I've been mostly lurking, sorry for not being very active! Decided maybe I could start the December thread for those of us still pregnant. Anyone have guesses how late they'll go?
December chat - those still hanging around!
No kidding! It's been in the 30s, threats of flooding and snow, and I'm an hour away from my midwife when there isn't traffic. It was quite amusing at my appointment yesterday when I stated I felt my due date was wrong. She spent a good 10-15 minutes arguing with me why it was completely accurate and went so far as to send me the ultrasound report and an article on how dating is done today. The really funny part was when both the ultrasound report and the article supported my position and would put my due date today. I want to point all that out to her but it doesn't matter, she can't change it legally. I'd rather have a midwife who vehemently supports her positions than talks down to me and wants me to just accept whatever she says because she said it.
Are you going to make it there in time?
Tiffa, you updated on the other thread, but glad things are going well. So glad you have support. It is a shock isn't it Our bodies and emotions are so different after birth.
Glad he's latching well now.
Afm- doing ok. It's been some years but I didn't expect to feel like this. Babyblues anxiety I think Ijustdidn't prepare myself mentally for dh working more than I thought, or all my friends deciding to notcall so as not to disturb us and so I feel rather lonely. I've texted a few of them but it's nnot the same. People arebusy with the holiday too I guess. Heck, I'd love o clean my house and finish decorating. Or take a long shower or have someone cook for me vor a change. Maybe people think after the first one moms don't need help?
On a good note baby is doing great Groath spurt so attached to me pretty constant. He actually has seemed to need to nurse more than the others and that's fine. We're figuring out sling positions for nursing and how he likes to be carried in it.
Met new dr and like him so far. He's willing to work wirh us on what we want as long as we go to the checkups. I do not like all those visits. I don't think we went past 4 months with our second. Kids are always sick at the drs. We have a family dr who is holistic and sees kids but isn't a pediatrician specialist. The one who was, relocated so had to ind a dr.
100%-I ask myself the same thing. For the first visit, it has to be with an MD. Our family dr is a dr of Chinese medicine, which isn't recognized for newborn visits. I suppose we could just see him from now on, but I wonder if he would catch something wrong development wise with a baby? I was wanting to find an MD just in case we ever got sick enough or had hospital emergency, our dr doesn't have privileges because he's not an MD. The medical system is seriously messed up, imo. In my sleep deprived mind, I'm not thinking straight about this. I over think/over worry things.
Is anyone using wool covers? I should ask in trading, but asking here first-really hope I don't get flagged. I messed up and bought the wrong color disana newborn wool cover-Berry, I thought it would be a darker red, but it's pretty pink. Stupid me cut off the inside tag (rough tag) and washed/dried so can't exchange. If anyone's interested, pm me I guess, or ask here??
Today I leaked right through my wool nursing pads-twice! Either they needed washed or my bra was too tight.
Hippy - Thank you. Yes it is a shock. Between lack of sleep and hormones crashing I feel pretty awful sometimes. But it's slowly getting better. Some nights we get more sleep than others. It mostly depends on whether he wants to wake up enough to eat a good amount before falling back asleep.
It has been super cold here. Tristan is 10 days old today, and I have not left the house once. I am still afraid to! I haven't worn anything but pajamas and gym shorts either. I have sort of tried to figure out my ring sling, but it's more confusing that I thought it would be. Haha! Once I get that down maybe going outside with him won't be so scary. I even missed my friends baby shower today because I just couldn't bring myself to get myself and baby ready, and venture out on my own. I will have to go somewhere with my husband first I think. I am also starting to get bored and lonely, so I can't wait too much longer. I just need to feel a little more healed first.
I am getting more used to just being with my baby. I am not quite so overwhelmed by all the feedings, diaper changes, and body fluids all over the place. I enjoy just sitting and watching movies while I take care of him and cuddle him. I still haven't found much time for cleaning up though and our room is quite a mess already.
Oh and I didn't realize how messy breastfeeding is! He'll choke a little and pop off, and suddenly there is milk all over both of us, and I can't catch it fast enough because I have to hurry and sit him up so he can cough it up properly. Haha! My husband thinks it's funny, and tries to hold back laughter whenever it happens. I guess from his end it probably is funny. For a new, frazzled mother, it sometimes feels like the last straw and results in a little crying fit. My husband helps me laugh at myself though.
Good luck to those still waiting! I hope you are all doing well.
Have you looked online for babywearing positions? I've found videos helpful. I'm still learning how ds likes to be in the sling and nursed in it. I'm not as confident out nursing that I thought I'd be and I nip 2 kids. Nust takes time, you'll get it.
Oh, I'm surrounded by burp cloths ds is aa spitter upper still. Just today I got the cleavage spit up. Tiffa, yoi can turn him to the side when spitting up too, might be eadier than trying to sit him up etc.
So what happens to the thred come Jan? Does our group stay?
We're getting some holiday stuff done. Inlaws gone and dh ended up cooking for them daily, something we didn't eant to do. They never offered to make or buy meals for us. Or help out with anything. Didn't even want to hold baby. Not real sure why they made a big fuss to be here last month and then behave this way.
Oh well. I forgot nb had so much laundry didn't buy a lot of clothes so perhaps that's why. I ordered more diapers so I cantry going every three days to wash. Though I think the wet diapers lessen as they get der per day. So now I'll have 30, 5 wool covers and two thirsties for outings. Boxed up maternity clothes and all the fbs and inserts which will probably sell. I don't think I'll use them.
Trying to rest a lot. Blues are better and I hope they stay awaay. It's when I feel overwhelmed that I get all weepy.
I think the thread sticks around for a good few months, for baby chatting. :)
I do the burp cloth thing too - I'm never without one! I was well trained by my second son, who spit up copiously and constantly until he was one. :) I still get milk everywhere sometimes, though - especially before I get dressed in the morning, when both sides start going... It is silly. :)
We've been having a really crazy week. My mom left town, after a long couple of visits - so naturally that's when we all get colds. Luckily it didn't seem to bother the baby too much, but this SAME week, my husband had a deadline at work and had to work ALL day until the wee hours, every day, even through the weekend. So I've been a single mom with a cold. Thank goodness the two older boys can do things for themselves - they even watch the baby for me here and there when I want to go to the bathroom or something... I don't know how people manage with babies that are born close together! I hope everyone else is staying well.
Things are good here! My baby is 6 weeks old today and I just got a clean bill of health after my postpartum check. Woohoo! It'll still be a while before I'm 100% normal, but we beat this c-section!
Breastfeeding did not work out. I was pumping 6ml per day four weeks after E was born. My LC and I tried herbs, warm compresses, showers, pumping around the clock, Domperidone... nothing. Turns out I have those darn tubular breasts that didn't quite rev up during adolescence. I had always chalked up my "weird" breasts to just being "small," but nope, they're "abnormal." Oh, well. I was formula-fed so I know it's not the end of the world. I was absolutely despondent for about a week after my LC and I determined there wasn't much more that we could do. It was really sad. But, E is healthy, gaining weight steadily and growing... I'll take a million setbacks for me if it means she is healthy.
My husband gas been great. It's been other people who have been stressing me out. My family has surprised me with how great they have been; I thought they'd be weird, but they're not. Awesome! But my MIL is laying a huge guilt trip on me about not being able to breastfeed, and tries to drop by randomly. Uhhh, no. That's complete crap. It's very frustrating. I keep getting texts from her asking if E is "doing anything exciting?!!??"... It's like, uhh, she's eating and sleeping and I'm tired and I'm trying to enjoy so please back off a little lest you seem "smothery." That's just the tip of the iceberg. My BIL keeps posting photos of her on his social media to a ton of creepy strangers. My husband and I have a pretty watchful eye on social media and the baby. I know, it's weird, but we are a little spooked by it. Oh, and then BIL decided to get a tattoo of the baby's name without telling us. That was weird. First off, he took away my opportunity to do that. (I love my tattoos; but he and I have different philosophies on what makes a good tattoo.) Second off, uh, NOT HIS CHILD. I know it doesn't seem like a big deal for some; it's just that because I have a philosophy on tattoos that I feel so strongly about that I have an issue with it. And my husband was angrier than me and he doesn't have any tattoos.
Anyway, besides those things, life is great! I know I must seem like a complete stickler; I'm just disappointed, I guess, in how some people are handling things even after we have asked nicely and mad concessions and tried hard! Between recovering from surgery and trying to wrap my head around failed breastfeeding it has taken all my energy to still be positive and these other people who keep doing weird things just make it harder. Am I alone in that?
As for the MIL... It's weird, I have explained it to her three or four times, and she will do this "Oh, that's so sad!" song and dance, and then the next time I see her she harps about BF'ing. Last night she was over and it was time for the baby to eat and I asked if she'd like to help feed her... My MIL said, "Oh, I don't know how to use a bottle or burp a baby. I never had to do that." My husband immediately recalled that his kid sister needed supplementing since she was very preemie and that MIL had karo syrup and goat's milk in bottles and fed the baby as everything was transitioning. And, uhh, bottles are not rocket science, and neither is burping. The best part was that the baby had 3oz in her bottle and my MIL stopped feeding her halfway and says, "Okay, she ate three ounces!"... yeah, she ate 1.5, my MIL was looking at the half-ounce dots. There are numbers plain on the bottle. And this lady wants us to leave the baby with her. Oh, God, no. Oh. And then there was Thanksgiving. I'll stop myself and save that one for another day, LOL! My dad came to visit a few weekends ago and he didn't hesitate to help feed and burp, and didn't get grossed out like my MIL/FIL did (they brag about how they raised three kids and they're afraid of spit-up?). We are about to go visit my family for a week and I couldn't be more excited.
Holy crap, I sound so complain-y!
Edited by electricalaskan - 12/19/13 at 9:10pm
Haha thanks guys. I make sure I don't sit down without a burp cloth now, and I put it under his chin to catch when I am not paying attention and he pops off. I also have been propping him up a bit more, and so he doesn't choke quite so much.
He has been really fussy this week, and will hardly let me put him down, so I really do need to figure out the sling, or some kind of carrier. I am not getting ANYTHING done. :P I have watched a few videos, and they have helped.
Hippy - That is weird about your in-laws. I would be mad if mine just hung around and didn't do anything. I like to keep to myself anyways. I was expecting to get annoyed at mine. His mom took a week off work to help me out, and I am actually super thankful that she did. It was so nice to be able to hand baby over to his grandma and take a little bath, or nap by myself. Sometimes an hour or two of "me time" is desperately needed to help me get used to this mom thing!
I have to do laundry every two or three days. I am mostly using clothes that were given to us. I didn't realize how many times you have to change a newborn in a day.
Electric - I am sorry you are going through that! Your own disappointment is enough to deal with without your MIL guilt-tripping you. And yes, I agree that it's super weird to tattoo the name of someone else's child on your body. . .
I am not super sensitive about photos on social media. But my husband doesn't like it, so I have promised him to only post a few pictures once in a while. I totally understand the feelings behind it, so I respect that.
However, one strange privacy issue that has been bugging me is this:
I was in labor all night, but then I pushed him out super fast. Like ten minutes, if that. We live in a small town with a small hospital. My MIL works there as a medical assistant. And apparently I am now famous around town for how fast I delivered him. . ? I have already had a few people tell me that they had heard about it. Is that creepy to you? Isn't it illegal to discuss patients with anyone? Stupid nurses. Actually they were great nurses other than this issue, or I might throw more of a fit about it. And maybe it was the doctor. It's not something I would really want anyone to know. I wanted my whole birth experience to be pretty private, and now it's not. And in general I don't want any of my body's functions to be common knowledge, including my ability to deliver a child at super speed.
Glad to catch up with what everyone's doing . I'm not on FB either .
Hospitals are gossip havens . Maybe the Bil got the tattoo cause he's really excited ? My sister tried everything to bf like you e/l , no big deal . How can you feel bad when you did ur best ?!
tiffa-small town usa :)
He's prob going through a growth spurt. extra fussy and nurse more. Slings are super then :) I can't get much dpne w/o mine. I usually have a tummy to tummy carry orHey Sunnie, glad you stopped in :) My guys a spitter too. Do you have oversupply? I do, so bf never seems to balance out till about three months for me w the spitting up. This guy spits up more though. Do you think the oil and vitamin and iron are helping keep ppd away? I was doing ok but the past few days started getting weepy and overwhelmed feeling. I think it's because gifts aren't wrapped. I don't know though. I start to think I'll jump back into housework then get stressed by it as I can't seem to accomplish what I want. Then baby screams almost every eveening for a little bit and it kills me. He shouldn't cry like that when I hold him. And my mil is here, which is good, but it's stressful when he does cry because I know she wants to help. But he pops off/on breast before settling to nurse and if someone else gets him to fall asleep then he misses a nursing or for some teason I feel like it would push my weepy days closer to ppd. That's stupid I know. I do seem to see a pattern with fussy. On nights he sleeps a three to four hour syretch he nurses every 1.5-2 hrs the rest of the time. I don't think any diet issues yet but watching dairy. Am I reacting stupid here about things? After two you'd think I'd figure it out :)