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How is it December already? (Chat Thread)

post #1 of 52
Thread Starter 

Might as well!

 

-How is mama?  How is papa/partner?  How is baby?  How is brother/sister/other?

 

-What was going on for you last December?  How does this December feel different?  The same?

 

-What are your holiday/winter season plans?

 

-What's happening with work/school/etc.?

 

-Anything new and exciting?

post #2 of 52

-How is mama?  How is papa/partner?  How is baby?  How is brother/sister/other?

 

I've been trying to take some time out for some self-care and that's generally a good thing. I booked a massage and did some alone things on the weekend. I still have clogged ducts every 1-2 weeks and there are still no answers as to why I have this as an ongoing thing. I've gotten used to the constant pain because it hurts for a week or so before they start and then I nurse with open blisters for a week afterwards. Sigh.

 

Hubby is supportive but he's on business trips 1/4 - 1/2 of each month. My ultimatum before we had a kid was that he needed to groom his career path in such a way that he'd be home long enough to co-parent. I think he feels that week long trips rather than 6 week long trips is the answer. I had rather a different outcome in mind. 

 

Baby is thriving and keeping me positive too which is nice. It has been confirmed after our Dr.s visit today that he is sick with some kind of respiratory thing. As much as I was leaning toward doing no vax I had such a panic attack over him getting a secondary infection like pertussis that I think I'm going to do that one once this is out of his system. My Pediatrician/homeopath does the individual vaccines that aren't in preservatives and he does some detoxifying herbal stuff right after. I feel very conflicted still but at least I think this is the least scary route for me.

 

-What was going on for you last December?  How does this December feel different?  The same?

 

I wouldn't trade places in a million years. The me of last year wasn't sure if I could do this and being on bed rest sure wasn't fun. Everything, and I mean EVERYTHING about this year is different and that's a good thing. 

 

-What are your holiday/winter season plans?

 

Flying home for the holidays for two weeks. Nothing crazy. I'm sure we'll be swallowed into the family scene on arrival and come home confused as to what the heck we did all that time. It's always a mystery to me.

 

-What's happening with work/school/etc.?

 

Meh. I'm bumping along with one teeny tiny contract at a time.

 

-Anything new and exciting?

 

A has been cruising for a couple of months now and finally decided to try standing without holding onto anything today. Most attempts were barely a second but one was 6 seconds. He was grinning widely and just kept at it. He's so determined. 

 

Also he's 8.5 months, 22lbs and 29" tall now!

post #3 of 52
Thread Starter 

Typebug, I'll post more after I get some sleep, but have you tried Lecithin?  You probably have, but I had a nasty milk blister for the longest (weeks and weeks), and when/as it popped, I went on Lecithin (you can get non-soy... sunflower, I think) and haven't had any recurrences.  Might be coincidence, but it's supposed to be good for milk blisters and clogged ducts.

post #4 of 52

december! :dizzy

 

-How is mama?  How is papa/partner?  How is baby?  How is brother/sister/other?

i haven't had any time to myself. not a second. and i'm feeling it. 

hubby is good, he had friends visit from austin over the weekend and they got pretty stupid, so that's good that he got some guy time in. 

baby. baby is good too. she was sick for a couple of weeks and is just finishing up the last of her antibiotics. pink omoxicilin. gross. (sorry for spelling). i am allergic to penicillin, and forgot, so i tasted her med to see what exactly i was giving her and i go "well that's awful. and my tongue is on fire. why is my tongue on fire?!" and hubby is like, you dummy go drink some water. 

she is sleeping much better but tries to roll over onto her belly a lot. she likes to sleep in the nook of my elbow cuddled up next to me all sweaty matted hair. her sweat smells like vinegary popcorn. i love it.

 

 

-What was going on for you last December?  How does this December feel different?  The same?

last december. ugh. so glad that's over.

last december we had my MIL, hubby's grandma and his sister all living with us. it was awful. but i did like being pregnant. i miss feeling a baby in there. it was incredible. sacred vessel!

 

 

-What are your holiday/winter season plans?

we got a tree sunday. a 10 foot beast. smells so good! it's just the 3 of us and my sister in law and her girlfriend. as far as i know. 

started wrapping presents yesterday. huzzah 

 

 

-What's happening with work/school/etc.?

i made the mistake of putting my shop on sale for the 3 big days, now i'm swamped with orders.

it's not a mistake, really, but with a baby it's pretty silly. it's the only way i can get gifts for the holidays, by having my own income. and even so, it's meager. i can only do so much at a time, and holy hell are people impatient this time of year. like, you only ordered over the weekend and i make everything to order, so just chill out. chill out! 

i'm also trying to design a logo/branding for my business after 6 years of not having one. i hate it. if you know anyone that does this, send them my way. 

 

 

-Anything new and exciting?

every day!

post #5 of 52
I'm doing pretty well (thanks for the love on losing my kitty) and recovering from the laundry fallout of the great puke-fest. I think we'll be staying home most of this week, which usually takes its toll on our sanity a bit, so we don't risk spreading the ick. Ds2 still has an icky tummy at night so...

Freya is good. Loves crawling around and it seems to have disturbed the first few nights of sleep, but we've had some normal nights since then. Still no teeth but we are seeing more drool recently.

DH is okay. Headed into his crazy busy time at work so we anticipate seeing less of him. He's been dealing with "island fever" lately, meaning he's bored with everything there is to do here but also doesn't really want to try going to any events. Part of the problem is kids in the car (so we don't want to drive very far) but really this just happens to us here every once in a while and it'll pass. But it's starting to get annoying. orngtongue.gif

Last December... Hmm I can't even remember orngtongue.gif I'm sure I was uncomfortable and trying to stay warm without investing in too many warm maternity things. This year I bought some warm pants that are not frumpy, and I'm loving those. I can't stand being cold inside the house but I get tired of looking like I'm wearing fleece PJs all the time. I desperately need new undies though and haven't found any locally. Any online places you like? I'm looking for cotton but also lacy and cute. A lot of places that do free shipping don't ship for free to hawaii, so I couldn't pull the trigger on my $80 shopping basket at Victoria Secret yesterday.

Holiday plans... Low key at home with just us. Probably a visit to my brother who is nearby. DH and my dad are still not speaking to each other, so at some point I'll have to arrange for the kids to see the grandparents. It's sad and I wish it were different, but I do support my hubby in the line he has drawn to not put up with my dad's b.s. any longer. I don't put up with it either, and my boundaries are much more clear than they were 2 years ago (which I wouldn't have made if DH hadn't put his foot down with my dad), but I do miss seeing more of my mom.

Homeschool is good. By state requirements I'll have to administer a standardized test for ds1 before the end of this school year, so I need to be looking into ordering that and getting it done.


I was totally cracking up at penguin running and baby tantrums. smile.gif
post #6 of 52
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Typebug, I'll post more after I get some sleep, but have you tried Lecithin?  You probably have, but I had a nasty milk blister for the longest (weeks and weeks), and when/as it popped, I went on Lecithin (you can get non-soy... sunflower, I think) and haven't had any recurrences.  Might be coincidence, but it's supposed to be good for milk blisters and clogged ducts.

 

Thanks, I did non GMO soy lecithin for months when I was just starting with all this but it wasn't my golden ticket. Lately I think drinking tons of hot herbal teas during the day and avoiding getting cold -- something about raynaud's and constricting blood flow to the nipple area seems to be indicated. I've mentioned this to a few people but it's not something I can get backed up by any Drs/practitioners. It seems to make sense to me. 

post #7 of 52
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december! :dizzy

 

 

-What's happening with work/school/etc.?

i made the mistake of putting my shop on sale for the 3 big days, now i'm swamped with orders.

it's not a mistake, really, but with a baby it's pretty silly. it's the only way i can get gifts for the holidays, by having my own income. and even so, it's meager. i can only do so much at a time, and holy hell are people impatient this time of year. like, you only ordered over the weekend and i make everything to order, so just chill out. chill out! 

i'm also trying to design a logo/branding for my business after 6 years of not having one. i hate it. if you know anyone that does this, send them my way. 

 

Kelly Beth, I mostly do branding for start-ups with my design business. You can ping me for help!

post #8 of 52

I love it when I catch these threads early on so I have enough time to both read what everyone else wrote and respond myself! Seems like everyone is getting or was sick!

 

Typebug: I wasn't sure what I was going to do with vaccinations until M was born and I could properly imagine what it would be like for her to get any of these illnesses, but now that I know her and know what it would be like I've been getting them (with some exceptions). I think many parenting decisions are fluid like that.

 

KB: So glad to hear that little Naomi is feeling better now. Weird question: does her poop smell like vinegar too? I find that M's poop smells like vinegar most of the time, which doesn't make much sense to me since it's not like we eat a lot of it.

 

-How is mama?  How is papa/partner?  How is baby?  How is brother/sister/other?

Mama and Papa are stressed but managing and baby is doing amazingly well. My MIL is in town for 9 days and she's driving everyone a little nuts. Even though she means well for the most part, her accent is so thick and she mumbles a lot so it's often difficult to understand her and she seems to be trying to overcompensate for the fact that she's never around (because she lives so far away in Holland), so she keeps dumping all this unsolicited "parenting advice" on me. Yesterday M was having one of her trademark freak outs because she was overtired and I handed her over to DH in a fit of exhaustion and was sitting on the couch trying to settle down when she started telling me about how I should let her cry it out because it wasn't real crying and how I'd get to be able to tell the difference between real crying and just "being a drama queen" once I have a second baby. Bear in mind, of course, that DH is an only child so she wouldn't have a clue what it's like to have a second child. She also started going on about how she treats her dogs (she does agility training and always has at least three dogs) when they act like that, putting them in their crate to calm down. splat.gif

 

-What was going on for you last December?  How does this December feel different?  The same?


Last December was spent daydreaming about this December, I think. This one is going to be all about our brand new little family and, once it's just the three of us, I think it's going to be really nice and relaxing. I've been putting up decorations and we'll be betting a tree for the first time this year, so this will be a different experience and I'm really looking forward to it. It's nice to be able to cherry pick your favorite traditions from your childhood and add new ones, knowing that this is something you'll be doing every year for many to come

 

-What are your holiday/winter season plans?

Just hoping to spend some time relaxing before starting work up again in February. We finally have childcare all organized and we've scheduled ourselves so that DH is home on Mondays and I'm home on Fridays so we only have her in daycare 3 days per week, which is a nice balance. The daycare we want was only available when she turns 17 months, so between February and the end of June she'll be in a different daycare, which isn't ideal but there isn't really much we can do about it. At least the short term one has webcams so I can keep an eye on her whenever I want to.


I popped into work about a month back and asked my boss to start sending me some things to do so I can ease back into it and gather some lieu time here and there that I can apply to Fridays once I get back. She was agreeable but hesitant because she wants me to enjoy my time off for as long as I can so I've only gotten a couple emails in that time for a total of about 3 hours of work. I'm pretty swamped right now with the MIL and stuff, but our baby groups and classes have ended for December (to pick back up in Jan), so I have more free time.

 

Aaaaaannnnnd she's awake! At least I got most of this done!

post #9 of 52

Hi everyone! So good to read updates and also keep up with you all now that I'm on fb!

 

I feel like I could type SO MUCH right now, prompted by the questions! I've been very, very sick recently and that is weighing me down. Both physically and mentally. I think it's a combination of low vitamin D due to nursing (got mine checked recently, rickets level!), lack of sleep, and an unhealthy gut (long-ish issue with me). I get viruses at the drop of a hat, averaging two a week. They are usually short-lived, which is good, but then I get another one so soon that it feels like I can't catch a break. They are mostly stomach flus, which is just... not fun. To give you all an idea, I got sick with what felt like real influenza (nausea, aches, chills, cold symptoms, etc) on Thanksgiving, that lasted for a couple of days, then got sick the next Thursday but felt better by Sunday, then came down with something Monday night, felt better today and now I'm feeling achey/feverish again. There is no end. Okay, end pity party. It's hard to take a lot of vitamins/supplements let alone eat when my stomach is sick... but when I am well and can handle it I am doing high doses of vitamin D, iron, elderberry syrup and have just ordered some supplement made of mushrooms that's supposedly good for the immune system. I was similarly sick the winter when DS2 was a baby (but it was just once a week or so, and more colds, which I can deal with better) and I told myself that if I felt sick like that again, that I would wean. But I can't bring myself to. I know in my gut that this is nursing related... but I can't imagine weaning right now. But am thinking about it. I nursed my olders til they were two, so this would be new/weird territory for me.

 

In better news, tomorrow I have a job interview! We are in desperate need to some extra cash and I am also in need of *something* besides being a SAHM. Don't want to say too much til it's a for sure thing... but I'm very excited. It's doing admin/bookkeeping stuff for a natural wellness clinic. Now let's hope I wake up feeling HEALTHY!! I probably won't, but at this point I'm pretty good with dealing with life while feeling like crap.

 

Lou is doing great in general. Definitely going through some sort of sleep regression but I know it will pass. He is VERY into food so that's been fun. Still doing the army crawl with no signs of other movement, and that's just fine!

 

We're staying put for the holidays and as usual will have a revolving door of relatives passing through. We will make a day trip down to Chicago (about 2.5 hrs away, but who knows with a baby!) to be with family. I hope Lou handles the car ride okay. My olders are pretty good in the car now, and having a kindle certainly doesn't hurt. We'll try to time the drive down with the morning nap, and probably leave late to hope for sleep for all the kids on the ride back. I managed to do about 3/4 of my shopping on cyber monday so I'm not feeling stressed at all!

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We're staying put for the holidays and as usual will have a revolving door of relatives passing through. We will make a day trip down to Chicago (about 2.5 hrs away, but who knows with a baby!) to be with family. I hope Lou handles the car ride okay. My olders are pretty good in the car now, and having a kindle certainly doesn't hurt. We'll try to time the drive down with the morning nap, and probably leave late to hope for sleep for all the kids on the ride back. I managed to do about 3/4 of my shopping on cyber monday so I'm not feeling stressed at all!

i hope that you feel better. i take vitamin d drops every morning with naomi. 

also i would love to know how long the drive actually takes with baby. i want to go some places but naomi freaks out and tries desperately to get out of the carseat if she's in there for more than 20 mins.

 

teles: it used to! now it just smells like poop. she eats meals with me in addition to bf whenever she wants so she has some stinky poops. but they come out so easy (for her and for me to clean!) in peanut butter consistent blobs. hah

post #11 of 52

I love these questions!

 

Um, okay. Let's see.

 

-How is mama? How is papa/partner? How is baby? How is brother/sister/other?

Mama is up/down/glass case of emotions. Ha. A lot going on with family (my parents are divorcing and it's getting pretty nasty, plus lingering grief over my aunt's unexpected death back in July). A lot going on with hormones I think. I'm getting a little more sleep though FINALLY. Baby's hellacious wake-every-five-minutes cycle was about three weeks long and almost did me in. But she's sleeping longer stretches now, I'd say three or four hours at a time. It feels like heaven.

She's such an awesome curious funny little person. I love her. She isn't quite walking, but close. Says hi, mama, baba (dada). Waves hello. Raises her arms for "SO BIG!". Signs for milk. Has so much more hair all of a sudden, and is in the middle of cutting her fourth tooth, the second top incisor. All of a sudden I tear up when I ask her how big she is and she raises her arms with an impish grin. She IS so big! (Well, actually, she's a peanut. She lost weight in between doctors appointments and the doctors are kind of freaking out.... yay.)

Pops is fine, too. He's in the middle of his Psychiatry rotation and not especially enjoying it. Also studying for big exams. But he's so supportive of me. He's the greatest.

 

 

-What was going on for you last December? How does this December feel different? The same?

Last December was super mellow. Just us two since we couldn't make it out to California to see our family. We were getting excited to meet our baby! So there was a feeling of peace, of expectation. (Just the way the season SHOULD feel.) This December feels similar, I think. Only there's added joy because we have our nugget here in the flesh. Oh, it's so good.

 

-What are your holiday/winter season plans?

Staying here in the boonies, just us three. So, in reference to the above- part of the reason things are so peaceful and mellow is because we don't have big huge travel plans or the stress of our moms wigging out over stuff. (HOLIDAY PHOTOS CHRISTMAS PARTIES WHO'S HOUSE ARE YOU STAYING AT?!) We might travel out to Pittsburgh to visit with my great aunt for Christmas Eve. But nothing huge. Keeping things simple. We're Catholic and a little nutty about keeping the Advent season about anticipation, then our Christmas festivities really begin Christmas Eve and don't end until Epiphany. 12 days of Christmas!

 

-What's happening with work/school/etc.?

Nothing special. I've been toying with the idea of going back to school for ages- something medical. Maybe midwifery school, nursing school, or nursing THEN midwifery. Husband pointed out I could do medical school even, if that's what I wanted, once his "turn" is up and he's actually making money. I love that my man is so supportive of my dreams. He's willing to table certain opportunities to move to a different city for me to start school, if that's what I decide I want. So, there's something brewing. But nothing definitive. And since my original bachelors degree is totally unrelated to the medical profession, I have to start with a lot of pre-req's anyway.

 

-Anything new and exciting?

We MAY start thinking about trying-not-trying for number 2 soon. MAYBE. But maybe that's the extra sleep talking. ;)

 

So happy to hear from you  ladies! Happy festivities for everyone who celebrates! (And hey- even if you don't, take advantage of the cookies.)

 

BTW- re-bringing up the discussion: how is everyone doing with the finding friends thing? I've been dealing with a few mean-mom-clique issues and it has me feeling lonely and isolated.

post #12 of 52
Oh my gosh, this baby and her nursing-yoga. I don't think my other nurslings were quite this active ... Latched on, body twisted, feet planted, cute little buns in the air. I need to have someone take a pic for me because I'm sure I'll look back on it and smile, but for now it's just kind of annoying. Plus she keeps herself awake doing this at night before bed.
post #13 of 52
Thread Starter 

We are officially starting to lose it here.  Off and on for a month or more, maybe related to learning to walk (she's getting pretty proficient), but...  She wakes up every 30 minutes or so ALL. NIGHT. LONG.

 

Now...  When I say all night long, she actually maaaaaybe stirs once, maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaybe twice, before we come to bed, whenever that may be.  So that's 0-2 times from ~8:30 pm to 11:30-1 am (basically, usually 0-1x/3-4.5 hours).  After that, she is waking and crying at least 10x over the next 6-8 hours. 

 

Here's the thing-- she almost always goes back to sleep within a minute, thanks to boob, back, patting, being flipped to the other side, cuddled, etc.  So the problem isn't getting her back to sleep-- it's her waking up-- and that she cries/fusses, when it used to be more like "barely stirs." 

 

She was definitely not always like this.  We always coslept, but even when I had to actually get up and sit up to nurse her (<6-8 weeks old), she would not wake more than 3-4x/night over 10-12 hours. 

 

Let's say it's not a phase.  What is it?  Is it that she can feel us moving in the bed?  Smell me?  Coincidence (her best sleep would always happen at the beginning of the night whether we were there or not)?  Anyone?

post #14 of 52
Buko that sounds like my LO during his crazy teething period. It ended thank god. Hope it is over soon for you too.

Odinsmama we've got some crazy yoga or perhaps gymnastics going on during day time nursing too. He latches on and then the legs start start kicking and all of a sudden he's almost ready for a cartwheel.

We're having a really crappy two weeks. DH is away on business and we're onto a second cold for A this week, a sinus cold for me with muscles that hurt so bad I can barely pick him up. Congestion at night time is making him scream. And I woke up with a clogged duct this morning. FML.
post #15 of 52
Thread Starter 

Oh, Typebug, that royally stinks!  :Hug

 

Of course, if you're like me, things will take a turn for the better since you vented here!

 

No new teeth on the horizon AFAICT (8 are enough for now!) but it did occur to me that I've been drinking both more caffeine (which I don't think is the culprit) and more alcohol lately...  or rather, not more alcohol, but alcohol later in the evening, increasing the chances she was getting some when nursing around 11 or 12 am.  I'm genuinely not really worried about her developmentally (per se) when it comes to being exposed to a tiny bit of alcohol via breastmilk, especially since it's so tiny (as we know, the same % as one's BAC, so fairly safe even at drunk levels, and I'm not drunk).  BUT, I know that drinking close to bed makes for cr@ppier sleep for adults, so why wouldn't it for BFed babies?  Maybe between me being more restless (not that I can tell, but maybe I've been waking her up) and her possibly being more restless...  Well, suffice it to say that I decided to:

 

1) Make sure coffee consumption is only in the morning and cut it to 1 cup (again, don't think this is the issue, but just to be safe) and

 

2) Make sure I have my one alcoholic drink immediately after she has her last pre-bedtime nursing session (around 8-8:30, so by 11-12 it's definitely-- I know b/c of MilkScreen-- 100% out of my system and milk). 

 

Anyway.  Last night was WORLDS better.  So I'll keep on this path for at least a week, and if I want to chance it at some later date, perhaps add back the second cup of coffee.  But generally, there's no reason for me to be drinking alcohol within 1-2 hours of her nursing again anyway, so I'll keep an eye on that indefinitely.

 

I hope I've solved the problem.

 

WE SHALL SEE

post #16 of 52
Thread Starter 

Oh, and since venting here magically solves problems!!!

 

Yahoo! mail has been down for a chunk of users (including me) for more than 36 hours.  UGH!  I do ALL my business online and while I have a few workarounds for SOME of my email needs, this is making me so so so so so anxious.  It's terrible!  I know, I know-- why am I still on Yahoo?  Because I got my email in 1998, so I was able to literally get just my exact initials (no extra numbers or anything fancy) @ yahoo.com 

 

And I'm just used to it, I guess, and have rarely had issues.

 

THIS IS THE WORST.  PLEASE COME BACK ONLINE ASAP, YAHOO

post #17 of 52
Buks, I'm definitely calling it a phase. Olive did - does - that, too, about once every month or two. It's a few nights of absolutely trashy sleep (compared to the usual bliss of our lucky bedsharing chemistry!) and throws us off all week, but IT PASSES. I'm crossing my fingers for you that it passes quickly for you, too.

Typebug, <3

More later. I just had a moment to check in. Looking forward to participating!
post #18 of 52
Thread Starter 

SG-- thanks.  It could absolutely be total coincidence!  So I'll see...

post #19 of 52

hope it passes soon buko!

 

doesn't anyone's LO like picking their nose? not picking necessarily, but just sticking a finger up there? it's SO funny, but SO not funny at the same time! 

 

another question:

do any mamas have a solution to chafed red baby knees from crawling? i am constantly moisturizing them, and she is always wearing leggings or tights but still. i feel bad for her.

 

n. is trying to walk independently now. she takes a step and falls on her butt. but she's SO close. almost 10 months old. i can't believe she'll be a year old soon. anyone have plans for their LO's 1st birthday? i know i am making peanut butter cookies, since i did that while i was in labor. :)

post #20 of 52
Thread Starter 

Looks like my mail is back up-- yay!  There's a delay, and I'm still getting messages from yesterday, the day before, etc., but PHEW

 

I don't know what we are going to do for baby's birthday.  I wanted to do an open house for friends and family with coffee and desserts to rep her heritage-- so Jewish, Southern (US) and Filipino.  Like rugelach, sweet potato pie and bibingka, LOL...

 

BUT we have to be out of this house March 1, and her birthday is March 2.  It would either be here with everything in boxes in Feb, or in the new place (hopefully mostly out of boxes) in April. 

 

Blah.

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