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post #21 of 46

Wow.  I haven't heard anything truly rude so far.  The only comments that are bugging me are people wanting to know the baby's sex, and a co-worker who asked to see pictures of my 8-week ultrasound.  I don't understand showing off ultrasound pix--hello, that is a picture of my naked child and my private parts, and anyway it is kind of creepy like an X-ray.  Did I ask to see the X-rays of co-worker's broken leg??  But I just told her that there wasn't much to see at 8 weeks, just fuzziness with a head and heartbeat.

 

As for people asking the sex, my favorite is when they say, "Do you know what it is?" because I can hug my tummy and say brightly, "I think it's a BABY!!" and most people find that funny.  But honestly, why do people care so much about that?  Especially strangers on public transit and such.  We did not know our first child's sex until he was born; with this one, we'll know any minute now when we get the genetic testing results, but we're not going to spread the news.  We want to get gifts in a variety of colors.

post #22 of 46
Thread Starter 

People (co-workers mostly) have seemed a bit miffed when I say I'm not getting any early ultrasounds and that I'm not going to find out  my baby's gender.  Supposedly they're just dying to know what my baby is.  So weird.  Why would it matter to them one way or the other? Our neighbor is calling the baby a girl all of the time because she only has grandsons, but says she's "okay" if its a boy, because then they will have someone to give all of their outgrown clothes to. :)

post #23 of 46

my relatives were annoyed at me the first baby that we pulled the no-gender-reveal card on.  Now its just expected.  I think people are just miffed because now they have to either pick a gender, or call your single baby "they", or resort to the eponyous "it".  Makes them think more about it.  And they can't find out what color to give until after the baby is born.  :)

 

I like not knowing myself, but DH is especially keen to learn the gender this time.  I think it helps him feel more connected to the baby, so we are compromising, we will find out, but we arent actually going to tell anyone that we had any ultrasounds at all.  Which would ironically be illegal in my state since its a VBAC baby, but they don't know that, so BWHAHAHAHAHAHA.  

post #24 of 46

Not me, but a friend got yelled at (an angry out-of-nowhere rant) by the UPS delivery man when he delivered her a package and asked what gender the baby was, and she told him they hadn't found out. It flabbergasted me when she told us that story.

post #25 of 46

I have two girls and I've also been getting the "are you hoping for a boy" crap.  Does the same thing happen when a person has multiple boys?  Anyway, we never find out the gender, and everyone knows that, and even with my last child there was a lot of "what are you hoping for?"  I ofter answer that with "I hope it's human" which tends to shut people up.  If it's someone who has historically been annoying about my pregnancies (or generally) sometimes I'll say something totally off taste like "I'm really hoping it's DH's".  He's kind of the same way, and when people ask him if he's hoping for a boy (as though I have somehow failed in my duties to procure an heir) he says "I just hope it's mine".  It's a bit tasteless, but it definitely gives people pause for thought.  I don't say stuff like that to the well-meaning elderly relatives in our lives - just to coworkers/acquaintances who should know better.  So far so good on this one, though, that the comments have been minimal.  One of my bosses (who is a Catholic and has several children) just started to laugh when I told him I was pregnant again, and he said (actually kind of giggling to himself) "should I talk to your husband?  Does he know what that means? It means minivans, and more car seats and renovations, and bigger houses..."  from him, it was a really funny comment because it was exactly the pattern of the last 10 years of his life.

 

My other favourite one is "you're really starting to waddle!" when I know perfectly well that I don't waddle.  I have a co-worker who used to be much heavier, and she used to make all sorts of very cutting, antagonistic remarks like that.  She has since lost a lot of weight, and looks so healthy and confident and happier in herself, and she has become so much more positive and kind in the things she says to other people.  I think she used to be mean to make herself feel better, and now she actually does feel better, so doesn't feel the need to be like that anymore.  yay for that!  She's a really lovely person now! :D

post #26 of 46
Thats kind of what I have noticed too. My MIL and her mother are the most insecure about themselves and they are the ones who make rhe most comments to me. When I am pregnant I am always "so big!" must be having twins, must be a 10 lb baby, yadayadayada, and then when I am not pregnant I am "so thin!", have such nice legs yadayadayada. I never really say anything either way because I never know what to say in either situation. 'Yes, I am as big as a house. Thank you for noticing.' 'Yep, I am back to my normal size now. Funny how you were so concerned about being huge 4 months ago. Its like it would make them feel better if I kept my weight on after I had each baby. Then we could just sit around and complain together, yay! NOT.
post #27 of 46
People truly amaze me! The only obnoxious comments we get are from my BIL (husbands bro). They have a 15 month old and all they say to us is "can't wait til you see how it is, no sleep, tired, and having to deal with a child is tough!!" It's our first, so people assume we know nothing.

I recently came home from work and was just exhausted. My BIL said "imagine coming home and still having to come home to cook and take care of a crazy crying baby!!"

Sorry you hate your life, dude. Yes, its hard but we are more positive than he will ever be.
post #28 of 46
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Originally Posted by brooksfam View Post

People truly amaze me! The only obnoxious comments we get are from my BIL (husbands bro). They have a 15 month old and all they say to us is "can't wait til you see how it is, no sleep, tired, and having to deal with a child is tough!!" It's our first, so people assume we know nothing.

I recently came home from work and was just exhausted. My BIL said "imagine coming home and still having to come home to cook and take care of a crazy crying baby!!"

Sorry you hate your life, dude. Yes, its hard but we are more positive than he will ever be.

Oh yeah we have had a few of those.  "You just wait".  umm… I already did this twice, my girls are 17 months apart.  Don't get me started.  

 

I, for one, won't let it get to me and am feeling pretty blessed for this baby.  This is my second marriage and since we got married 5 years ago it has been a topic of conversation for us.  We finally moved into our 'dream home' last year where we would actually have space so I think the powers that be took over.  Can't ruin my mood!! 

post #29 of 46

What is it with people and "you just wait, life gets worse"?  Someone recently said that to me about teenagers, like, enjoy them now, its awful when they don't have to be fed every bite of food and can actually help around the house AND talk to you.  Yes that sounds just DREADFUL...  not.  In fact I am trying to arrange to borrow one of those for next Friday night.  Some people just see the down side to everything.  I am trying to enjoy this stage.  Its not easy but its really awesome too.  When else do you get to buy teddy-bear-sized cowgirl boots? Or hear someone sing "away in a manger" off key under her breath all the way home from Costco?  Or be the subject of two breakdowns while the girls argue over who gets to be baby carried (one of whom doesn't actually need words to argue which is FREAKING ADORABLE)?  

 

At least I'm never bored.  

post #30 of 46

lol yeah one of my coworkers also told me she had noticed how much my boobs are growing.  gee thanks...i was a DDD before i got pregnant, so i'm not looking for help in that area!

post #31 of 46
I felt so bad yesterday. We've had the genetic testing done and got our results yesterday. We also found out that we are having baby boy # 3. When I told my mom she was all " oh, no! Ick! It wasn't supposed to be a boy! I wanted a girl!"
I shouldn't have expected anything else from her because she has always reacted negatively to all of my pregnancies. Come to think of it, I don't think she likes my kids at all.
We are happy to have a boy, it means we have an evenly split brood of 6!
post #32 of 46
So sorry to hear that greenluv. Big congrats on baby
boy #3 smile.gif
We currently do not know the sex of our baby but I
know my mother will be hoping it's a girl. I already have
2 boys and so does my sister, so a girl would be the first
granddaughter. If it's another boy, I am pretty much expecting
the same reaction you received greensad.gif
In fact, since I told them I was pregnant she hasn't even
spoken to me about it. Not asked how I am or anything!
I have to convince myself that I did actually tell her :@
post #33 of 46

:HugGreenluv!  It's a lot more important that you are happy to be having a boy, than that you please your mom--how rude of her.

 

I guess some people would think it's rude that when I told my co-worker I had just been to the midwife and heard baby's heartbeat, she said, "That's great!  Did you know I just got two kittens?" and whipped out pix of her kittens and did not further acknowledge my pregnancy...but I thought it was fine.  Of course she is excited about her new pets, and I was happy to admire them.

post #34 of 46
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Originally Posted by greenluv View Post

I felt so bad yesterday. We've had the genetic testing done and got our results yesterday. We also found out that we are having baby boy # 3. When I told my mom she was all " oh, no! Ick! It wasn't supposed to be a boy! I wanted a girl!"
I shouldn't have expected anything else from her because she has always reacted negatively to all of my pregnancies. 

aww mama, I'm happy for you anyways!  I'd love to be evenly split on genders (or to have all girls or all boys.  Well, a little late for the boys idea so now its down to all girls or even stevens).  We are hoping we get a boy or a girl.  :) I'm a little anxious about having a boy teenager around after what my brother continues to go through with my parents, but I could just sqiush the dickens out of this little baby fig if I could hold him right now.  

 

Some people are always negative.  

post #35 of 46

With my first, I was completely shocked that a few strangers asked "Was it planned?"  Which, I feel like, is saying, "Did you actually want this baby?"  And it's hard to know what to say, because of course we did, but we don't plan, we just let it happen, but am I supposed to go on a tirade about why-artificial-birth-control-is-immoral to a hairdresser I've never seen before???  Or act like, "Oh, yeah, well it just sort of happened," which makes it sound like I don't want this kid??  It just feels like a highly inappropriate situation all around!

 

I was also less than thrilled to hear that my students were going around asking other teachers, "Is she pregnant or just getting fatter?"

 

This time around there is a lot of pressure from my MIL for it to be a girl.  There are no girls on either side of the family, and I get the feeling that she likes girls better, is disappointed she had two boys, and wish that I was girl-ier (I'm her only DIL).  She keeps making remarks ... Well, she will be in for a disappointment even if it is, because I fully intend to reuse all my blue baby clothes, and will NOT do the pink-princess thing even with a baby girl!!

 

If anybody said anything to my face about getting big or along the lines of the butt comment, I would SO say something nasty back.  They totally deserve it.  Plus, you shouldn't mess with pregnant ladies, and maybe they just need to learn that!!! 

post #36 of 46

Hey All!

I am new here and probably not going to make the best impression but if you want a laugh....here is possibly the RUDEST and MOST INAPPROPRIATE reaction to a pregnancy announcement EVER.......

So here's the back story......my fiancé is a good looking guy, 6ft, blond, blue eyed and handsome. He has a brother who is 3 years older who happens to be a fairly successful model.....he could not be more different to my fiancé....they totally don't look related. He is hazel eyed and has black hair and an entirely different complexion. He is 6ft 3" and somewhat muscular, perfect teeth blah blah blah.....basically looks like a Ken doll. My fiancé has spent his life in his brothers shadow and is totally plagued by insecurities about not measuring up. I learnt very quickly in our relationship that jokes about his brother were off limits and I have been very sensitive to that. For the record his brother is a total 'himbo' airhead that makes it pretty evident that he fancies himself. He's a total bore and not a particular nice person. The first time I met him he said, in front of his entire family at the dinner table 'you do know that my brother and I share girlfriends?' .......BARF.

So anyways, a few days ago we sent our ultrasound pic to all my fiancés family and we quickly receive a text from his brother that says ' If the baby comes out black haired and brown eyed, sorry bro, it only happened once'. I'm sure to him that was HILARIOUS. My fiancé obviously knew he was joking but was still mad. I found it WILDLY disrespectful. There is also a very real chance that our baby will be dark haired and brown eyed......My fiancé and I are both blonde and blue eyed BUT we are both anomalies in our families.....he has Lebanese heritage and I have Portuguese. So if that does happen, I am sure I will have to endure some more hilariously inappropriate jokes. Excuse me while I barf.

post #37 of 46

you win the prize for worst best story @lunalovesyou !  I can empathize about family members, I wouldn't have married ANY of his brothers if my life depended on it.  They are so chuvanistic and boring and very dumb.  I hear ya.  Does he have any sisters who remind you that you got the nice brother?  

post #38 of 46

Oh, he most certainly does! But I don't think anyone will ever be good enough for her precious baby brother lol.

post #39 of 46

As I was adjusting my bra this morning, I remembered an incredible comment from my first pregnancy: A lady at church coffee hour (who is very buxom herself) scrutinized my chest and asked loudly, "So how's it feel to finally have breasts?"  I was all huh.gif but managed to say, "Oh, it's like puberty all over again!" thus possibly making the point that I DID have breasts before, just small ones!

post #40 of 46

I don't mind comments about my weight gain, personally. I've been underweight all my life, doctor's favourite line was "if you don't get bigger, you'll be infertile", so when people tell me they've noticed my belly/face/boobs getting rounder, it's actually refreshing after years of being told "you're soooooo small".

 

The question I couldn't stand when I announced my pregnancy to a few people was "are you keeping the baby?". It was okay coming from my mother and my close friends because they knew my man and I weren't trying, but a colleage asked me that. Ugh, if I was going to end this pregnancy, why would I have told people at work?

 

So far people in general weren't too rude. Crossing my fingers it stays like that! Though it probably won't...

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