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Just curious...is anyone planning an unassisted birth?

post #1 of 15
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I would like to connect with other mothers who are planning to birth solo around the time I intend to do so. I am not new to this it will be my 5th unassisted birth. I always feel like the odd one out, as everyone else is either planning to go to the hospital, birth center or they hired a midwife to attend them at home. While I understand and support those options I really feel the need to communicate to other families who are taking my path.

post #2 of 15

I'm planning my second unassisted birth. I've also had a home birth with a traditional birth attendant. Both were great experiences. 

post #3 of 15

I'm not sure I want another unassisted birth. I'll have a midwife this time around, so I may call her shortly before the baby is born. If I end up deciding not to call her for the birth, I would at least want her to do a once over on babe and I. Last time, the labor and delivery went well, but my little guy had a brain bleed and it was messing with his breathing and color and we ended up transferring a few hours postpartum.

post #4 of 15
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Originally Posted by redeyedvireo View Post
 

I'm planning my second unassisted birth. I've also had a home birth with a traditional birth attendant. Both were great experiences. 

Is there much difference in birthing with an attendant and without one? did you have to jump through hoops to get a birth certificate? what to you feel like are must haves for an unassisted birth? what made you decide not to re- hire your midwife?

 

It is hard to get the birth certificate here in Tucson because we are so close to the border. no one believed that I had twins without a doctor. 

post #5 of 15
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Originally Posted by Becky Wheeler View Post
 

I'm not sure I want another unassisted birth. I'll have a midwife this time around, so I may call her shortly before the baby is born. If I end up deciding not to call her for the birth, I would at least want her to do a once over on babe and I. Last time, the labor and delivery went well, but my little guy had a brain bleed and it was messing with his breathing and color and we ended up transferring a few hours postpartum.

 That is scary. How did they treat him? the more I learn the more apprehensive I become. Honestly I could not see myself birthing anywhere else.

post #6 of 15
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Originally Posted by ElektraofMars View Post
 

 That is scary. How did they treat him? the more I learn the more apprehensive I become. Honestly I could not see myself birthing anywhere else.

They got his O2 saturation up, took blood for labs because ya know, he was born in a germ-infested house *eyeroll*(alot cleaner than the hospital!) Once he was stabilized after about 18 hours, they gave him antibiotics(again with being born at home), then the next day, they did an ultrasound on his brain and they found a brain bleed right in the part of his brain that regulates breathing and temperature control. He was born REALLY fast. I think his head banged on my pelvic bone and that's why he had a brain bleed. He also had excess fluid from being born so quickly so when he got there, they suctioned him out. It was a heartbreaking ordeal. I'm not afraid to birth unassisted again, I would mostly just like to get a once over from a midwife and hopefully have her clean up a bit. I only had my 2 year old with me last time and I felt like I couldn't relax, I had to have everything cleaned up.

 

I feel the problem with the brain bleed could have been avoided if I'd rubbed arnica over his head after he was born to stop the bleeding. Brain bleeds occur in 25% of vaginal births, but they go unnoticed because they happen to be small enough to not effect the baby. I think it wouldn't have been as bad, had I done that.

post #7 of 15

Wow, Becky, how scary! And that is why I like having hospitals around. Just don't want to start there. :) 

 

Elektra - I didn't rehire my birth attendant because we'd moved over a thousand miles away and I couldn't find any one in our new area who was willing to be hands-off enough for me. I did ask her if I could call her in case of emergency. She said yes, but we never did call her. There wasn't a lot of difference, honestly. The first birth, my husband and mother were there, and when the birth attendant came in, I sent her out again because I couldn't relax enough during contractions with a new person in the room. I called her back in when my son crowned and I panicked, never having felt that before. I'm guessing I would have panicked differently if she hadn't been there, and just gotten through it, but of course I don't know for sure.

 

I had to jump through hoops to get birth certificates both times - the main difference was that with the attendant, she gave me a list of the hoops, and when we did it on our own, I had to do the research myself. It took longer, but wasn't any harder, really. We had to re-do paperwork both times. Annoying.

 

Must-haves for me for an unassisted birth are a birth pool and a selection of herbal medicines for emergencies. Oh, and someone to watch the kids, bring me food and drink, and clean up afterwards. How about you? I'd love to hear your list.

 

Oh man, having to prove that you were carrying twins sounds like a nightmare. Yeesh.

post #8 of 15

I really love the idea of a UC. Birth can be such an intimate thing, so I really enjoyed my experience last time where it was just my dh and me for most of it. My midwife arrived a few minutes before my dd was born, and in the end I'm glad she did because I wouldn't have been prepared to give my dd as much help breathing as she needed. This time I'm trying to decided between having a room full of awesome and supportive people, or just my dh and me with my midwife in the other room. 

post #9 of 15
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Originally Posted by redeyedvireo View Post
 

Wow, Becky, how scary! And that is why I like having hospitals around. Just don't want to start there. :) 

 

Elektra - I didn't rehire my birth attendant because we'd moved over a thousand miles away and I couldn't find any one in our new area who was willing to be hands-off enough for me. I did ask her if I could call her in case of emergency. She said yes, but we never did call her. There wasn't a lot of difference, honestly. The first birth, my husband and mother were there, and when the birth attendant came in, I sent her out again because I couldn't relax enough during contractions with a new person in the room. I called her back in when my son crowned and I panicked, never having felt that before. I'm guessing I would have panicked differently if she hadn't been there, and just gotten through it, but of course I don't know for sure.

 

I had to jump through hoops to get birth certificates both times - the main difference was that with the attendant, she gave me a list of the hoops, and when we did it on our own, I had to do the research myself. It took longer, but wasn't any harder, really. We had to re-do paperwork both times. Annoying.

 

Must-haves for me for an unassisted birth are a birth pool and a selection of herbal medicines for emergencies. Oh, and someone to watch the kids, bring me food and drink, and clean up afterwards. How about you? I'd love to hear your list.

 

Oh man, having to prove that you were carrying twins sounds like a nightmare. Yeesh.

Exaaaactly. We're 15 minutes away from a hospital and there's a fire department literally across the train tracks so we could have an ambulance here STAT if anything were to go awry.

 

My must haves are herbals (for hemorrhage, afterpains, etc)., shower curtain liner, clean flat sheet, chux pads, clean scissors and clean, warm towels ready for baby. That's pretty much it. I had my last in the tub. I miiiiight get a pool for more room, but not sure.

post #10 of 15

I can't do without the birth pool, because it is the only place I can get comfortable in the last week or so. The tub does nothing for me. 

 

And yeah, I guess we need something to deal with the cord - first time we cut it, second time we burned it off - yes, sounds bizarre, but it was actually not bad, just a little tiring for the folks holding the candles. Baby liked it. Haven't decided what to do this time yet.

post #11 of 15

I'm anticipating doing a UC. This will be my 3rd.

post #12 of 15
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My list has gotten shorter over the years and I prefer to birth alone. I can get everything I need for myself and like moving around.

My husband slept through 2 of our births and was only really hands on for my stillbirth (need) and the twins(request) (This is my 6th UC if you count my still-birth they wanted to induce I refused) I feel like my must haves are fresh scissors and a cord clamp. those are the only things that I would feel uncomfortable without. yes they are non-essential but I like having them. I usually have a kiddie pool but have been unable to birth in one since my loss. the smell and texture of the pool stalls my contractions. I have had one UC water-birth, he was our first born. I like having pads and hospital fishnet underwear (haha) but I can easily use old pre-folds. We will forgo the kiddie pool this time. I might buy a birth stool.

 

I would love to learn more about the herbs you ladies have on hand as I have never used them, especially the herbs for after-pains. My husband is our herbalist we usually make our own concoctions.

 

I really like it here you are all so awesome.

post #13 of 15
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Originally Posted by ElektraofMars View Post
 

My list has gotten shorter over the years and I prefer to birth alone. I can get everything I need for myself and like moving around.

My husband slept through 2 of our births and was only really hands on for my stillbirth (need) and the twins(request) (This is my 6th UC if you count my still-birth they wanted to induce I refused) I feel like my must haves are fresh scissors and a cord clamp. those are the only things that I would feel uncomfortable without. yes they are non-essential but I like having them. I usually have a kiddie pool but have been unable to birth in one since my loss. the smell and texture of the pool stalls my contractions. I have had one UC water-birth, he was our first born. I like having pads and hospital fishnet underwear (haha) but I can easily use old pre-folds. We will forgo the kiddie pool this time. I might buy a birth stool.

 

I would love to learn more about the herbs you ladies have on hand as I have never used them, especially the herbs for after-pains. My husband is our herbalist we usually make our own concoctions.

 

I really like it here you are all so awesome.

I'm so sorry for your loss. :( That's terrible.

I have a friend that puts together herbal tinctures and she does a postpartum remedy roll. I'll link in a message, if you like.

post #14 of 15

Oh, Elektra, I'm sorry for your loss.

 

Pads! Those are nice. I've been building up a stash of cloth pads, but prefolds are a great idea, too.

 

What does your husband put together for you, herb-wise? I had a whole bunch of tinctures on hand, but only used one - AfterEase, for after pains. It worked so well I tried to get a second bottle but couldn't find one, so I had to settle for whatever teas we had on hand, which were not nearly as effective. WishGarden makes it, and it contains crampbark, black haw, yarrow, and motherwort. I highly recommend it.

 

I also smelled some clary sage essential oil on a cotton ball at a point in my labor when I felt like it was going to go on all night long, and I was getting ready to go to bed depressed and tired. Everything kicked into high gear as I sniffed it, and I was waving it away, getting out of the pool to dash to the bathroom, and had my baby about half an hour later. So I'm still thinking about whether I'd want to use that again. :)

post #15 of 15

Pretty much just a doppler for me, as my absolute must have. And an anti-hemorrhagic remedy. Of course, extras are chux pads, scale, warmed baby blankets, lots of easy-to-eat and drink things on hand, boiled scissors and string, and goldenseal powder for cord care.

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