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post #41 of 64

Thank you all so much. It was a very sad day. It was 20 degrees out, I wore my coat during the final viewing, the Mass and the service. I honestly forgot I was even "hiding something" I was so "in it" My grandfather was the District Chief for Boston Fire Department for 40+ years, married to his beloved wife for 68 years. There were 9 grandchild, and 18 great grandchildren to remind us of what he created. My brother, is now the 4th generation only son and the only one to carry on our family name. I reminded him yesterday to give me a nephew. I also shared my news only with him. He welled with tears. 

 

I got through the day, told one person I wanted to (and can keep my secret) and can still tell my children and the rest of the family in the way I want to. I want to thank you all again, you are wonderful women!!  

post #42 of 64

So glad it went well. I love the reaction of your brother, and glad you got to tell him!

post #43 of 64

We told ours (ages 7 & 5) within days of finding out.

post #44 of 64

We are telling our 5 & 3yr old tonight (10 weeks). Wanted to wait as long as possible for fear of m/c, but I have a home doppler and have found the hb right along so we are ready to announce tonight - then they will tell the rest of the family at Christmas:)

post #45 of 64
Welp... That was fun. We gave them big bro/sis shirts and ornaments and they didn't catch on, then the 3yr old threw a giant fit because he wanted to open more presents. Oh well.
post #46 of 64
We have a plan to tell them Christmas morning. They are 3, 6, and 8. I'm terrified and may reconsider. I'll be a day shy of 9 weeks. Exactly when we discovered my ectopic loss last July.

I've already seen my bean and a heartbeat right at six weeks. Everything was fine. I've had absolutely no issues. I had plenty of issues all along last time like spotting and almost no MS. No spotting this time and PLENTY of MS.

My hubby thinks it's fine to tell them. I'm just so scared because after my last loss my 8 year old told me not to tell them until we were absolutely sure the next one wouldn't be taken away. I really don't want to break their little hearts again.

I just don't know what to do.
post #47 of 64

@MommaCrystal did you tell them? I chickened out. I just decided I wanted more time "alone" with this news. I can't believe I didn't tell them!!!!!

post #48 of 64
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@MommaCrystal
 did you tell them? I chickened out. I just decided I wanted more time "alone" with this news. I can't believe I didn't tell them!!!!!

We did. It was rather anticlimactic. I was taking their picture and said... 123 Say Mommy's having a baby! They just shrugged it off. Made a few comments about hoping this one stays. I cried. And I haven't heard a word about it since. Their grandmother was here and she asked them about it. It took quite a bit for them to even get what she was talking about.

I think they were too wound up in Christmas and maybe they are protecting themselves a bit from the sadness of another loss.
post #49 of 64
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We did. It was rather anticlimactic. I was taking their picture and said... 123 Say Mommy's having a baby! They just shrugged it off. Made a few comments about hoping this one stays. I cried. And I haven't heard a word about it since. Their grandmother was here and she asked them about it. It took quite a bit for them to even get what she was talking about.

I think they were too wound up in Christmas and maybe they are protecting themselves a bit from the sadness of another loss.


Oh MamaCrystal...I hope your family will rejoice with you soon.  It is likely that they are protecting themselves, but it would have been nice to have had some joyful responses. 

post #50 of 64

I second that turtlemamameg, I bet when baby starts kicking around and making their little self known there will be much excitement MamaCrystal. :flowersforyou 

 

I looked at all the pictures from the holiday and you really can't tell I'm pregnant in them which is great, if a family member noticed they would have said it. I'm 13 weeks today. seems to be going faster than i remember. .. 

post #51 of 64

we told our children a couple weeks ago (about a week before we told the rest of the family over the holidays).

 

ds (2 1/2) didn't really get it.  dd (6 1/2) was absolutely thrilled.  it was such a relief because i was a little nervous to tell her.  she immediately ran over and gave me a huge hug (then ran to her room and found this -- we read it a lot when i was pregnant with ds).  since then (when i lie with her in her bed at night) she insists on putting her head on my belly (a little ritual we had when her brother was in there).  brings tears to my eyes every time.  :love

post #52 of 64

Things got better AFTER Christmas.  I think it was just lost to them in the present hoopla.  I did have to tell them to stop saying IF the baby comes or IF we have the baby.  I told them though nothing is ever for certain we have every reason to think this baby will be here come July so we need to change our words.  They agreed. 

 

The 3 year old just keeps telling me to take the baby out already so she can hold it! 

post #53 of 64

MommaCrystal that is great news!!! I'm so cranky these past few days I feel like I should tell them so they know it's not them, it's just my hormones :)

post #54 of 64

I am trying to slowly introduce the idea of having another baby to my little ones (3,5 & 20m). So far it is still too abstract for the older one but she pulled out her momma-is-having-a baby books that we were looking at before her sister was born. The little one does not know whats going on yet.

post #55 of 64

We told our kids (6 and 3) pretty early.  I was so sick and in bed so much that they really needed an explanation.  In fact, once they knew, they actually started helping me a lot more with things around the house!  They are thrilled and can hardly wait to find out if they get a brother or sister. :)  My 3 yr old dd likes to pretend she is pregnant too, which is adorable.  She's quite the little mommy already.

 

We also told our kids pretty early with our last pregnancy, but that ended in miscarriage.  When we miscarried, I regretted telling our kids about the pregnancy at first.  But, now I am glad we did.  I think it helped us all bond as a family.  And the kids didn't freak out when I would start crying randomly.  They just showered me with hugs and kisses because they knew I was sad about our baby dying.  My oldest, 6ds, is particularly sweet and sensitive.  He likes to talk about his two siblings "in heaven" (we've had two miscarriages now) with Grandpa (my dad).  It was painful at first, but I think it actually helped me work through a lot of my grief faster.  And I think it may also set a good example for the kids that grief is normal and we must each work through it.  Time will tell!

post #56 of 64

mareseatoats I want a pony too!! If I have a boy will you get me a pony????

 

after losing her husband of 68 years, my Nanas not doing great, I wouldn't expect her to be though. I don't think anyone loved anyone as much as she loved him, save maybe how much he loved her back. Makes me afraid to love someone that much :( enough sad stuff. I had 31 very well lived years under his watchful eye. For that I am eternally grateful.  

post #57 of 64

So we tried to tell ds (5) today..... He didn't believe us!

post #58 of 64
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lol

post #59 of 64
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So we tried to tell ds (5) today..... He didn't believe us!

That's funny!  You should have taken a video of that conversation! 

 

I've needed to repeatedly convince my children that this baby is staying.  They want it to stay, but they are leary. It hurts my heart that they have to face this kind of reality.  

post #60 of 64

It wasn't that funny he's just like "nah" and then proceeds to tell us about his (imaginary) brother living on the farm.

 

I really shouldn't have been surprised though, this kid won't believe we're out of yogurt without checking the fridge.

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