Oh Anablis, I'm sorry to hear this. My first birth was nothing like I had planned, either. Your body isn't failing you, though. There will be lessons that life is teaching you now that you can process later. But just get through this moment now- try not to see any of it as failure. The birth will be over, and you will be this baby's mother forever: the lessons and values of natural birth will carry over to your parenting for the next few decades. hugs!
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Anablis, I'm sorry you are frustrated and feel helpless. You have many choices! I agree with the others, even if it's unpopular with the docs- I would leave immediately and just monitor my temperature- that 24 hour rule is so arbitrary! I would get myself asap to a good acupuncturist. I had broken waters with no contractions for a day, then went to the acupuncturist and I started having contractions immediately after the first needle went in- it was like magic. Since much of birth is the coming together of hormones and energy between mom and baby, I think acupuncture is a very effective modality. I hope you have good advocates for support and can still be in charge of making decisions, since your baby and you are both fine. Blessings!
This morning I was having contractions every 3 to 5 minutes if I was up and walking around. But 8 to 10 minutes if I Laid down. But then my ob was sick so I had to go in early to see another one and my blood pressure was something over 98. So the doctor sent me to triage to "monitor" me. Three hours of sitting there getting my blood pressure taken and listening to babies heartbeats and all was fine - no protein in urine, not anemic, no high blood pressure readings. But all strong contractions stopped because I could only sit. Went out to lunch with DH. Came home and basically nothing the rest of today. Oh and I am 1 cm dilated.
Anablis I hope you can do what needs to be done to have your baby in the best way possible.
Anablis, I'm so sorry things are not going well for you. I don't know if it helps at all, but I was also planning a home waterbirth. I had/have many of the same priorities and wishes that you do. I ended up with a C-section and....it was special in its own way. It is not what I wanted. I thought I would be devastated if I had one. But my midwife was able to direct me to a hospital/OB who were very respectful of what I wanted. They asked if I had a birth plan - I didn't, because I hadn't planned on that contingency at all - but I had three key things I wanted: a VBAC-suitable incision, delayed cord cutting, and immediate skin to skin time. The first was a given, with this OB and situation. The second couldn't be done, and is my biggest regret (I wished I'd taken a moment before heading to the hospital to get on PubMed and look for studies about delayed cord cutting in a C-section and print them out to see if that would change the OB's mind). The third, they rearranged everything to make it happen and it made such an amazing difference, to get to meet him immediately. If I had written a contingency birth plan, I would have remembered to tell them not to wash off the vernix and I would have asked them to swab him with my fluids to help him get colonized by my microbiota as he would have been in a vaginal birth.
Anyway, it helped me tremendously, during the surgery, to treat it as I would have treated transition, as a surrender to the birth process. It was a different process than I had in mind, but it still accomplished much of the same thing for me, psychologically. It also helped, while I was being prepped for surgery (the scariest part for me) to see it as a sort of ritualistic event, like an initiation. I don't know if that resonates with you, but it went a long way for me.
I hope none of this is relevant to you because I hope you get the birth you wanted. But maybe it will be helpful. Best of luck, whatever happens.
Woke up at 12:30 a.m. to intense pelvic pressure. Sat on toilet for a long time, could hardly stand up. Took a shower and rocked back and forth. By 1:30 a.m. I was sitting on my exercise ball which felt a lot better, although still intense pelvic pressure. My best friend Sara is here and she gave me an amazing back massage and we looked up pressure points to induce labor on youtube and tried a few of those because I wasn't having contractions that I could fee. By 3 a.m. I was tired so I went back to bed. Woke up around 8:30 a.m. this morning. Some contractions but nothing regular :( Hoping things pick up.
Hugs, Lilac. I know it can be frustrating. My 12 hour bout of "this could be it" left me on edge for a few days. Let's just try to consider it all helpful practice for our minds, bodies and babies.
So today I tried to check my cervix. It is so high I can not reach it at all. Not b/c of big belly ->It is just that high up. I am used to checking myself around ovulation so I am used to somewhat high...but that thing is hiding way up inside me!
Lilac, the sensations do change...it's like it's not all coordinated yet but each part warms up, you know? And then one minute, bam, it's all coordinated and effective.
Missbrea, it's interesting to read your post. I'm glad that you were able to bring ritual to your birth...certainly was a lot of courage involved.
Had a few more little blobs of brownish mucus. Hoping that means I'm dilating. I was also very nauseous before bed last night. And DH and I had some "quality time". He was shocked I suggested it but hey, even if I'm not in the mood its not an unpleasant way to try to encourage baby to arrive. lol. Still eating pineapple, dates, taking lots of EPO, Gentle Birth tincture, and I'm going to make eggplant parm tomorrow. I like it so even if it doesn't help it I don't mind.
Eggplant is suppose to help? I love eggplant so I don't mind giving it a try. I still need to get some dates. I haven't been able to find any the last few times I was at the store, which is weird because they usually have them out this time of year. And I feel the same way right now about the "quality time"....not really that interested, but hey it might help and at least DP is happy about it, lol!
I'm new here ladies. I'm so confused now, I think I have a prankster growing in me. I had what I assumed were contractions. I was having what felt like period cramps that would last about 45-60 seconds and stop, then every 5-7 minutes come back. This was going on a couple days, then yesterday I had some but not all day like previously. I lost either all or a big part of my plug 2 days ago, but no blood with it. Im having period pains again today but are a lot stronger, but I can still handle it. I'm due tomorrow so I hope this is it. lol Does this sound promising or is this just me dilating more to prepare for the real thing?
It's all the real thing : ) Think of it more like a continuum which spikes up when there's more activity...it's all doing something- warming up muscles, effacing your cervix, giving you a little heads-up to be prepared, etc.- and will sometime start to be stronger and do more! Could be hours or weeks! ; )
mataji, I am looking forward to more coordinated contractions. When I woke up from my nap, my cervix really felt like it was getting more and more opened. My friend and I looked at these acupressure videos. I think the points she was pressing on really helped things move along today.
Leg and foot points
The ones on my feet and legs really made me feel like something was happening.
upper back and hand
Ok, today my lower uterus is definitely feeling period-crampy, and my cervix/vagina feel heavy and bruised. Its a really weird feeling. Not painful, but not exactly comfortable for sitting on! If it weren't for this belly I'd just swear I was getting a period. Just when I had really gotten my head around, and felt happy about, not having this baby till after Christmas, or at least after due date…if I DO go into labor earlier, I will just laugh.
Michelle, I don't know if I would be worried about that. But hugs, nevertheless. It sucks. Just make sure you re-hydrated yourself!
I have had that about 2 times in the past month during the night...both times after eating way tooooooo much. And both times way too many greasy ships at my favorite taqueria. Of course, each time I kept thinking it could be a sign of labor starting.
Ah! this pre labor stuff is so confusing, eh? I keep having that feeling Michelle, but then when I run to the bathroom, I'm not actually sick at all. But on the cramps, front, man. Its starting to feel like a bad (for me) period. My back is killing me, I have cramps down to my thighs, and I am going to put pajamas on and try to sleep it off. Last time I had nada signs, so this whole uncomfortable pre-labor thing is quite new. I feel like a first-timer!
I had really belly binding shrink wrapping feelings from 1 a.m. to about 5:30 when I ended up waking up moaning and DH was concerned. Took a shower. Paid some bills and right now it seems like the feelings have decreased. I think I will go back to bed and see if I ignore them if they will come back as strong as they were.