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post #21 of 52
We live super far from family and aren't that close to any friends here. Otherwise I'd love to do something similar to you Buko! My mom's birthday is the day before Margot's, and she's planning on flying out to be with us, which she did last year for the birth. So that'll be fun.

We'll probably keep it pretty simple. I'll make a cake (plain vanilla maybe? yellow? or banana..) and her fave foods (potatoes! meat! who is this kid?!) and wrap a few presents. Her daddy is building her a play kitchen so that's our big thing smile.gif she is allllllllmost walking and loving bigger kid toys at our play dates. I'm thinking dad's gift will be a hit! and one less ugly plastic thing to have in our living room.
post #22 of 52
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n. is trying to walk independently now. she takes a step and falls on her butt. but she's SO close. almost 10 months old. i can't believe she'll be a year old soon. anyone have plans for their LO's 1st birthday? i know i am making peanut butter cookies, since i did that while i was in labor. :)

 

I wanted to take A back to Canada for his Birthday but we're going back for Easter so I guess we'll do something here... I'm not planning to let him eat/vomit up cake which seems to be the local tradition for this milestone. Maybe we'll do one of the traditions from Singapore since that was his birthplace. 

post #23 of 52
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Maybe we'll do one of the traditions from Singapore since that was his birthplace. 

So fun!  Do it!

post #24 of 52

that's a beautiful idea!

no cake here either.  i make gluten free vegan pies (peach for her 6 month and apple for thanksgiving and persimmon tarts for a dinner party) and she really loves fruit so maybe little various fruit tarts this time. 

a fruit theme maybe? cut-out paper fruit hats for all! 

post #25 of 52
No big plans here for first bday. Baby's first bday is actually a pretty big deal in Hawaiian culture, tons of people and tons of food involved. We did a big thing for DS1, less big for DS2 and I think we'll just do family for DD. I was thinking I might do cupcakes but I kinda like the pie idea!

A friend of mine is moving so I just got a free kitchen for Freya, but it IS one of the ugly plastic ones, so I don't know if it'll stay. The boys each have a wood kitchen-type cabinet thing, which they use for hoarding "treasure", but I'm hoping DS2 (who isn't nearly the hoarder his brother is) will share his with Freya.

I'm getting excited for Christmas but have been really busy this week and finally have a day home today. I think next week is looking busy, too.
post #26 of 52
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-How is mama?  How is papa/partner?  How is baby?  How is brother/sister/other?

Mama is doing pretty good, keeping busy with crochet order this time of year.
Papa is keeping busy at work, they have a lot to do right now and he works quite a bit of overtime. When he is at home I get to enjoy some time to myself as he will take baby and get his snuggles in.
Baby boy is doing pretty good, he just got over some nasty virus that required Nebulizer treatments and we are dealing with some food allergies as well. He is trying really hard to keep up with his older siblings and two weeks ago has taken 3 steps. He will take 2-3 steps here and there but as soon as he realizes what he is doing he will just sit down on the floor, lol. He lacks the confidence, as his balance is great.
The older kiddos are doing good and enjoying the dumping of snow we are getting right now. We have taken a kind of relaxed approach with homeschooling and they have learned so much, even my 4yr old has surprised me with some new things :).

 

-What was going on for you last December?  How does this December feel different?  The same?

I do enjoy this December much better than last as I have this little guy around to enjoy. I also love to watch how he interacts with his siblings and the siblings with him.

 

-What are your holiday/winter season plans?

We are taking it easy and don't have really any plans. My brother surprised us and will be here for a weekend while visiting another friend. This is a nice surprise as I haven't seen him since 2011, since my whole family lives in Germany.
We may visit my inlaws for Christmas but keeping our options open in case we get a lot of snow.
 

-What's happening with work/school/etc.?

We just had a new baby store open up in town and I have been making some crochet items for them, the extra cash is nice to have at this time of year. I'm super excited that they have cloth diapers as well.
School is great for the most part and it's such a blessing to be able to teach the kids at home. Not sure if the kids will look at it that way after I tell them snow shoveling is PE tomorrow, lol.

-Anything new and exciting?

post #27 of 52

'tis the Season of reuniting with old friends... anyone else having a difficult time connecting? Friends who come bearing gifts and want to be referred to as "auntie" but they constantly ask me to get baby-sitters so we can "leave the baby at home and go have fun." Sigh. Or they want to be picked up places. Yeah, sure I'll just wake up the baby and come over there right now. Grrr. I just got suckered into shopping with a friend who cluelessly spent an hour trying to lingerie while I tried to hang onto my LO who wanted to charge around the store. Every so often she'd ask the sales staff to come and find me so she could get my opinion. I'm standing there with a wriggling baby on my hip in a changeroom and she asks "can you go get me this in the next size?" Really. This happened. I'm so done.


Edited by typebug - 12/17/13 at 4:59pm
post #28 of 52
Thread Starter 

Ugh, typebug!  I think I'm lucky in that my childless friends (and most of them are, even though I'm 35) almost bend over backwards and don't expect much (or for me to go anywhere without the baby).  But I can... almost!... see myself in your description of your friend when I was pre-kids.  Just ~2.5 years ago, I remember telling my DH that I couldn't have a proper conversation with my BFF because she was always interrupting to talk to her baby.  :blush 

post #29 of 52
Ahhh ladies, been missing you. I am sitting in my van waiting for 3 cranky kids to wake up so I can go into a store and buy dhs grandma a present for when we see her tomorrow. We are traveling right now and staying with my anti ap grandma. She has something to say just about every parenting choice. Heading hone yomorrow though! Liam is up nursing ay least 10 times a night and wants to stay attached. I am getting TIRED. It has been about 2 weeks of this, up from 4-6 times a night. Told dh that I need a full day to sleep and just bring me ds to nurse.

We are hosting christmas dinner for 16 people and I am feeling a little overwhelmed. I want to feel more thankful and delighted this season, especially since Ihave the cutest, cuddle bug baby boy and 2 amazing girls .... I just am not.

Phew... guess I needed to vent.
post #30 of 52
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Ahhh ladies, been missing you. I am sitting in my van waiting for 3 cranky kids to wake up so I can go into a store and buy dhs grandma a present for when we see her tomorrow. We are traveling right now and staying with my anti ap grandma. She has something to say just about every parenting choice. Heading hone yomorrow though! Liam is up nursing ay least 10 times a night and wants to stay attached. I am getting TIRED. It has been about 2 weeks of this, up from 4-6 times a night. Told dh that I need a full day to sleep and just bring me ds to nurse.

We are hosting christmas dinner for 16 people and I am feeling a little overwhelmed. I want to feel more thankful and delighted this season, especially since Ihave the cutest, cuddle bug baby boy and 2 amazing girls .... I just am not.

Phew... guess I needed to vent.

 

HUG!

post #31 of 52

Aw, Chloe'sMama, you poor thing. We're tired here, too. Periods of just plain wakefulness during the night and only sleeping while latched so... I don't sleep that well. DH is a champ and takes him for a good portion but I'm still exhausted. It's weird, I could sleep through latch-ons with my older two but this baby is a little more intense about it!

Still having health issues. All stomach bugs. Feel like something else is going on with me, but tests are showing nothing. Pretty frustrating. At best I have 2-3 days of "health" a week. Other than that I'm a nauseous, shivery, achey mess. This makes me super nervous about starting work full-time in the new year. But hey, if I can be a mom when I'm sick, then I can work when sick, right?! 

Tomorrow starts the busy holiday extravaganza for us. We're supposed to drive down to Chicago to be with family (just a day trip) but it's going to blizzard tonight, so that's up in the air. I am very much looking forward to my inlaws being here because they are such wonderful helpers. DH and I are going to try to squeeze in a date night, too. It'll be our nine year anniversary new year's eve. Still so in love and I am very thankful :). 

post #32 of 52
Thread Starter 

Just had to put Kitty to sleep.  She had been on a slow decline for a while, but still.  :(

post #33 of 52

Oh no, so sorry Buko.  It is so hard to say goodbye to our pets.  Take care of yourself.

post #34 of 52
greensad.gifgreensad.gif so sorry Buko, totally sucks.

Good grief, Jean, that kind of health stuff going on with no answers... Super lame. Do you see a gastro specialist? DH and i have our anniversary on the 28th! smile.gif

Hope you are all looking forward to low stress holidays! We are keeping it simple. Just us here at home. But then I'll need groceries immediately after orngtongue.gif
post #35 of 52
Sorry to hear that Buko greensad.gif

Can it be molar time already? Clarissa doesn't even have her second set of bottom teeth yet but there is a distinct bump at the back of her gums on one side. She chews back there a lot too.
post #36 of 52

Hi Ladies-

I am just here to vent.... share.

 

I am feeling so weird lately, nauseous, tired, crampy, dizzy, oh and SUPER emotional.... like almost crying at everything.... but I don't want to take a HPT because I know more than likely it would be negative and I still want another while DH is set against it... maybe it doesn't make sense, but I like the feeling of there being a small possibility... I didn't ovulate till the girls were both around 14 months, so it would be really weird if I ovulated early this time, especially since DS sleeps so much less at night.  I feel completely irrational to want it, and wish for it.... Glad I can share here....

 

Hope everyone had a great Christmas!!!

post #37 of 52
Chloe's mama- not weird at all! I so understand where you're coming from- wanting another baby is a generous and noble and just desire!

Fwiw, with postpartum fertility you can't necessarily go by past "patterns" of fertility, you have to go by current observations. So, it actually is possible that you could become pregnant before you think you ovulated!
post #38 of 52

I need a bit of a vent too.

 

Alcohol has always been a problem in my relationship with DH - he drinks every day and I rarely drink at all. I should note that he's from Holland and comes from a family of serious drinkers (when his mother was here for 9 days she cruised through 5 bottles of wine and a bottle of vodka all on her own, plus visits to pubs and the odd drink with DH), so drinking is something that's always very much been part of his life. When I met him, he drank A LOT and would be drunk many nights per week, but that slowed way down when we got together and has improved vastly over time.

 

However.

 

Every now and then (tonight included), he accidentally drinks too much and gets into this buzz state where he's impossible to talk to reasonably and inevitably gets sloppy drunk all by himself. It's pathetic and I've spoken to him a number of times about how it's dangerous to cosleep when you've been drinking and tried to explain to him that what he's saying when he drinks too much and tries to climb into bed with our baby that his beer is more important than her safety. He absolutely denies that this is a problem, but usually agrees to sleep on the couch on those days. Tonight what specifically happened was that he started getting his slurry voice so I asked him politely not to have any more drinks tonight, which he rather begrudgingly agreed to. Not even 15 minutes later I went into the kitchen and found that he had poured himself another beer. I was furious but I don't know what to do about this situation anymore. If it was every day I would leave him, that's how seriously I hate this, but since it's something that happens maybe once every couple of months (getting to the slurry point and drinking more, that is) I'm out of ideas about how to approach it. I want to ask him to not drink anymore at all, outside of maybe social situations or something, but that's not going to happen.

 

What's really frustrating is that we had a really good day yesterday and now this is going to cast a shadow on the precious few days he has off.

post #39 of 52

Awww, I am sorry Teles.  My dad drank WAY too much when I was a kid and DH's family, siblings especially, have issues with alcohol.  There are times when DH over does it and I ask him to please sleep in the other room.  We talk about it when he is not drinking, so that when he does and I ask him to sleep elsewhere, it is not a problem.  I don't know how you can bring it up with him, but sounds like you really need something to change.  I am sorry.....

 

Well, I had a pregnancy test that was left over from before DS.... it was negative.  

post #40 of 52

That actually makes me feel a lot better. None of my friends have issues like this and none of them are really drinkers, so every time I talk about it with them I either get the "maybe you should threaten to leave him so he'll take you seriously" or "he's an alcoholic and needs help", which are two extremes that overshoot the problem. 

 

With regard to the negative test, all I can offer is a hug. I'm all too familiar with the relief and disappointment cocktail that comes along with that.

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