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post #61 of 72

Yep, planning an unassisted pregnancy and freebirth for our first.  I work through Indie Birth to support other women who choose unassisted birth as well.  Talking to a few through our free consult program tonight actually!

post #62 of 72

How do you prepare for unassisted birth?

 

We are still planning a homebirth if possible.

post #63 of 72

Read as many books as you possibly can, especially ones with birth stories. It really helps to see what's "normal" and not what most people would call "complications", and to see how the midwives handled things. Have your birth kit ready, and whatever herbal blends you feel good about for bleeding afterwards. I would make sure to have a bottle of chlorophyll on hand and to drink a couple Tbls in water as soon after birth as you can. Even if you didn't bleed much, it makes a huge difference with feeling better and not woozy. I even take it during my periods and it makes me feel better.

Those are just my thoughts from experience.

post #64 of 72

Also, one hint my MW told me was that if you end up with a footling or even a frank breech, it's good to be in water so the baby doesn't try to take a breath when the cool air hits part of its body. Otherwise you can deal with fluid in the lungs. If they are under warm water, they won't try to breathe yet.

post #65 of 72

I don't think I've asked this yet - has anyone had a positive waterbirth experience with a posterior-positioned baby (whether persistent posterior or not)? I had a posterior-positioned labor (not certain of the birth, I couldn't see it myself) and spent most of it in the tub, but it didn't help at all with progression or comfort and was actually quite painful. I was very young and thought that that was normal for labor; at some point afterward, I realized that it was "back labor".

 

With our upcoming homebirth, I'm a bit nervous about pursuing a waterbirth - mostly because I had such a negative experience in the water during my first birth. If anyone has any "success stories" then I'd absolutely love to hear them, please and thank you. I don't want to pursue getting and funding a pool if it will be unused.

 

Thanks!

post #66 of 72

Oh my goodness! Definitely do not go with the second option you mentioned! We are planning a homebirth (waterbirth) for our first, and I am really excited about it! Luckily a good number of midwives work around where I live, and we found a great woman with lots of experience in the field and whom we trust completely, and who trusts in the birth process (she is very hands-off she says). My husband and I instantly fell in love with her about 20 minutes into our interview!  I agree about hospital being a last resort for necessary reasons, I'm hoping everything will go well and I will be able to labor and birth in my familiar, relaxing space :) The only drawback is how much she costs...she has an unbelievably reasonable fee which we paid in full early and got a 400$ discount, so super reasonable. The thing is paying any money at all! A few weeks after I found out I was pregnant I was already thinking about having an unassisted birth, but then made a different decision. If I lived closer to my husband's family maybe I would have stuck with it, they are very birth minded (my MIL had all her children at home and my SIL had an amazing unassisted birth with her third) and I would love to have them with me. Maybe in the future?

 

I'm confident my midwife will take the time to listen to my needs, just like I'm sure the first midwife you mentioned (who is practicing still) will do for you, your confidence and need for a homebirth will make her weigh her decisions carefully.


Edited by Jenny Johnson - 2/3/14 at 6:41pm
post #67 of 72

For the posterior baby positive story, my first was posterior and I had painless labor up to 10cm. Then we got to the hospital, I felt uncomfortable and hated being there and started closing my cervix.... that was the only painful part.

post #68 of 72

I think the best preparation for UC depends on your personality and learning style.  There are many people who just trust it and go for it with minimal prep and that is legitimate.  Others want to learn a lot and sort of "be their own midwife".  If that is more the sort of person you are, I'd say Indie Birth's 5 week class is awesome, and Gentle Birth, Gentle Mothering is a good place to start.  Watching lots of birth videos (need to be sort of discriminating about which ones though) and then whatever preparation you want in the way of potential complications or having a plan for when you would ask for help can be good.  That comes from reading, learning the possibilities, figuring out what your comfort zone is, having a "plan" if you want one.  I sort of fall into the second category since I have been studying midwifery and going to births for over 3 years, but I will be actively trying to be less of "my own midwife" during the process, though I do know what to watch for and how to handle various issues.  I actually was thinking of writing a new blog post about how to prepare with other resources since I've seen a lot of people asking this question and it would be nice to be able to just point them towards a post.  I'll post it here when I get it done :)  We do free 20 minute consults through Indie Birth too, and even women seeing midwives have really benefitted from hearing alternative perspectives and getting new resources in their hands.  

post #69 of 72
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Originally Posted by Margo Nelson View Post
 

I think the best preparation for UC depends on your personality and learning style.  There are many people who just trust it and go for it with minimal prep and that is legitimate.  Others want to learn a lot and sort of "be their own midwife".  If that is more the sort of person you are, I'd say Indie Birth's 5 week class is awesome, and Gentle Birth, Gentle Mothering is a good place to start.  Watching lots of birth videos (need to be sort of discriminating about which ones though) and then whatever preparation you want in the way of potential complications or having a plan for when you would ask for help can be good.  That comes from reading, learning the possibilities, figuring out what your comfort zone is, having a "plan" if you want one. 

 

I'm looking forward to your blog post.

 

Gentle Birth, Gentle Mothering is by far my favorite book on birth! I also like having a copy of Emergency Childbirth on hand, the same way I stock up on a few tinctures that I will probably not have to use - mostly to reassure other people. :) I'd add a few blogs to the list of really helpful preparation for UC for people who like to research - Gloria Lemay and Midwife Thinking are rich sources of information and inspiration.

post #70 of 72

I would love to do a homebirth or birthcenter option, but sadly, we cannot afford it. We have looked for different options, and midwives to work with, and ways to come up with the money, but without any luck. Excited that there are lots of mamas that can afford it. Perhaps the increase in homebirthing/birthcenter births will continue to make it more accessible for others!

 

Best to you all in your births!

post #71 of 72
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Originally Posted by Caledvwlch View Post
 

I don't think I've asked this yet - has anyone had a positive waterbirth experience with a posterior-positioned baby (whether persistent posterior or not)? I had a posterior-positioned labor (not certain of the birth, I couldn't see it myself) and spent most of it in the tub, but it didn't help at all with progression or comfort and was actually quite painful. I was very young and thought that that was normal for labor; at some point afterward, I realized that it was "back labor".

 

With our upcoming homebirth, I'm a bit nervous about pursuing a waterbirth - mostly because I had such a negative experience in the water during my first birth. If anyone has any "success stories" then I'd absolutely love to hear them, please and thank you. I don't want to pursue getting and funding a pool if it will be unused.

 

Thanks!


I am one of those people that just doesn't get along with water birth. I tried with all of mine but it just seemed to make things hurt worse. I found being on all fours or squatting/leaning over a ball worked better for me, even with my babies that weren't posterior. You just have to find what works for you and go with it.

 

I am actually planning a hospital birth this time. I secretly hope to do an unassisted home birth. My last labor was only 40 min so it just might happen :) .

post #72 of 72
I'm using a midwife & I'm over 98% sure I'll have a home birth. I have an interview next week with a midwife. If I like her as much in person as I did over the phone, I am hiring her! She only does home births. I'm actually excited about birthing at home. I'm a FTM. I'm going for a water birth too if I decide to birth at home.
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