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post #21 of 159

I decided to work on my birth plan a little.  The nurse actually read it for my last hospital birth, so I'm hoping for a similar experience.  I found humor worked pretty well in a hospital environment.  I didn't want to be "that guy" that all the nurses hated. 

 

 

This is our second child. We had a pretty easy time of it last time and are hoping for a repeat.  Our goal is to get in, crank out a baby and get out with minimal poking, prodding and maintenance.  

 

During Labor

 

  • Intermittent rather than continuous fetal monitor so that I can move around.  Turn the monitor away from me.

  • Cervical checks only at my request.

  • No AROM.

  • No IVs, pain meds or any medication to induce or augment labor. I’ll let you know if I’m chickening out. They weren’t necessary last time around and it honestly didn’t hurt that bad. Please don’t ask me about my “pain level.” It kind of breaks my concentration.

  • I will drink and eat light fruit like watermelon as necessary.  I know it’ll make me pukey, so I doubt I’ll actually do any eating.

 

Actual cranking out of baby:

 

  • No episiotomy. I tore pretty badly last time and it all healed up just fine.

  • I will push when my body says push. Last time around, I was convinced to “purple push” and cranked out a baby in 20 minutes, thus tearing myself a new one.  How about we labor down for a while this time? I do not mind it taking more than 20 minutes.

  • I do not plan to be lying on my back. It will probably be hard to get me in a bed because bed = painful contractions.  I would like to find a way to stand or kneel for as long as possible.

  • If this giant megabeast baby seems to be stuck, let’s flip over or do something else before we break out the tools. (forceps or vacuums or whatever)

 

Baby’s out, now what?

 

  • Leave the cord. Leave it til it’s empty and then we’ll cut it later, even after my placenta plops out. That’s fine.

  • Give me the slimy baby right away -- slimy and gross and whatever he’s got.  I’m fine with it.  Please don’t wrap him up like a burrito and wipe off the goo.  Immediate skin-to-skin, please.

  • I decline heb B and will get it at a later date.  Do not put eye drops or give vitamin K until AFTER breastfeeding is initiated.

  • Give me some time to deliver placenta. If it’s not coming out, let’s talk options.  

  • No bath. No warming table. I will hold my baby skin-to-skin to keep him warm.  

  • Please do evaluations while baby is with me. Do not take him to the nursery.  Someone took my last baby away during shift change and I didn’t see him again for two hours.  Mama bear was not happy. You don’t want to see me like that.

  • No circumcision.

  • No formula, bottles, pacifiers, or supplementing of any kind.

  • All tests, measurements, etc to be done in our room in our presence.  I or my husband will accompany the baby if he needs to be taken from the room.

  • Please do nursery and postpartum checks at the same time and as infrequently as possible.

post #22 of 159

I'm still here! Due with a little girl on Jan. 3rd!  I can't wait!

post #23 of 159

Pamela-  About the heartburn, I have been in the same boat for all 8 months so far.  The only thing that has made it tolerable is Ranitidine (Zantac)150mg 2x/day.  I tried all the other things first (ACV, milk, tums, gaviscon, diet, drinking more, not drinking, etc), but I have been in agony, having a hard time sleeping or eating without it.  My personal experience with pepcid is that I was so constipated that I really thought I might die.  I hope that you find some relief.

 

As far as mothing, I have been just lurking off and on for a bit, but I would love to be added to the list.  Our baby is due about January 7th, but I have a feeling he(according to my hubby) or she(according to me) may come early.  This is our first.  If I could have a hot pink font on the list, I would love that!

 

Currently I am poacking our bags for the hospital, but stressing about the house.  On Black Friday, our food storage shelving collapsed, sending a whole lot of food and booze toppling to the concrete floor.  That included the Slivovitz (plum liquor) that I had made for Christmas presents into a smelly mess, too.  Now I have only 1 quart left, not sure how many gifts that will make.  So now all I have on my mind is putting new shelving in and getting my food organized again.  Being 35w+2d right now...not sure how to get that accomplished.  Then there is Christmas, which I can't even bring myself to think aobut at the moment.  I guess the reality is that I will get there, and that is all that matters.

 

I hope that you ladies are all doing well, and have a Merry Christmas!

post #24 of 159
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We're a little girl-heavy in our DDC!

 

I've been wishing that I could just sleep between now and whenever little squish gets here.  Or at least remain in a horizontal position.  I'm in serious need of some nesting energy.  My friend wanted to do my shower this week, but I kept putting off giving her names so I'm guessing (hoping) we're not going to have it now.  I guess I need to call her.  We can always do something after the baby comes. 

post #25 of 159

Privateyogi - that is horrible about the shelving.  I cannot even imagine the mess.

 

CWill - My motivation is gone too.  I keep waiting for nesting to kick in so maybe somebody will clean this house or get something ready.  A friend is bringing by a baby carseat this weekend, so at least that will be taken care of.

 

PamelaRRR - glad that you got the birth plan knocked out.  It is funny.

 

So I have to get thru Christmas and then I will work on all this stuff.  Hopefully I can do it all before my Daughter's birthday on the 11th of Jan.  My friends are throwing a little brunch in honor of baby on the 12th.  Then nesting can kick in and baby can be born anytime.  Since my due date isn't until the 26th, I think I will manage this plan.

 

Hypnobabies update - I listened to the first track this week and had planned to start the program.  I found myself irritated and annoyed so I stopped listening about 10 minutes before the end.  I haven't done another track.  Maybe I can manage one a week before baby comes.  I doubt that will be enough of a  refresher.  But it is my third natural childbirth, so I feel fairly confident that I can do this.

 

Fun fact - both of my other kiddos were born on their due date and weighed 7'13 and were 21 inches long.  I am not as sure about this due date though.  With the others we knew when ovulation occurred. This time we only know when we had sex (as best as we can remember).  Lol.  Still, it is hard for me to imagine that kiddo won't wait until due date or later to arrive.

post #26 of 159

I am having heartburn as well.  What is working the best for me is peppermint oil in my water and chewable papaya.  I have never knew about the chewable papaya and I take up to 4 of them at a time and it seems like it pushes my food down pretty well smile.gif  The bottle was pretty cheap too so I suggest that!



 



My ribs are also killing me.  I have been putting a couple drops of Young Living Panaway on my lower ribs and it actually cools the horrid burn smile.gif  



 



We are planning on picking up the hose and adaptors for the birth pool tonight smile.gif  



 



And I have fallen in love with the LLBean down throw.  I really really want one for snuggling after baby smile.gif  On my list now!

post #27 of 159

I hate due dates but it's kind of fun to see the list so....... gasp..... add me for the 10th. Or 11th. ;-) At least I know I can count on you ladies not to be hassling me over whether the baby has come yet!

 

I second the hopeful anticipation that there is some truth in second/subsequent labors being easier, even with a harder pregnancy.... because I had a pretty easy labor and birth the first time around, but had felt really strong and well through the second half of the pregnancy. This time has been pretty rough the whole third trimester with pain/contractions/insomnia/heartburn, feeling huge and tired, etc. (I know I don't need to go on!) and I was starting to have some worries that the exhaustion and pain leading up to labor was going to wipe me out so much I'd have a harder time getting the baby out... let it not be so!

 

In other random news, a couple days ago I stopped for gas and realized I could not bend over far enough to reach the gas cap release.... thanks to a baby bum stuck under my ribs! This one definitely feels bigger than the last... Hopefully not by much; my only real concern at this point with the pregnancy is the amount of glucose I'm spilling in my urine being quite high most of the time. I finally saw a perinatologist for a consult, and while it wasn't much help overall (I started trying to make the appointment nearly 7 weeks ago when I was having bleeding/excess contractions... which stopped ages ago... and all she wanted to discuss anyway was my adrenal failure, which I feel like I know all there is to know about already...) it was good to talk about that. She recommended I start monitoring my blood glucose at home so I've ordered the supplies for that but they haven't come yet... it feels kind of late in the game to do much if I am developing gestational diabetes, but at least this way we will know if there is reason to be concerned about hypoglycemia in the baby.

post #28 of 159

My birth kit came this morning!! Yay! I was pretty excited to go through it even though it is nothing really interesting or anything! Oh and Christmas shopping is almost done. Feeling a bit better about things. 

post #29 of 159

Tspencer- I felt the same way when my birth kit arrived!

 

A silly birth kit related story: I had to guess which size I am for the gauzy disposable underpants with the built-in pads....so because I am usually a women's 14 or 16, I decided to go with a 2XL....figuring too big would be better than too small...well when we received them, I figured out they could fit two of me! Everyone in my household has had their photo taken holding them, or with them on, and my petite midwives said they would wear them with belts during the birth. They are so hilariously huge, and I am not small by any means.

post #30 of 159

Neaera- That is so funny. Maybe I should check mine... they only had one size (like a one size fits all.) Hmmm... 

post #31 of 159

I'm still kicking around here - Due Jan 20th. That's ages away right?! It is next year after all ;)

Tomorrow is the last day of my last craft fair and it was so nice last night to know that all the prepping and whatnot was over!! Mind you now I have to kick myself into high gear to get through Christmas. Oh and apparently I have 2 weeks to get my stuff together for my homebirth list and register and pack for the hospital just in case. How is that possible? Babe isn't due until next year!

 

Out local LLL group put on a movie night to watch Ina May's Birth Story ( oh yeah that made this last week a little more busy too - I am one of the leaders) anyhow the movie sent me into panic mode! It was a beautiful film but I think I have spent so much of this pregnancy crazy busy and also purposefully not thinking too much about the little being at the end because of my losses last year that now I am freaking out! Um, there is a baby coming at the end of this pregnancy!! And apparently that is really soon (even though its next year!).

I am going to try and spend some time this week alone, drinking tea ( I love tea!) and mentally preparing myself for her/his eminent arrival so that I don't panic when labor starts. Because panic is what I feel right now! And my other births were so awesome!

 

On a high point since DH still hasn't finished the renos in our rental house (behind our place). And we therefore haven't rented it I think it is going to be my birthing house ;) I love the sound of it and I love that my kids can stay home if they need/want to have space from the birth. But still be super close. Now I just need DH to finish said renos so I can get the space ready - oh another thing to do!

 

I think I had better get some sleep since my list just keeps getting longer.

 

night!

post #32 of 159
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I am going to try and spend some time this week alone, drinking tea ( I love tea!) and mentally preparing myself for her/his eminent arrival so that I don't panic when labor starts.

 

More than anything right now, I'm craving alone time.  Lots and lots of alone time.  I could spend a good 3 weeks by myself.  I don't even think I would miss anybody.  Probably ... maybe ... eventually.

 

I haven't been restless in a while now, but last night was a restless night.  I was so tired, I never got out of bed, but I tossed and turned until after 2 am.  We went out with friends for my not-a-baby-shower.  And it was actually incredibly fun.  We ate tons of pizza.  And I had a root beer, which felt so festive and indulgent (yes, that's how pathetic I am right now).  DS was in a good mood and didn't need to sit on my lap or cling to me the entire time - he actually went off on his own with one of my friends!  And I really enjoyed everyone's company.  But I think maybe I ate too much pizza and it kept me up.  Or maybe just being in a good mood is such a shock to my system, it doesn't know how to handle it!

 

Today we're going to decorate the tree and house for Christmas.  DH went out yesterday and cut down the most pathetic tree of all time.  And yes, I understand that it was -9 and he didn't want to spend much time looking and it was really nice of him to go get it in the weather, but it is pretty awful.  i don't even know if we can hide its awfulness with ornaments because I don't think it's actually going to hold any.

post #33 of 159
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  I think I have spent so much of this pregnancy crazy busy and also purposefully not thinking too much about the little being at the end because of my losses last year that now I am freaking out! Um, there is a baby coming at the end of this pregnancy!! And apparently that is really soon (even though its next year!).

 

This is EXACTLY  how I have been feeling! I was so afraid to actually imagine a baby coming at the end of this pregnancy (since my 2 losses last year), and even with feeling this baby move all the time I still was afraid to get too attached. Now I am feeling like.. ok this is really happening! I'm only 5 weeks away and I will get to hold this sweet baby. I am so excited but starting to get a little nervous about the labor and delivery now. But it will be sooo worth it! 

post #34 of 159

Hi! Still here, just very rarely on the computer. I try to read updates on my phone, but now I dropped my phone in the bath the other day & it is dead.-it is currently entombed in rice & I am hoping for an imminent resurrection. :eyesroll  Baby boy is due by caeasarian on the 14th of January. He is already about 5.5 lbs/2.5 kilos big. Really looking forward to having this baby! 

post #35 of 159

Still here as well.

 

Dropped a bunch of stuff for a few weeks due to illness but on the mend now.

 

I think the infrequency of my midwife appointments also help to contribute to the lack of impending childbirth. They are such no muss no fuss, natural as anything.

 

Lots to do really since we lots the month of November. I've called a couple of places to check availability to birth. Cabins, etc. I just obviously don't really know if I go out there to birth a week before, etc.... because who is to say what a week even is...

 

Struggling to decide if I need a doula. My aunt is willing to come and help with the kids, my husband will be in and out with me and the kids too probably. The clients of the midwives usually don't have doulas but I know that I am higher needs despite being introverted so who knows. I am talking with some doulas to try and determine but given that my birth place will be 2 hours from my home I'm looking at doulas that are not close by.

 

I've yet to order anything so really need to make some headway.

post #36 of 159

Can I jump in here?  I had joined the group way back when and been busy with my two little ones and life, but now as this pregnancy wraps up I'm craving more chance to commiserate with others in the same place as me - people feeling tired, overwhelmed, excited, anxious, uncomfortable, moody....

 

I'm due Jan 13 with baby 3.  Don't know the gender.  I am way exhausted lately and having big mood swings - I feel really bad for my kids, who are just 4 and (almost) 2.  I really haven't thought much about birth or baby with this one, I guess I just figured it was happening anyway, but now more and more concerns about birth/baby are hitting me and I can get pretty emotional.  

 

I saw a comment about doulas and just wanted to mention that both of my kids were born with midwives, with one I had a doula and with the other I did not.  I 100% recommend a doula.  My second birth experience I felt just so much better about and like I truly got to make my birth experience and that my doula helped me to that.  My first was a natural birth, but there were still several things I felt the midwives did without really letting me decide (AROM, when to push, active management, some pressure over delivering by a certain time).  I will be using the same doula I had at my daughter's birth and I actually called her before I called the midwives when I found out I was pregnant!

post #37 of 159

Is anyone else starting to have trouble sitting on the ground... and getting back up? I was wrapping presents the other night and was in so much pain from sitting on the floor wrapping them. My pelvic region has just been killing me lately. I was doing dishes yesterday and slipped and almost did a split (I am a messy dish washer and always end up with water on the floor.) At least I caught myself and didn't fall! Anyway that did not help at all. I can tell my body is getting ready. Which is exciting but painful! 

 

In other things, I have realized I am going to have to move things around in order to fit the pool somewhere in our house. This is when I wish our house was at least a little bigger. I am not sure what we are going to do. Well my midwife is coming Friday for my 36 week appt so maybe she will have some ideas. Oh and I wanted to share this because I thought it was interesting and figured it can't hurt to try!! http://thepeacefulbirthproject.org/2013/10/ancient-wisdom-and-research-agree-amazing-fruit-eases-labor-and-prevents-postpartum-hemorrhage/

post #38 of 159
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I feel like my body is gearing up too.  My pelvic area is very sore and I've been having those sharp cervical pains - although that could just be baby settling.

 

We're doing some major rearranging this week in the house to make room for the baby and to declutter.  Carpets are getting cleaned tomorrow so it seems like a good opportunity to clear out and put things back the way we want them.  Our house is really small too so any minor change always entails major rearranging. 

 

We're not using a doula, but enough people love them that it seems worth looking into Cat, especially if you have specific goals or concerns.  I met a few here in town while I was pregnant with DS.  And actually, one of my really good friends is a doula.  But I didn't really connect with anyone and, despite the fact that I'm having a hospital birth, I want as few people there as possible.  DH lacks in some areas as a support person, but he's a very good advocate for me with the doctors and nurses.  So I didn't even look into it this time.

post #39 of 159

It's always nice to share a few laughs/grimaces and nods of commiserations over the web... (the gauzy panties, the almost-split [youch!], heartburn and not being able to get up off the floor without groaning and moaning.... yep!)

 

tspencer, thanks for sharing the link on dates. I had seen many references to them when I popped over to the December group for a little "preview" of the final month but wasn't sure quite what it was all about. I think I'll give it a go - not worried about needing induction/augmentation as we're planning a totally natural homebirth (though of course, one never knows for sure with birth how it will all turn out) but the part about significantly reducing labor time got my attention (even if it's just the prodromal phase - the quicker, the better, within reason, right?). Especially as I've been unable to get down the usual tonic teas this pregnancy, I'd like to feel like I'm doing something at least. And the fiber can't hurt.... had another couple weeks of constipation/just plain uncomfortableness down there which seems to have passed with lots of raw veggies and possibly the baby shifting a bit - I really think he/she was compressing my intestines excessively for a bit there, making it hard to keep anything moving!

 

And I must echo the feelings of "baby? real baby? soon?!"... I can't believe this little one is due in just a month, and I've said for months now it wouldn't surprise me if it's a week early. Which leaves not many weeks to get ready! Yes, the clothes and diapers are washed and the carseat should be delivered this week. But the house is not ready at all... nor our life, really... sigh. We've been (well, hubby!) moving around furniture and putting up more shelving, trying to figure out how to squeeze in a birth pool and another little being into our 360 square feet. But I don't feel like we've made much progress. My to-do-before-baby list is kind of pathetic actually, I'm writing down things like "deep clean the shower" and "scrub the toilet and vacuum every week for crying out loud so it isn't gross!" And the "life" list, well..... "finish building barn", "move the cows", "butcher pigs, steer, ducks, chickens"..... lol. I'm not much help with those, but I worry about them. We had hoped to have our farm mostly moved to our new location by the end of the year so we could be kind of settled before the baby came and it's not looking like that's going to happen. But life marches on, the baby will come, and we will welcome it with loving arms and it will all work out, right?

post #40 of 159
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Is anyone else starting to have trouble sitting on the ground... and getting back up? I was wrapping presents the other night and was in so much pain from sitting on the floor wrapping them. My pelvic region has just been killing me lately. I was doing dishes yesterday and slipped and almost did a split (I am a messy dish washer and always end up with water on the floor.) At least I caught myself and didn't fall! Anyway that did not help at all. I can tell my body is getting ready. Which is exciting but painful! 

 

In other things, I have realized I am going to have to move things around in order to fit the pool somewhere in our house. This is when I wish our house was at least a little bigger. I am not sure what we are going to do. Well my midwife is coming Friday for my 36 week appt so maybe she will have some ideas. Oh and I wanted to share this because I thought it was interesting and figured it can't hurt to try!! http://thepeacefulbirthproject.org/2013/10/ancient-wisdom-and-research-agree-amazing-fruit-eases-labor-and-prevents-postpartum-hemorrhage/

 

YES.  My pelvis is killing me. 

 

I'm 33 weeks and a few weeks ago I kind of jogged after the mail truck and it made me hurt -- a lot.  So much so that I decided to try chiropractic care to help.  It does some, but i'm still unable to sit on the floor at all and my office chair is killing me. 

 

I'm a little leery of sitting on a birth ball while I work, too, because I feel like it will mess with my pelvis.  I've looked at kneeling chairs but don't know if I want to commit without trying it first. 

 

My chiro suggested a few different ways to sit while I'm working to help with the soreness. 

 

 

As for me, I'm excited, but wary.  I have a ton of stuff to get accomplished before baby gets here and I feel like there's not enough time to do it at all.  I'm a magazine editor and my last issue before baby goes to press on Jan. 17.  I'm due Jan 26.   I hope I can get it all squared away by Jan. 12 because my first came a week early and I don't want to leave anything hanging. 

 

I'm also kind of apprehensive because my placenta is driving me crazy.  It hasn't moved up at all, and is only 2.5 cm away from my cervix.  If I bleed at all during labor, it's game over -- automatic c/s, which I totally understand because abruption is a huge concern. So, for me, that means more scrutiny, more monitoring.  Not fun. I would have risked out of the birthing center/midwife so I'm trying not to mourn/be annoyed at this whole ordeal, but it still makes me mad that I can't seem to have a normal, hassle free pregnancy. 

 

Or...it could go completely fine and my worry has been all for nothing, which is what happened with my first, with his velamentous cord insertion.  

 

Bah!  

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