I'm new here. I'm a Chicago-based queer FTM, straight-married to my wife thanks to suing the state for a new birth certificate. We have gone through 3 cycles with anonymous donor sperm and are starting to hopefully move into the known donor realm. So some questions:
1. What are some ways that non-bearing partners can be supportive during the trials and tribulations of TTC? I'm being as supportive as I can, but it's difficult knowing that there's little I can do to make things better/work. I keep supporting DW like I normally would, but I'm wanting to make sure that I'm covering as many bases as possible. (We're also continuing to communicate about this stuff as a couple, so my desire is for more suggestions basically.)
2. We are going to be drafting up a contract for our known donor terminating his parental rights and responsibilities to any future child that may result from his sperm provision. We plan to have a local attorney review that to make sure it is appropriate. Any tips for dealing with an LGBT-friendly attorney re: such things? We also have to take special consideration for the fact that we and our donor live in different states (and we may move to FL). If it matters, we hope to have the donor bank and use it for siblings too.
3. I also saw that a previous poster was talking about her DP being an FTM and whether or not to list on birth certificate, get a second parent adoption, etc. If we are straight married (and same sex marriage starts in June), is it a safe bet that we can just list me on the birth certificate and not go through the whole adoption thing? We'll still ask the lawyer about it but I thought I'd check in here too.