Originally Posted by micah_mae_
In short, no..I havent helped him yet, I am gathering info on case I decide he is stable later because my mil asked me to. Honestly I dont blame her for running, my stbx is physically aggressive too although their parents arent (no idea why). I was freaked out about his reaction and if I were her I would have run too. I was hoping to be told there wasnt much he could do.
*nods* That's good.
If he were really dedicated to it- he could try to hire a private investigator to track her down, I imagine- no idea how that works or how much it'd cost. If they have mutual contacts (friends/relatives of hers that talk to him/relatives of his that talk to her/etc), then he may be able to find out through them. I think it mostly depends on a few factors:
-Her resources (if she has money to travel anywhere/is able to get a good job elsewhere/has family far enough away that will take her in)
-Other people supporting her decision (if she moves in with family and they don't support her decision, they can get in touch with your BIL themselves)
She can change her name, get a taxpayer ID to stop using her SSN, drastically change her appearance, cut ties to anyone who might talk to him, etc. If she did that- he might be able to find her, but you can see how difficult it would be. Or she might make a public post on facebook that makes it possible to identify where she is. If he just spooked her and she needs time to get more comfortable with the pregnancy/baby, she may contact him in a few weeks to a year. If she's truly terrified for her, or especially her baby's, safety- it's impossible to know the lengths she might go to.
I hope that, whatever happens, it works out for the best.