So I'm planning a homebirth with the same midwife I used for my second birth, and since I'm just more nervous this time than last time, I decided to just find a back-up doctor in case I feel like I need a second opinion on something, or I am risked out of homebirth for whatever reason.
And my SIL just had a baby, and she had a fantastic experience and loved her doctor, so I figured why not try him since he was in my network. But he doesn't accept patients who have been seen by a midwife. Even if I developed toxemia at 36 weeks or needed a c-section for whatever reason, he wouldn't see me. Now I live in probably the most homebirth friendly state in the US, so I'm a little shocked.
Is the best way to get back-up prenatal care if you need it just to lie and say you haven't received any prenatal care? Last time I just assumed I would go see the obgyn that I saw in the past, but I'm scared to even make that phone call now in case I get kicked out of her care too. I'd heard about stuff like this, but I kinda assumed things would be different here. It's like I'm tainted! But seriously, if a doctor will take a patient who has seen another doctor, then why would they not take a patient who has seen a midwife? It's seems like an intentional move to make homebirth more dangerous.