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How much do you go out/stay home?

post #1 of 11
Thread Starter 

Hey everyone! This is just a simple curiosity question - wondering what other people's days are like, in my ongoing quest to figure out what works for us...

 

So I'm wondering how much of your week is spent at home vs out and about? What factors play into this? Do you make a particular effort to be home more or go out more?

 

For us, thinking Mon-Fri, we are about 50/50. Out Monday mornings, usually home in the afternoons though sometimes with a friend here after school. Tuesday mornings are usually home, Tuesday afternoons are usually out. Wednesdays I try very hard not to leave the house! Thursdays we are out all day and pretty much the same for Fridays, though we don't leave the house until late morning on Fridays (but it ends up feeling like we are out for most of the day because we don't normally get into anything meaty in the mornings since we know we'll be going out soon). In January, things will change a bit and I'm trying to decide if I want to be out more or home more.

 

My oldest isn't very good at entertaining himself at home and is very social, but he has accepted over recent years that the only way he gets to spend all day every day with kids close to his ago is by going to school, and he doesn't want to do that! My youngest - almost 3 - also loves to go out. But it tires me out too much! (And doesn't leave a lot of time for household chores and my own projects.) Especially with winter coming and snow suits and no nap and no car and oh god can I please just hibernate? I love where we live (in a small city, pretty central location) but right now I want to move to a lake in the middle of the woods and never ever leave. Heh.

 

Anyhow, just mostly babbling, forgive me! :) But if you want to babble along with me, please do! :)

post #2 of 11

With my elder three kids, until they were older than 9 or so we always made sure we had at least three days a week when we didn't have to leave the house, preferably four days. They are pretty introverted, and while they enjoyed a regular social life, they needed a 'chill' day at home to recharge from most of our out-and-about days. Chilling included various outdoor activities, as we live in the forest so there tended to be a fair bit of activity, just not away from home. We had one Town Day, when we drove 90 minutes to a town where we could cram in a few activities that weren't available in our home village, and that day usually meant at least 6 hours away from home. When we were out and about on other days it was normally for 1-3 hours at most. More than that would poop us all out.

 

My youngest is a more sociable introvert. She is out and about for 1-4 hours every day, with the exception of Fridays. She has a monster Thursday which starts at 8:15 a.m. and keeps her away from home until 10:30 pm so Fridays she just curls up in the tub chair in the living room and reads or whatever. By Saturday she's ready to go again.

 

Miranda

post #3 of 11

My limit for wanting to go out (to take ds on kid oriented things like parkday) is about one activity that lasts a few hours 3 times a week with a day at home in between. That's a really good amount for both of us. Right now, he really only has a once a month activity. He'd like more action but there isn't much nearby for his age that appeals to him. He's 12 and not interested in sports or more structured activities... He gets a fair bit of social time playing online games. We got out more when he was younger, parkday once a week, an outing to a museum, etc.

post #4 of 11
My kids are young. Oldest is 5 and youngest is 9 months. Right now we try to get out every morning which includes grocery shopping, park homeschool day, storytime at the library, or just a nature walk on the trail by my house. A couple of hours is my limit.
post #5 of 11
Thread Starter 

Thanks everyone!

 

Miranda, 90 minutes to town? That would not have me going often either! :)

 

I go back and forth on if we spend too much/too little time at home. My youngest (almost 3) started the day announcing that home is boring, hee hee. It's not! For him anyhow - he's happily playing with his toys now, though will no doubt want me to join him soon. But he loves to go out. My oldest goes through phases, though pretty much *always* wants to go out if it's to be with a friend. The problem we have when we are home is - ah, that's another thread, will start later! :)

 

But I struggle with the social aspect of it. I wish my oldest would play with the neighbourhood kids, but he won't. So I try to make sure we are out with his friends fairly often so he has that. I just wished we lived in a neighbourhood full of homeschooled kids that were home all day so the kids could roam and play and come back home whenever they wanted to do 'home stuff'. Dreams...

post #6 of 11

I hear ya.  It's a fine balance.  The girls love going out, but I find that staying out too late or too long really bothers me and throws us off balance.  The bedtime and eating routines are really important for us and it makes me want to stay in to have to rearrange those things.  

 

It's completely different for me though, when there's warmer weather.  I am much healthier in the spring/summer and my mind just works better.  I can pack snacks, lunches, make food ahead of time, etc. when the weather is warmer, so we stay out a lot more during those times and balance restores itself more naturally.

post #7 of 11

We are a lot happier and far less tired if we limit time away from the house.  I've backed off trying to do too much out and about with them.  We double up on gymnastics and riding every other week.  Gym is weekly.  Girl Scouts weekly through the school year.  Once a month I take them to a short housekeeping job of mine where they can earn some money, and we go swimming at the Y afterwards.  4-H is once a month during the school year.  

 

So, we generally only go to our activities because that is their choice  I'll do a short errand if absolutely necessary.

post #8 of 11
We tend to stay home a lot also. We just moved into a bigger town, next to a city, into a bigger house (from 900sqft cabin in the woods to 2500sqft in a small city). It seems easier now to stay home as we are all more comfortable. In our tiny house cabin fever was terrible in the winter.
We do go to church on Sunday, my dd goes to youth group and helps with kids church on Sunday and Wed. Nights. And we usually ended up going into town once a week or so. It's just easier for me to keep the littles close to home.
post #9 of 11
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Originally Posted by MPsSweetie View Post

We tend to stay home a lot also. We just moved into a bigger town, next to a city, into a bigger house (from 900sqft cabin in the woods to 2500sqft in a small city). It seems easier now to stay home as we are all more comfortable. In our tiny house cabin fever was terrible in the winter.
We do go to church on Sunday, my dd goes to youth group and helps with kids church on Sunday and Wed. Nights. And we usually ended up going into town once a week or so. It's just easier for me to keep the littles close to home.

Yes, when my son was young, especially, living in my mom's big house made staying home easier. We could just go to a different part of the house for a change of scenery. And when he was really little, we'd circle the dining room table endlessly (me pulling pull toys while he followed and watched them work, lol.) Now that he is older, he doesn't seem to need as much space.

post #10 of 11

Depends.

 

In the winter we are home a lot - bundling up + going out doesn't seem as appealing, and as my DD says "there's so much to do here!" so we stay home and read, write, watch things on Youtube, do arts and crafts...once a week I try to have a two hour playdate here, which the kids love. I started watching my friends kids on Monday evenings for a few hours, and both kids look forward to that and I normally have something fun for them to do. Adventure-wise we try to do one or two adventures a week...we see my mom a few times a week too. But again it all rotates and varies by season. Ideally I'd like 3-4 days home with the others out. 

post #11 of 11
We have a tiny home. It's on three floors, but each floor's footprint is extremely small, so we go out to avoid ending up in a tangled heap in the living room, where we spent the majority of our time.
We go out most mornings, and are home by lunch for the day, with the rare exception of an errand or obligation.
We have one scheduled 2hr class for DD, and no other official commitments. We spend A LOT of time at the park or beach.
And by going 'out' I just mean outside somewhere, not necessarily to anything specific. When the weather is good, I let them play in the co-op courtyard while I do my own thing.
I'm not excited by the idea of needing to be anywhere at a specific time, so we rarely do anything like that.
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