Hello. Thank you for being interested in the parent's perspective. I am happy to hear that you, as a future teacher, are interested. I am not the best person to answer your questions - I hope some other mamas here will chime in with the specifics. My experience with diagnosis and the school system was generally negative. No formal therapy was helpful with YoungSon, but he is thriving today. I have no clue if his diagnosis of ASD was accurate - he has "outgrown" all the symptoms that were so serious 10 years ago. We did not fit into any of the behavioral programs that were offered, and ended up declining the whole system. This does not mean that I think all approaches are useless - I know that for some kids the traditional programs are a godsend.
The biggest message I would want to send to future special ed teachers is: please listen to the parents! We are the PhD level experts on our individual children. We are the ones with the vested interest in the long-term outcome of whatever you do. As dedicated as you are, you will only be with him for a year or two - I am the one with the lifetime interest. I don't mean this to minimize your dedication. We appreciate your sincere caring, and the education you bring to the team. But if we say that we have tried an approach (behavior charts, time-outs, more structure, whatever), and it isn't meaningful to our kid, please believe us.
I hope this conversation grows from some of the other folks here - I know my perspective is only mine. I admire that you are sincerely asking for the parents' perspective. Please listen to the veiwpoints of all who respond. We all have different opinions, but please trust that all are sincere.