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Anyone thinking about homebirth?

post #1 of 72
Thread Starter 

I am planning my 2nd homebirth and for the most part I am really happy about that.  My one concern is that my primary midwife with my dd, who was a close friend and mentor, and a midwife I have complete and total trust in, is NO LONGER PRACTICING...UGGGGH.  I really liked the other midwife that attended pipers birth, but she has less trust in birth and many years less experience...and a track record for unnecessary transfers.  The other midwife in the area, I have heard horrible stories about...like she told my friend that her birth team were all going to try to sleep and she should try to labor quietly so that everyone else could get some rest. The poor girl was left all alone and was trying to control her sounds, geewiz.  At another birth, she and her partner both left a laboring mom to go to another birth without checking her to see her status.  I won't choose her, which leaves me with the one who does unnecessary transports.  I suppose I just have to be really clear about my intentions to stay home.  Hospitals really freak me out...they are a super last resort in truly necessary situations.  

 

I'd love to hear what you all are planning and whether or not you have a chosen provider. 

post #2 of 72
I'm staying home for my second, and sticking with the same midwife who is pretty great. I, too, am uncomfortable with hospitals so I'm delighted she's not going to the beach or something in July. :-)
post #3 of 72

I had a 3 hour home birth with my daughter and it was wonderful.  I plan on having another one.  I'm still undecided about whether we'll stick with the midwife from before (we moved across country at 37 weeks last time and didn't have much opportunity to "shop around"), she was great, but I never felt super close to her. Since my first birth was so fast there's a good chance this one will be even faster, so a home birth might be what I'd get regardless. We'll see!

post #4 of 72

I really wish that a home birth was an option for me, but in a tiny 1 bedroom apartment, 3rd floor with no elevator, I really don't feel that it is the best option for me. I am hoping to go to one of the free-standing birth centers

post #5 of 72

We're planning our third homebirth.   My DS's midwife is local, but I never clicked with her.   I had an initial appointment with a new midwife Wednesday, and I liked her OK.  

 

turtlemamameg, we also wish we could have our first midwife (she's still practicing, but we moved since then.)  She was an absolute dream!!!    

 

bremen, that does sound tough.  A free standing birth center can be great though, I'm sure!  I actually wanted to do that with my first, but it was two hours away and so we went with home birth instead and lucked upon an amazing midwife. 

post #6 of 72
We're hoping for a homebirth for our first. Its not that usual in france and my french is still quite shaky ( the only hb midwife we've found so far speaks only french). We also live in an apartment ( and as of now free standing birth centers are still not allowed in france). But I've found a bilingual doula and dh will be here to help as well. So I'm hopeful things will work out. Our meeting with the mw was rescheduled from today to next Friday. I would love to plan for a waterbirth if thats something she's open to.
post #7 of 72

We are planning on a homebirth. We've met with two midwives so far and are meeting with two more next week. We both loved the second so we will likely go with her, unless we love one of the other two. One of them is a provider with my insurance so that might impact our decision, though I don't think it will much. This is my first and I'm actually really excited about birthing at home. I don't have a fear of hospitals and we actually have a pretty decent baby friendly hospital here with a great team of midwives, but home just feels like the right decision for us. 

post #8 of 72
I am!! DD was a waterbirth at home (in a little 3-rd floor apartment with no elevator!) And my midwife was amazing!! Heartbreakingly she is away in July, but she highly recommended the second midwife from my last birth (who I liked) or a midwife new to the practice. I'm still waiting to to see who I get...
post #9 of 72

Bremen, My first baby was born in our <400 sq ft i-br in Sweden; it was actually in student housing, and my midwives heard guys on the roof drinking and cheering after each contraction, thinking I was having the night of my life (which, you know, I was...).  If it's your heart, you can make it work anywhere!

I am planning for my 3rd HB, although I am still mulling over midwife options which is stressing me out a bit.  But, I am so looking forward to it, and excited that many of you all are too!

post #10 of 72

I am comfortable with the free-standing birth center. Honestly, the rooms there look so much more comfortable than things would be at home. I don't have a clothesdryer, and our bathtub is tiny. In other situations, I would love to have a homebirth, but for this one, I feel the birth center is the right choice. In case a transfer is needed, I would much rather go from a birth center than either have to walk down all those stairs, or have someone try to carry me! The appeal is also great of leaving the mess somewhere else.

If I had a house with a big tub or room for one, and a dryer, and and and, I would love a home birth, but I think a freestanding center is as close as I can come. 

post #11 of 72

I hoping things line up for one! DH isn't convinced (yet), but the midwife who did my prenatal care (but wasn't on-call for the delivery) is opening up a HB practice! She's also trying to get where she can take insurance. I had DS2 at a baby-friendly hospital. It was a great experience (compared to my first birth in a diff. hospital), but I'd love to have a HB.

post #12 of 72
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Bremen, My first baby was born in our <400 sq ft i-br in Sweden; it was actually in student housing, and my midwives heard guys on the roof drinking and cheering after each contraction, thinking I was having the night of my life (which, you know, I was...).

spitdrink.gif That is hilarious!!

 

I'm planning another home birth, for sure! I'll be calling my midwife tomorrow to dibs my space before her calendar fills up :) I planned home births with my other 3, but I transferred and had a c-section with my first. Babies 2 & 3 cooperated and were born at home.

post #13 of 72
Thread Starter 

krjt- what a great story.

post #14 of 72

We are planning our 6th unassisted birth. Hospitals are not for birthing (for me)  I am really happy I started out birthing at home, it is such a wonderful experience.

 

Good luck with your midwife, I hope you get the birth you need!

post #15 of 72
Thread Starter 

Wow Elektra.  I am really impressed by the courage of any woman who goes unassisted.  I would love it if you ever wanted to share your experiences.  Especially why you chose to go unassisted in the first place.  Do you birth really quickly?

post #16 of 72
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Wow Elektra.  I am really impressed by the courage of any woman who goes unassisted.  I would love it if you ever wanted to share your experiences.  Especially why you chose to go unassisted in the first place.  Do you birth really quickly?

 

I really do not consider it brave. I just feel like I know my body better than anyone. I feel that if I am going to bring a child into the world I need to be able to be responsible for that baby. I know that bad things can happen in birth, that being said if anything ever happened to my baby during an assisted birth I would never be able to forgive myself. I would always think that it was my fault for trusting someone outside of my family who was only in for the profit. 

If something happens on my watch I know I did my best because no one loves that child as much as I do, no one knows exactly what that child needs except me. 

I do not feel like women are ready for motherhood until they can face their fears, it does not mean that you must have them tucked into your belt. But that you are ready to take them on. Life is about challenging yourself I have learned so much from my births.

 

This is my personal philosophy, and I do not think badly of anyone who chooses what works best for them. I am not walking their path and cannot judge their actions. I always feel terrible when I post something like this and it makes other ladies feel like I think less of them, because that is not true I know you are all doing your best.

 

No I do not think I birth quickly.

 

It was actually my husbands idea. We had intended to go to the birth center in Tucson they required an ultrasound for dating because I came in late to care, we declined and my husband said that we  should just have the baby at home. I never questioned it it was just the right thing for us.

 

We had our first born, our daughter who passed before birth, my second son, the twins and our baby.

 

That is birth order but in difficulty I would say second birth (still-birth), fifth birth (youngest), first birth, third birth (second son) and then the fourth (twins)

post #17 of 72

We talked about a homebirth option, but decided to go with the hospital.  I wanted a CNM (due to some lingering issues from my son's birth) and there were only two in the area and the one we wanted is moving to Bali!  I'm a doula and have attended a birth with the other one, and I was not impressed with her neonatal care or her bedside manner.  Luckily, there are some great midwives who attend at the local hospital (where I have also done doula work and love most of the nursing staff), and they just got a tub! I'm hiring a doula, and we will probably labor at home for as long as possible.  Ideally, I'd like to be ready to push when I get to the hospital!  Plus, this hospital should be pretty close to getting its Baby Friendly designation--I gave birth at a BF hospital with my first, and it was a really awesome experience.  

post #18 of 72
Thread Starter 

Elektra, thank you so much for sharing.  I am much intrigued by the subject of UB.  You are a strong and responsible Mama. 

post #19 of 72

seriously thinking about it.  

 

my first was a c-section, my second was a vbac in a hospital and while i did get the drug-free, intervention-free vbac i wanted, it was very hard won.  my ob, who i thought was on my side, completely changed his tune once i reached 40 weeks.  from the moment i arrived at the hospital (and i stayed at home as long as i possibly could), i was treated as an emergency (#1 because i was a vbac candidate in a hospital where the vbac rate was 4% and #2 because i was, at this point, one day shy of 42 weeks).  my husband and one lone nurse were the only people in the room on my side.  considering all the obstacles, i guess it's a small miracle that i got my vbac at all.  after the ordeal i said to my husband, "our next child will be born at home".  

 

i guess we need to talk about it.  my insurance has changed, so i'd have a different ob and would be in a different (more vbac-friendly) hospital.  lots to think about, i suppose.

post #20 of 72
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seriously thinking about it.  

 

my first was a c-section, my second was a vbac in a hospital and while i did get the drug-free, intervention-free vbac i wanted, it was very hard won.  my ob, who i thought was on my side, completely changed his tune once i reached 40 weeks.  from the moment i arrived at the hospital (and i stayed at home as long as i possibly could), i was treated as an emergency (#1 because i was a vbac candidate in a hospital where the vbac rate was 4% and #2 because i was, at this point, one day shy of 42 weeks).  my husband and one lone nurse were the only people in the room on my side.  considering all the obstacles, i guess it's a small miracle that i got my vbac at all.  after the ordeal i said to my husband, "our next child will be born at home".  

 

i guess we need to talk about it.  my insurance has changed, so i'd have a different ob and would be in a different (more vbac-friendly) hospital.  lots to think about, i suppose.


Good for you for holding your ground!  Way to help raise that statistic.  I know you will find the decision that is right for you.  In my experience with hb midwives, you can count on them supporting natural birth through to delivery...and the midwives I have worked with trusted my ability to take charge of my labor and were there to assist me and baby should we need it.  It was a tremendously empowering experience.  I have friends who have had similar great experiences in the birth center near us.  Good luck in your decision.

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