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Co-sleeping/Room Sharing Advice Needed

post #1 of 5
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I need some advice!  We are pregnant with #4, and I desperately want to co-sleep or at least share a room with this little one.  However, my first 3 babies and I didn't sleep when sharing a room.  I woke up at every little noise, and I swear I had super smellers because the moment I laid down (regardless of time) they would want to nurse.  We tried sound machines and fans, putting the co-sleeper/bassinet in different parts of the room, etc.  Any other tips?  

post #2 of 5
Perhaps this is not a very popular opinion on MDC, but I think the best place for your baby to sleep is wherever you and your baby sleep best. So if the two of you get the most sleep with your baby in another part of your room or even in another part of your house, I would do it. Especially with three older children to look after, sleep is of prime importance!

My first was a terrible co-sleeper, constantly snuffling and squirming and waking me (but not himself! ) up. I had it in my head that babies needed to co-sleep, so we kept at it. But often, I would get up and sleep on the sofa, leaving my (heavier sleeping) DH in bed with the baby. If I had it to do over again, we might have tried having him sleep in his crib detached from our bed or even in the next room.

My second was no fun to sleep next to, lots of kicks and wiggles, but at least she was relatively quiet. We had her in a co-sleeper and we both slept great (until she outgrew the co-sleeper and we moved to Germany and she became a terrible sleeper, but that's not the point...). Often, I would keep her next to me in bed after she fell asleep, because she was so sweet and I loved to snuggle, but I would be woken after an hour by flailing little arms, so back into the co-sleeper she would go.

I think so much depends on your baby! This time, we will start with co-sleeping/ sidecar crib and see how it goes. If we get another calmish sleeper, great. If we get another wiggly snorter, I won't be afraid to have him/her sleep in a crib in the other bedroom with the older children. A little musical beds never hurt anyone!
post #3 of 5
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Originally Posted by CrunchyMamaToBe View Post

I think the best place for your baby to sleep is wherever you and your baby sleep best.
I agree with crunchymamatobe. With a newborn sleep for both of you at the same time is precious, even if happens in separate rooms or across the room from each other. I'd try it since it seems like something that's important to you, but if it's not working for you or baby, reassess and consider other options.

My two kids we're complete opposites. Cosleeping was a miracle with my first son, and everyone slept better. My second has always preferred to sleep on his own, and rarely even liked falling asleep in my arms. I don't really have any tips, just wait any see what this baby is like!
post #4 of 5

I agree with the pother comments to wait and see what this baby is like. My DD sleeps wonderfully in our bed and loves to snuggle (which I adore) so co-sleeping worked perfectly for us! I tried to have her in a bassinet in our room but I was the same as you and woke to every little sound or mvement and would have to get up to see her because we didn't get a co-sleeper until later but we had already established co-sleepiong in the bed together and it just worked better.

 

I can't wait to see if baby #2 will be the same or not!

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Originally Posted by truelife View Post

 I woke up at every little noise, and I swear I had super smellers because the moment I laid down (regardless of time) they would want to nurse.  
My kids absolutely could smell me too....no matter what time or how silently I entered the room, they would go from deep sleep to rooting and crying!

Past the early months, we both slept better apart as well. I agree on taking each baby's lead to see how they sleep best.
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