Hey there wonderful mothers,
I have a 10 year old 5th grader. She is younger for her grade. She is also the oldest of my 3 kids. We had a parent/teacher conference recently and her teacher said that she's doing fine, but would like to see a little more spark in her, my guess: a little more participation. BUT my concern is on the manners aspect of quiet and shy. When grownups ask her questions, she's always a little reluctant to answer and is often inaudible. There's no "spirit" to her answers, and I think she's old enough to have coherent conversations with adults. She's part of a large family, with many aunts, uncles and a few older cousins; all whom she knows very well. She had an akward conversation yesterday with neighbors who were just asked a basic question, and she barley answered, even when their kids were inquiring about the same thing. Should I be concerned or should I just chalk it up to being young? If so, how can I encourage her to be more expressive because I do feel as though it's a matter of good manners because she is old enough to have appropriate conversations with adult. Am I making a mountain out of a mole hill? I'll add that I'm social, not shy and have modeled my own appropriate manners with friends and others daily.