I need a bit of a vent too.
Alcohol has always been a problem in my relationship with DH - he drinks every day and I rarely drink at all. I should note that he's from Holland and comes from a family of serious drinkers (when his mother was here for 9 days she cruised through 5 bottles of wine and a bottle of vodka all on her own, plus visits to pubs and the odd drink with DH), so drinking is something that's always very much been part of his life. When I met him, he drank A LOT and would be drunk many nights per week, but that slowed way down when we got together and has improved vastly over time.
Every now and then (tonight included), he accidentally drinks too much and gets into this buzz state where he's impossible to talk to reasonably and inevitably gets sloppy drunk all by himself. It's pathetic and I've spoken to him a number of times about how it's dangerous to cosleep when you've been drinking and tried to explain to him that what he's saying when he drinks too much and tries to climb into bed with our baby that his beer is more important than her safety. He absolutely denies that this is a problem, but usually agrees to sleep on the couch on those days. Tonight what specifically happened was that he started getting his slurry voice so I asked him politely not to have any more drinks tonight, which he rather begrudgingly agreed to. Not even 15 minutes later I went into the kitchen and found that he had poured himself another beer. I was furious but I don't know what to do about this situation anymore. If it was every day I would leave him, that's how seriously I hate this, but since it's something that happens maybe once every couple of months (getting to the slurry point and drinking more, that is) I'm out of ideas about how to approach it. I want to ask him to not drink anymore at all, outside of maybe social situations or something, but that's not going to happen.
What's really frustrating is that we had a really good day yesterday and now this is going to cast a shadow on the precious few days he has off.