My name is Melanie and I have an almost 3 year old boy named Sullivan and an almost 1 year old girl named Hazel. My concerns lie with Sullivan. He is most likely quite gifted. I've been doing some research lately and it seems that academically he is about at a mid-kindergarten level. He hasn't been formally tested and I don't really feel the need for that just yet.
So here is my issue. I enrolled him in preschool, which started in September. I knew that academically, it wouldn't be a challenge and was just hoping to get him some fun social time without mommy and little sister right there. Well, it is backfiring. Big time. The communication and cognitive barrier has proved to be something he is aware of. He will only talk to his teachers. He just goes off and does his own this the entire 2.5 hours he is there. He participates in the little group activities, but that is about as far as he gets with socializing. I've mentioned in passing that I think he'd do better in the 3-4 year old room. Though honestly, he'd probably even prefer the 4-5 year Pre-K room. They just brush off his aloofness as being his personality, saying he's a loner and just likes to do his own thing. Well, I've seen him many times strike up conversations and initiate play with complete strangers. But he usually seeks out kids a few years older. I've asked him why he doesn't talk to his classmates or play with them and he responded with "they just don't like to play my games, mommy. So I just like to play by myself." Money well spent...NOT.
Anyway, my question is how can I approach this situation a little more directly without seeming like some sort of pushy parent? This whole experience has me very discouraged and is really making me thing homeschooling is the only option with Sullivan.
I appreciate your input and advice. This isn't really something I can talk to my local friends about without sounding uppity. KWIM?