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post #1 of 93
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Thought I would start a December thread since I didn't see one up yet. Sorry if I am stealing this from anyone.

 

I am going through a second wave of exhaustion! Totally wasn't expecting it at all. I am back to needing to go to bed early, sleeping in a bit if I can, and laying down when my kids are taking a nap. When I sat down to eat lunch when my kids were napping today I took two bites and felt like I could fall asleep while eating. I ended up laying down on the couch just to finish my lunch because I was still hungry but just falling asleep. A couple days ago when I was in the middle of a 3 day mommy meltdown I ate half of a large pizza by myself and was still pretty hungry! I think baby must be having a big growth spurt. It will be fun to see him on u/s again at the anatomy scan. Boo that it is still 3 weeks away. I also had the first person acknowledge that I was a) pregnant b) showing and then asking me about due date, etc. I probably had the dumbest look on my face as he was actually the first person other than my DH and OB that I had talked to about my pregnancy. 2 friends of mine know but I haven't really discussed it with them. I don't even know this guy very well and haven't seen him in at least a month and he seemed so excited I was pregnant. :innocent

 

16+ weeks this pregnancy is flying by for me. Hope everybody had a good thanksgiving.

post #2 of 93

@baileyB, the chat thread opener belongs to whoever gets there first. :)

 

thanksgiving was good.  DH was glad we went to his family but literally never wants to drive down there again.  HORAAAAAY!  I feel secretly selfishly thrilled that the three hour drive is a no go again (also, they're nice but so hard to have kids around, you know?  nothing childproofed (thier side table is a stack of books, for heavens sake, that's cool but not with a toddler in the room), among other things.  

 

anyone else doing Christmas cards tonight?

post #3 of 93
I'm new to this group but happy to join. I had SPD set in last week and I am kinda terrified it started so early this time. This is third baby and I expected SPD, just not just yet. I know what to do and I have coping strategies. But I'd love to others who had SPD in second tri and were functional people in third tri...
post #4 of 93
My exhaustion never ended this time. I make it through work, but drag the rest of the week, and usually spend a day pretty much staying in bed. Ic probably need to try to force myself to be a little more active. Hard to believe that with my second pregnancy I was taking long bike rides in 90 degree weather dragging a bike trailer at 36 weeks. And doing the same basically up until the third trimester last time. But I wasn't working 12 hour shifts, either.

I feel so complainey. I went into this pregnancy wanting to really appreciate it as probably my last one, but I'm just tired! Can't even complain all that much beyond the tired.
post #5 of 93
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I so wanted to savor this one as it is our last too and its too bad that it feels like it is flying by and that the first part kinda sucked so far. Im starting to barely feel movement and had a couple kicks in the cervix today, which is a really surprising place to feel kicks at thi gestation.
post #6 of 93

Hi everybody! I'm new, took forever to join this time around.

 

At 15 weeks now with #3 and still haven't felt movement, though I did have a client ask if I was pregnant yesterday so I guess it's time to get used to that. Seems like everything started popping out from the very start with this one. I swear I look way more pregnant than I feel!

 

This past weekend I disappeared while DH hung with kids, because my 2.5yo DD was still nursing 2-3x/day and it was killing my boobs! She's asked to nurse several times since I've been back, cried a few tears, but I'm sticking with it and she seems ok. I'm surprised that it's been this easy, actually. So excited to have my boobs to myself for a few months!

post #7 of 93
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Welcome! Do you know if you have an anterior placenta? I do and I wish I felt more movement. Congrats on nursing in pregnancy. That is a challenge I don't think I could take on.

post #8 of 93
No idea where the placenta likes to hang out. We don't do ultrasounds unless something would indicate a problem - sometimes I feel like it might be a comfort to have more info tho.
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@flowering kale - I've had the start of SPD as well - I am also super-bummed that it has started up so early (and also my 3rd child).  I had it towards the end last time, and I think I've triggered it this time by walking on snow on top of ice (I'm in the north, so hiking down a snow-covered frozen lake).  I also am carrying in bucketfuls of firewood and I can't resist picking up my 4 and 2 year olds.  So I'm sort of asking for it :)  I've found that taking it a bit easier with the walking has helped, and I am purposely walking way slower than I normally would.  But I've got a doc appt on Thursday, and I'll update if I have any brilliant ideas to calm it down.  My doc is pretty knowledgeable about non-traditional therapy too, so I might ask for a referral for some sort of structural bodywork - I've heard that chiropractic treatment can help, but I'm not sure if I'm into that.  Maybe you and I can share any solutions or help that we discover.

 

AFM - I went in for my anatomy ultrasound and the u/s tech thinks I'm about a week ahead - so already 20 weeks.  After a lot of kicks about 2 weeks ago, I haven't felt much lately, and I've been freaking out a bit about that, so it was good to see a nice 150 bpm heart rate, see some feet and legs and arms.  I'm still feeling really crappy though - after a short bit of feeling better I threw up again on Sunday and haven't been able to eat properly since, and on top of the SPD symptoms, it's kind of thrown me a bit, and makes me wonder about sticking it out at work as long as I intend to.  I am our sole income earner, so even though I am in Canada and get lovely things like a whole year of income assistance and my job is protected, the amount we get through employment insurance is a fraction of what I normally earn, so it's a bit daunting to think about scaling back my work sooner.  With my last two pregnancies, I've gone back to work at 6 months because of the financial need, and this time my partner and I have agreed I'll take a full year, so I wanted to maximize my salary for as long as I can.  But then again, I have lots to be grateful for, so I don't mean to be a whiner - I can't imagine having to go back to work right away with a wee one.

post #10 of 93

I had my scan yesterday and everything looks good and healthy and we will be having a boy! I am so freaking happy and excited!!!

she estimated the due ate for May, 2nd and I had it as 3/5, so it seems about right!

Regarding SPD. I had it bad with my 2nd, but my 3rd horrible.  I was close to being wheelchair bound at around 25 weeks and I am not kidding. I didn't sleep for weeks in the 3rd tri because of the intense pain. I go to the chiro and so far that is the only thing that has helped. I have done a lot of research since then, and one thing I have found is a connection between Lecithin and spd. I eat 3-4 eggs every morning and so far my pain is bearable. With no3 the aches started at week10. With this one, too, but much more subdued and now at 18 weeks, I feel fairly good. it is more achy after a long day, but no searing pain. I seriously got stuck midway in a room and couldn't move, I army crawled to the bathroom at night because I could not walk, or get upright. I alos have a belt that goes around my hips that hold everything together So the combo of chiro, lecithin (I really think this is the biggest factor), the belt and NEVER to walk on uneven surfaces (think beach, gravel) is helping so far and every day that goes by without unbearable pain is a good day. Good luck, Mama, spd is truly horrible!

post #11 of 93

16w4d here...and I'm hungry!! I ate like 5 meals yesterday and still wanted more.  I've been hungry today too...trying to eat more veggies to fill me up.  I'm putting on weight very well, so I'm getting a bit concerned!  I didn't gain any weight at all in the first trimester, but have been making up for it since. 

 

I felt some tapping-type sensations 2 nights ago as I was falling asleep.  I fell asleep too fast last night to try to feel for it very much.  It won't be long until baby is kicking like crazy and I won't have to "try" to feel the baby :) 

 

My husband has been getting more excited.  I think my little bump is making it more real for him.  :) 

 

I was talking to my grandma yesterday (age 76).  I was telling her about the baby moving, and about it's size etc..  She remarked that she wish she could have enjoyed her pregnancies as much as I'm enjoying mine.  She said pregnancy wasn't talked about in her day, and she never even knew she would feel her baby move until it started...freaked her out.  She also said she had no idea how her babies were developing, and only knew roughly when they would be born based on the doctors estimates.  It's awesome to live in an information-age, and in a society where we can talk about nearly everything!

post #12 of 93
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Originally Posted by MrsGail View Post
 

16w4d here...and I'm hungry!! I ate like 5 meals yesterday and still wanted more.  I've been hungry today too...trying to eat more veggies to fill me up.  I'm putting on weight very well, so I'm getting a bit concerned!  I didn't gain any weight at all in the first trimester, but have been making up for it since. 

 

I felt some tapping-type sensations 2 nights ago as I was falling asleep.  I fell asleep too fast last night to try to feel for it very much.  It won't be long until baby is kicking like crazy and I won't have to "try" to feel the baby :) 

 

My husband has been getting more excited.  I think my little bump is making it more real for him.  :) 

 

I was talking to my grandma yesterday (age 76).  I was telling her about the baby moving, and about it's size etc..  She remarked that she wish she could have enjoyed her pregnancies as much as I'm enjoying mine.  She said pregnancy wasn't talked about in her day, and she never even knew she would feel her baby move until it started...freaked her out.  She also said she had no idea how her babies were developing, and only knew roughly when they would be born based on the doctors estimates.  It's awesome to live in an information-age, and in a society where we can talk about nearly everything!


We must have close due dates! I am 16w2d today. My husband patted my belly tonight for the first time this pregnancy and it was cute. He has been stand-off-ish to me knowing that I haven't been feeling good so it was a cute little show of affection.

 

 

AFM: We got our family photos back for our holiday cards and they are hilarious. DH and DD hate their picture taken so in a lot of the pictures they have that look on their face like, 'I am smiling. Are we done?' A lot of them turned out really cute too. I will post them when I can.

post #13 of 93
ChiaraRose - interesting about the eggs. What is it about letchin helps? I don't think I could eat that much egg, but I know I can get letchin supplements at my healthy food store. I would love a pointer to your resource if you can share.

Manysplinters - I actually took an appointment with a physio who specializes in pelvic floor. Mind blowing appointment. The two main pieces advice (besides all the normal stuff like keep legs together and don't bend) was to wear my serola belt (and nothing wider) all the time. Even to bed. I sleep with it every night, just set not as tight. And it is helping. The other advice is to do gentle exercise focused on strengthening the butt. Not abs or pelvic floor, but my butt. My butt is weak and lazy from my office job and I need to get it to be stronger and take more of the load. So gentle butt focused cardio and butt clenching strength exercises. I was limping at 15w and now at 17w I am managing. She also has me doing trigger releases with a small ball. So I sit on this ball at work and I'm sure people must think strange things. But it helps so much I don't care.

I'm starting to get flutters pretty frequently now, which makes my heart happy. I love the good parts so much.
post #14 of 93

Hey Girls!  My mother finally left so I have time to catch up on TV and the internet again.  :rotflmao

 

Thanksgiving went well.  I have moved on from tiny meals to something a little bigger.  The "hungry like a trucker" stage might be setting in for me.  I seem to go from satisfied to horribly starving within a few minutes!  I try to carry snacks.  Still no weight gain but I had a little padding to spare to begin with.  :)  Definitely getting those exhausted moments where i just need to close my eyes for a few moments.  

 

My lower back is killing me.  Is it too early to wear a belt?  What belts does anyone have experience with?  I may need to consider one.  Standing or walking is becoming a chore.  

post #15 of 93

Flowering kale (love the name, btw) that is awesome, and totally interesting about the butt, because yesterday when I was walking I made an effort to tighten my butt and I didn't feel a single bit of pain while I was walking, or after - for the first time in a couple of weeks.  I love it when you can discover something about how your body functions!  Now off to google serola belt.  Thanks!

post #16 of 93
Manysplinters - I got mine at the medical supply store. Ask at your pharmacy who carries, but it will be the same place that sells crutches and splints and that kind of gear.

Mrsdonut - definitely look at serola. It just stabalizes pelvis and does not support tummy, which is what you want. The wide belts that support tummy weaken your core, but the serola is really narrow so your core still does work.
post #17 of 93

Flowering kale, if you google lecithin and spd you will find quite some info on it. I extensively researched it almost 2 years ago.

I can also recommend the belt that only goes around your hips, the belly support one are useless with spd. I am going the egg route because I honestly don't trust supplements all that much and try to get my nutrients through foods. But I love eggs, and if you don't, supplements are for sure the way to go.

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Hey Girls!  My mother finally left so I have time to catch up on TV and the internet again.  :rotflmao

 

This is so my mother.  The computer goes off the moment she knocks on the door.  She has an ipad but internet time is not her thing.  :)  

 

Going to my next appointment today with two little girls in tow, alone.  My sister is in labor so Mom is with her today!  Hoping it goes easier for her this time.  And hoping its faster because I need to borrow her new squish for a little baby hug fix.  Or four.

 

I am trying so hard not to dread labor.  And I have nothing to complain about with my labors at all btw, just afraid anyway.  As if G-d didn't pull me through it last time just fine on my own on the bathroom floor. :rotflmao  But today we are supposed to talk about the birth center with the MW.  And I like the idea kinda, just a little leery of thinking too much about the whole pushing part.  That HURTS.  At least its shorter than the actual pregnancy.   And bonus points its the cue that I'll be about to hold my squish.  Who I am just absolutely dying to snuggle, I want a little bitty baby to snuggle and I want him now! :)

post #19 of 93

I had SPD with my first, and little to no problem in that regard with my second and third. I did lose a lot of weight after my first pregnancy.

 

Last time around my sacroiliac joint was giving me a lot of pain towards the end. It felt very similar to SPD, just in reverse. It's been bothering me some this time for the past month or so. Thinking about asking my midwife for a chiropractor recommendation.

post #20 of 93

I am glad for you, but honestly the statement that spd can be cured by lower weight makes me upset. Mine starts on average at week 10 (with zero weight gain). I am not an overweight individual either, btw (at least before I am pregnant). This pregnancy my weight curve is very different that the last three times and I am doing better. Logically I should be worse.

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