My daughter is a perfectionist. Mostly in the sense that she doesn't want people to see her do something until she has mastered it and is happy with it. On one hand, I think this makes her a good candidate for homeschooling because I personally think the only way you get to be really successful in a school setting is to "show off" as it were, your skills. However, dealing with it at home is really, really frustrating.
I often hear her criticize her drawings, she often says things like "my K isn't very good" etc. This is at 5! We are really really non critical and I just don't know where she gets this negative self talk. Also, I feel like she doesn't try anything new because she thinks she doesn't know how to do it. We have talked about the concepts of practicing and what "learning" means. Both my husband and i even backed off telling her she did something well, and have tried to teach her that it only matters if she is happy with herself.
At 5, almost 6, we still do so much for her. Dressing, shoes, etc. and I feel like maybe this is because she thinks she doesn't know how. On that topic, I am really frustrated and honestly, am ready for her to take on a few more independent skills. But I don't know how to help that happen without using rewards, etc and for me, that is one reason I am unschooling, to try and get away from that.
She was very like this with potty training as well, she was ready, but didn't believe she was ready. I essentially forced that to happen. I want to homeschool/semi unschool, but, I don't feel like she takes steps forward on her own partially because of her perfectionism.
I am wondering how to "educate" this kind of personality. Are there any good books/resources someone could suggest for homeschooling the perfectionist?