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Into the 2nd Trimester!

post #1 of 19
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Just wanted to have a thread to celebrate reaching the second trimester of 13 weeks pregnant, hope that's okay. It feels like an accomplishment for me and it seems to have taken ages to reach this point! Is it going slow for anyone else? I think now I'm in the second trimester it will speed up a bit. I'm starting to feel a little more attached to there being a little person growing inside me now, it helps to look up what the baby looks like at each weekly stage.

 

Hoping the nauseousness will completely disappear soon, some days are still bad. I haven't had my first doctor appointment yet, still figuring that will be about week 16 for me but it will be tricky around Christmas time. I have still not told anyone about this pregnancy, it's still a secret! I'm very nervous about how family are going to react badly when I tell them. I was planning to do it sooner until yesterday I overheard my mom say to someone during a conversation that if any of her daughters were pregnant right now she would cry gloomy.gif So that has worried me into wanting to keep it a secret until after Christmas for sure as I don't want people upset at that special time. Problem is I don't know if I will be able to conceal the bump for that long.

 

Anyone else not told people yet? Are you showing? I have had 2 comments lately about my weight, so I think it's becoming noticeable I am gaining weight....eek. 

 

Congrats to anyone else on reaching the second trimester! :joy 

post #2 of 19

I'll be in the second trimester officially on Wednesday, but I'm already feeling like I'm there. Thank god! Everyone knows I'm preggo, except facebook people. I think I'm not going to announce on facebook this time. I'll just let it slip.

 

I'm so sorry that you're having to deal with the possibility of disappointing people. I remember how that felt when I was pregnant with my first, and it was such a lonely time in my life. Depending on the situation, I would write an email telling family. That way you don't have to deal with their immediate reactions. You can point out that you're thrilled to be pregnant and need support during this time in your life. And although you understand they might not be as thrilled as you are at first, you hope they can put those feelings aside so your child doesn't have to feel anything but love. If you've got some holiday shoppers in your family, Christmas might be a good time to get used to the idea of another grandchild. 

post #3 of 19

I was hoping someone would create a thread for this :). Honestly after my appt at almost 12 weeks where I heard the heartbeat my concerns went down and I started to connect with the baby. I'll be 13 weeks on Friday!

 

The nausea is not gone but I am having some good stretches on my good days. I still have bad days.

post #4 of 19

Congrats ladies! I am 12 weeks exactly now. Does that count as 2nd trimester? or from 13 weeks? anyway...almost there. I never thought I would be anxious to see the Dr, but my 1st appt isn't until I will be 14 weeks, I haven't had any nausea at all. Just sore boobs and a bigger belly also not feeling any movement yet so I just would like to hear the heartbeat and know that everything is ok. My belly felt substantially smaller over the weekend which also got my mind running wild. arg. 

Why do you think your mom would be upset about your pregnancy? do you already have 6 kids or are you very young? there are 3 sisters in my family and I am the only one with kids, plus I live far from them so its not easy. My youngest sister came to help out for my last birth but she runs a summer craft shop and since she opens in early July, she said its much too busy that time of year she wouldn't be able to come and help.So I was thinking to get my mom to come since her schedule is more flexible and before I even had a chance to talk to her about it, Then I find out the other day that all of my family are planning a trip to Ireland for the exact time that I am due. like thanks a lot for the support! they can go to Ireland anytime but just because of my sister's shop they are planning it for June. She's too busy to come for my birth but sure she has time to go to Ireland for 2 weeks. thanks. ugh. family! 

post #5 of 19

It's like a switch flipped. I feel so much better, have energy again! I didn't fully realise how tired I was, until I wasn't anymore. Since the 11.5 week mark, it's been getting better, but now, just past 13, I feel normal again.

Hoping the same for everyone else, especially those who have been suffering with food aversions/nausea ... I escaped most of that, though last time in the 2nd trimester, I got horrible reflux :( and had to eat the blandest diet imaginable.

post #6 of 19
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Why do you think your mom would be upset about your pregnancy? do you already have 6 kids or are you very young? there are 3 sisters in my family and I am the only one with kids, plus I live far from them so its not easy. My youngest sister came to help out for my last birth but she runs a summer craft shop and since she opens in early July, she said its much too busy that time of year she wouldn't be able to come and help.So I was thinking to get my mom to come since her schedule is more flexible and before I even had a chance to talk to her about it, Then I find out the other day that all of my family are planning a trip to Ireland for the exact time that I am due. like thanks a lot for the support! they can go to Ireland anytime but just because of my sister's shop they are planning it for June. She's too busy to come for my birth but sure she has time to go to Ireland for 2 weeks. thanks. ugh. family! 

Not just my mom, my whole family will not be happy about it. Mainly due to the fact I'm not with the father, I will be a single mom for the second time. I already have a ds who is 10. I know it would be better to have the support of a partner, be married etc but that just isn't my situation right now. Yes it will be hard, but it's hard for many couples too, financially etc, some are even in bad abusive relationships and I would rather be a single mom than in an unhappy relationship which has it's effects on the children too. I'm trying to keep peaceful about it thinking I am already doing it with my ds, so I can do it again with this baby. I'm still scared, but not as terrified as I was in the first weeks after finding out I was pregnant. There are plenty of worse situations in this world.

 

SynEpona Glad you are feeling better! I am still nauseous daily and very tired! Hoping that ends soon for me too,

post #7 of 19
Snowydays- I think you have a wonderful attitude! A few of my friends grew up with single moms and they had wonderful, stable, happy childhoods. Your family has no reason to be anything other than happy for you. I was really scared to tell my family and friends when I got pregnant with DS, even though it was planned. Everyone had just met DH and they weren't too sure they liked him, plus we were totally broke and I was unemployed. But to my surprise, everyone was so supportive and happy for us! Even my aunt, who had made very blunt comments about how we should wait to have kids, ended up being overjoyed. Your family may surprise you- or they may not. Either way, know that there are lots of us here in the DDC who are so excited and happy for you!

I'm crashing this thread because I'm not officially into the second trimester yet. Only 10 more days!!! (but who's counting wink1.gif
post #8 of 19
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Thank you for saying that gitanamama :joy

post #9 of 19

Officially here too!  

Technically, 2nd tri runs from the first day of 13 weeks to 28 weeks.  Sometimes you can get super specific with exact day counts and stuff, and some people even say 2nd tri starts at the end of 13 weeks, BUT, that's when people count the week they are in differently.  For instance, I'm 13 weeks 2 days, OR I could say I'm in my 14th week of pregnancy.  Both are fine, but some sites say end of 13th week because technically, they are counting that first week, the week you were on probably on your period, as our 1st week.  It's all potentially very confusing if you let it be.  

I don't feel any differently at this point than I have all along.  I don't get morning sickness and am just usually tired.  That's till true, but I am a homeschooling mom to 4 kids, have a small homestead, and work a part time job in the evenings, so I'd be tired even if I wasn't pregnant.  :)

post #10 of 19
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Originally Posted by Earthylady View Post
 

Officially here too!  

Technically, 2nd tri runs from the first day of 13 weeks to 28 weeks.  Sometimes you can get super specific with exact day counts and stuff, and some people even say 2nd tri starts at the end of 13 weeks, BUT, that's when people count the week they are in differently.  For instance, I'm 13 weeks 2 days, OR I could say I'm in my 14th week of pregnancy.  Both are fine, but some sites say end of 13th week because technically, they are counting that first week, the week you were on probably on your period, as our 1st week.  It's all potentially very confusing if you let it be.  

I don't feel any differently at this point than I have all along.  I don't get morning sickness and am just usually tired.  That's till true, but I am a homeschooling mom to 4 kids, have a small homestead, and work a part time job in the evenings, so I'd be tired even if I wasn't pregnant.  :)

I'm confused. I thought they ALWAYS started counting from first day of your last Menstrual period assuming you ovulated on day 14. I ovulated late so mine is not my LMP...it's 2 weeks before my ovulation. There still is contention as my ovulation date... my due date is June 6th (picked by my midwife)... but according to FF it could be June 9th instead.... but based on other signs it could be June 2nd. LOL I do my counters based on June 6th but in terms of... "safe" dates and all that in my head I use June 9th.

 

So I was either 14 weeks on Monday, or I will be on Friday (tomorrow), or I will be this coming Monday. I STILL have nausea. :(

 

I found this:

The three basic ways to calculate trimesters

 
There are basically three ways of dividing up a pregnancy into the three trimesters; they are by: 
Development,   Gestation,   Conception. They give different dates for when the second trimester begins and for when the third trimester begins. Your health care provider might prefer to use theDevelopment method, while another Midwife or Doctor may use the Gestation method. 
I am sure they do that just to confuse pregnant women.  Big Grin

by Development:

This uses actual developmental stages to divide up a pregnancy. From LMP to 12 weeks the embryo develops all the major organs and becomes a fetus. From 12 weeks to 27 weeks the fetus continues developing and reaches viability. From 27 weeks on the fetus finishes development and prepares for delivery. Here the second trimester begins at 12w 0d and the third at 27w 0d.

by Gestation:

With this method you take the 40 weeks of gestation and divide into three equal stages. Here the second trimester begins at 13w 3d and the third at 26w 6d.

by Conception:

This method is where you take the 38 weeks of post conception development, divide by three, into the three equal trimesters. Here the second trimester begins at 14w 5d and the third at 27w 3d. 

 

http://www.baby2see.com/trimester_calculator.html

 

I'd say by development makes the most sense. Based on the first 2 I'm in the 2nd trimester, the last I'm not there yet. I know after 12 weeks your chance of miscarriage drops significantly..and most people feel better between 13-14 weeks.


Edited by Activia - 12/5/13 at 10:28am
post #11 of 19

Yes, but some people may say on day 2, that is the 1st week of pregnancy, whereas others would wait until day 7 to say they were 1 week pregnant.  So, that's where the confusion comes in later on.  That at 12 week, say.....2 days, one person would say they were 12 weeks, while another would say they were in their 13 th week.  It's all in how you choose to look at it I guess. :)  So it helps explain why some sites or people like this one - http://www.baby2see.com/pregnancylength.html  is saying 2nd tri starts on week 14.

post #12 of 19

I use the gestational approach. I'm not there yet no matter which way.

post #13 of 19
Second tri here since tuesday and I'm still fighting the nausea. With my first it didn't really get better until week 17 so I may be in the same boat this time around greensad.gif it's tough to pretend to be ok since people at work still don't know. Everything stinks and a couple of times I've had to leave a meeting 3 times for the bathroom- i don't know how much longer I can keep it up!
post #14 of 19
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Second tri here since tuesday and I'm still fighting the nausea. With my first it didn't really get better until week 17 so I may be in the same boat this time around greensad.gif it's tough to pretend to be ok since people at work still don't know. Everything stinks and a couple of times I've had to leave a meeting 3 times for the bathroom- i don't know how much longer I can keep it up!


I feel you...week 14 and I'm still fighting it too...It's been 9 weeks..

 

All I want for Christmas is the morning sickness part of this pregnancy to go away.....

post #15 of 19
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The nausea has eased off for me quite a lot, I'm not getting it all day long now yay! But I still get it in the mornings until about lunch time, no actual vomitting though so I am thankful for that. Super tired most of the time and a couple of people have mentioned I look tired. I don't think I have anaemia though as my prenatal contains iron and my eyes are not pale. I wake up during the night so that probably contributes to it.

post #16 of 19
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The nausea has eased off for me quite a lot, I'm not getting it all day long now yay! But I still get it in the mornings until about lunch time, no actual vomitting though so I am thankful for that. Super tired most of the time and a couple of people have mentioned I look tired. I don't think I have anaemia though as my prenatal contains iron and my eyes are not pale. I wake up during the night so that probably contributes to it.


I have a lot of problems with night waking as well. I am starting to think part of my problem is I go to bed too early (I just feel tired soo early) and then when I wake in the middle of the night I can't fall back asleep...

 

My nausea seemed a lot better today...although I was so super motivated to get Christmas stuff done that I think I was distracted. I do remember feeling it a couple of times, but really it wasnt that bad. It feels so nice to have the house decorated and it's a lot cleaner than it's been. It feels good.

post #17 of 19
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Activia I have been decorating our home too, we had the tree up but today I finished the decorations. Still need to do some cleaning but that never ends lol. Maybe the sleep thing is the same reason for me too since I go to bed quite early as well. I always fall back to sleep when I wake but it's annoying to wake up several times and need to pee also. I toss and turn.

 

Today my midwife phoned and asked me a few questions then said they will probably call me tomorrow with a date for my scan to get it done quickly as I am already 15 weeks and they usually do it at 12, she also mentioned the down syndrome test. I'm a bit worried about scheduling the scan during the right time because I don't have a lot of free time to make that appointment. I need it to between school pick up times too, I hope I get some choice with that or I can phone up and rearrange if it isn't a good time. She sounded really nice though and it was good to have a real life conversation with someone about my pregnancy!

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Activia I have been decorating our home too, we had the tree up but today I finished the decorations. Still need to do some cleaning but that never ends lol. Maybe the sleep thing is the same reason for me too since I go to bed quite early as well. I always fall back to sleep when I wake but it's annoying to wake up several times and need to pee also. I toss and turn.

 

Today my midwife phoned and asked me a few questions then said they will probably call me tomorrow with a date for my scan to get it done quickly as I am already 15 weeks and they usually do it at 12, she also mentioned the down syndrome test. I'm a bit worried about scheduling the scan during the right time because I don't have a lot of free time to make that appointment. I need it to between school pick up times too, I hope I get some choice with that or I can phone up and rearrange if it isn't a good time. She sounded really nice though and it was good to have a real life conversation with someone about my pregnancy!

Monday my nausea was terrible but today I am better again!! So I really think I am getting better...slowly. I woke last night again and did not fall back asleep for hours but I did "rest" during that time.... I was not tired today though. Weird. I did not go to sleep early either. My hormones are really all over the last few days.

 

Fun fun talking to your midwife! I am waiting to get my 18W US, I choose to skip the scan. I have my 3rd appt coming up shortly.

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Monday my nausea was terrible but today I am better again!! So I really think I am getting better...slowly. I woke last night again and did not fall back asleep for hours but I did "rest" during that time.... I was not tired today though. Weird. I did not go to sleep early either. My hormones are really all over the last few days.

 

Fun fun talking to your midwife! I am waiting to get my 18W US, I choose to skip the scan. I have my 3rd appt coming up shortly.

I only really want one ultrasound too, and as this one is happening inbetween the 12 and 20 weeks I'm hoping they won't suggest a second scan. The midwife phoned me back with an appointment for tomorrow! I can't wait to see my baby! I feel all excited but nervous at the same time. I'm probably more nervous about anyone I know seeing me at the hospital as no one knows I'm pregnant yet. I'll be 15 and a half weeks, crossing my fingers they might be able to tell me the gender! :love  They also said I can do the down syndrome test as well which is a blood test.

 

Edited to add -My scan got cancelled :irked


Edited by snowydays - 12/11/13 at 10:22am
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