I have a 4yo daughter who has always been high strung. She was colicky for her first 6 months and since then tends to overreact to anything and everything.
She can be very sweet and giving, but then just freak out without warning. Most people roll their eyes or call her a drama queen. When she freaks out I cannot figure out how to help her calm down.
Someone suggested that she might have some sort of sensory processing disorder. I don't know anything about those and don't know what to do. We can't afford to go to the doctor and I really would like to avoid going to the public schools who will then have a file on her for who knows how long or what use.
I used to have similar issues when I was a child and mostly grew out of it and was hoping that she would do the same. But she is so out of control that it is negatively touching different areas of our lives. People don't want her around and even I get impatient with her and don't know what to do. I have a 2yo and am due with our third in February.
She has been working on potty training since last Christmas when she decided to be like her older cousin and she still pees a bit in her underwear every day. Sometimes going through 4 or 5 pairs of underwear a day. She also seems to have a hard time dealing with clothes. She prefers to be naked and hates certain types of clothes like jeans, which are "cold."
Loud sounds lead to crying and shaking even if she was having fun before. It doesn't matter if it is fireworks, loud music, or even her brother crying. Most often she shouts for quiet or just starts crying or screaming incoherently.
If kids aren't playing the way she likes she starts screaming and crying.
I don't want her to grow up isolated because no one can stand to be around her and I already see her being shut out by other kids and not getting invited to certain gatherings, and I can only assume it is because she is unpleasant to be around.
Can anyone point me in the right direction to helping my sweet girl manage herself? I don't even know where to begin. When I posted on Facebook looking for resources for my difficult child I got the "OMG, just spank her" reply that I expected which is why I waited so long to ask for help. But someone mentioned this forum so here I am hoping to find some wisdom that will be more understanding about our situation.