old and pregnant with my first child. I live on the central coast of California with my husband, Ryan, who I married last year in November on the beach that is just a block from our front door. We have both worked in hospitality primarily, I worked mostly in wine and then culinary arts, Ryan in restaurant management. I, however, have recently moved on to pursue a doctorate degree in naturopathic medicine. I am currently a full-time student doing prerequisite work for med school, though I plan to switch to part-time once baby comes. We keep busy with our work but enjoy a slow paced home life centered around simple activities like reading, gardening, cooking, baking, hanging clothes on the line, and generally taking it easy.

What am I anxious about regarding birth... we are planning a homebirth and I am just generally a little anxious about having a first baby at home, fear of the unknown sort of thing. I wonder what I will be like during labor and birth, I can't even seem to come up with a prediction of how I may react. I hope I can handle it, that I am strong enough. I am confident in my birth team though and am so glad that we decided to hire a doula for that extra support and help for an inexperienced mama. I'm also financially a little stressed as a hospital transfer would mean doubling the cost of this birth, trying really hard not to let that invade my head space though as it is a really unproductive worry.

Excited about... not being anxious anymore! Excited to cross the threshold into motherhood, to go through such a tremendous, challenging and hopefully empowering experience of labor/birth, and to see what is on the other side. It's funny, even though I know there is a baby in my belly and I feel it moving with me all the time I feel like I constantly forget that there is a child at the end of all this... that we are going to be parents... that a little stranger is coming that we get to know. Most of all, I can't wait to feel like a mom.

Speaking of hip pain, I recently purchased an arnica salve that I rub on my hips before bedtime that really seems to be helping. I'm definitely going to try the epsom salts bath too, if nothing else it just sounds so nice and relaxing and I think I need to focus on relaxing/focusing inward more from here until birth. 36+4 today, man oh man.

Oh and I had my first baby dream last night! I was so excited for some reason, been feeling like a weirdo that I haven't dreamt about that at all. I dreamt of a little red-headed boy... can't wait to see if I am right!
post #38 of 234

Lilac...thai massage!  Love it for stretching me out.  Support belts- the SI belt really helped me last time.  Not sure what the hip pain is from, but if it's your SI joints, that could help.

post #39 of 234
Thread Starter 
Chiro and epsolm salt baths are helping my hip pain.

Midwife confirmed today baby has dropped.

35 weeks tomorrow.
post #40 of 234
Thanks Ladies for some ideas with the hip pain some I have tried - warm baths, support belts, massage but I haven't tried epson salts yet so I will do that.

Yesterday I gota little preparation happy - I got my favorite Stayfree overnight ultra thin pads for post partum, shampoo, toothpaste, deodorant, hand soap, laundry detergent and an exercise ball. Mostly things that my husband would not get the right kind if I sent him.


When I got home from grocery shopping my brother and I rearranged the pantry and cupboards so if I sent someone to make some food I would know if I had the food (because I sorted our most common food into sections) and I coold direct them where to find it. I like the order much better.
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