This is an issue we've been dealing with for more than 2 years. My 4.5 year old is having Massive tantrums when little things aren't perfect, or he doesn't win a game. This is happening both at preschool and at home. Maybe 3 full blown screaming, throwing things, 30 to 45 minute hysterical fits. These fits are over the smallest things: a shape matching race on the computer that he didn't win, a tangram pattern that he can't get the shapes to line up absolutely perfectly in the lines, or a word he spelled wrong.
He will destroy what he's working on - thrown the laptop to the floor, swipe all the tangram pieces off the board, etc. but then pick them back up, try over for about 30 seconds only to destroy it all over again. It doesn't seem to matter what I say or do; he has just lost his mind. I've tried everything I know. Today I decided I would just hold and rock him until he finally calmed down and let me cuddle him. Ha! That totally backfired. I just pissed him off like nothing else. When I finally gave up, he wanted to go to his room by himself and "never be around any people ever again!"
30 minutes later he was laughing and saying that I was the best Mom in the world for cheering him up. I can't take this roller coaster! I am obviously not doing something right- not handling these situations right. Has anyone had a kid react this dramatically to imperfection or losing? Will he grow out of this? I'm starting to think I need to have him evaluated to see if ASD, Anxiety disorder, or OCD have any part on this.