Until the age of 3 she was a wonderful loving and kind kid. Now she is mean, nasty, angry, and a bully. She does this to us and to everyone else around her. She is mean to people she doesn't know and people she knows alike. She is constantly testing, whiny, and bratty.
Examples: at school she is mean to all of the kids. She has preconcieved notions about all of them and thinks they're below her. She tries to be the boss of them and scolds them when they're doing something wrong. The teacher tries to put her in line and remind her that she's not the teacher, but she just turns her nose up at her and talks back to her teacher. Her teacher will tell her that if she is bad, bad things come along with that, and DD's response is "I want bad things." She does this constantly.
She screams if she doesn't get what she wants, throws fits, hits people, pushes, shoves, and I just end up defeated in a corner. I have tried every approach. I have tried being nice, I have tried rederecting, I have resorted to star charts, taking toys away, bribes, yelling, NOTHING works. Nothing at all. When she loses toys, she doesn't care. She doesn't care about threats. Nothing fazes her. It's like she has everyone wrapped around her finger and she knows it.
I have no idea what to do. I'm so close to taking her to a psychiatrist. When you ask her why she did bad things, she lies and says she doesn't do bad things. She plays games and says one thing and then changes her tune. She keeps saying that she'll be good "tomorrow" but that day never comes.
I feel defeated. I am to the point where I am entering a state of depression, and I've never ever been depressed before. :(