We are now an even more complicated version of blended family! Ex and I split up this summer. He had a daughter from his first marriage (my dsd, 12), plus we have two kids together (dd 6 and ds 3). I always make a photo Christmas card to send out to family and friends, usually just of the three kids. However, I'm not sure how to handle it this year!
Should I include dsd? She still calls me her stepmom, I'm still in her life, (mostly through her mom, who lets her come sleep over with me during her time every now and again, plus getting together with both families for parties, playdates, etc-her mom as 2 other kids as well from her second marriage-I told you it was complicated!). I generally send a card to her mom and will send one to her grandparents, so dsd will nearly 100% see the card and I don't want her to feel left out if she is not in it. But, I can also see how it is a little awkward to have her still in the card just from me....I assume her dad will do one as well, but obviously no guarantee since I was always the one to handle that.
She is 12 and I think would give an honest answer if I ask her what she wants to do (I'd ask her mom about it first just in case).
Anyone BTDT either as a parent or a child? Thoughts/opinions?!