35+ Mamas - Page 3
pudlenka, my Dh is asking for names, too! I am feeling as if it's way to early for that, but I'm appreciative of his excitement, so am starting to think along those lines.
Also, funny story: when my younger son was born, we were all so sure he was going to be a girl, so at the last stage of birth, my then-3 year old and my husband were encouraging "her" and cheering her on by the name we'd chosen. Only, surprise! A boy! My husband and I had even forgotten the boy name we'd chosen, but luckily the 3 year old remembered so we were able to greet him properly. :)
This time I am on my fourth pregnancy in less than a year and am seeing an OB. Even though I've given birth five times, this is all new to me. I am not used to viewing pregnancy as a medical condition. I can't imagine thinking at 35 that the whole thing would be any different than it was in my 20s. But after losing three pregnancies I have to admit that my body is older and things seem to have changed. Hopefully I just hit some bad eggs and now all will be perfect from here on out.
Anyway, I am still working on accepting that I am really going to have a baby and I definitely hope to be able to remain part of this group for a long time.
Almost three years ago at 39, I would never have considered seeing an OB. nor at 35. Before my UCs I was a doula, Bradley instructor, LLLeader, BF counselor, so I was never afraid of birth. With my body having betrayed me three times in a row, and of course with the world at large considering me practically geriatric, well, I'm just thinking too much these days. And I want to be fully prepared. Going in for the Harmony Thursday. A year ago you could never have convinced me that I would EVER succumb to genetic testing. Guess we really do grow as we age!
When I told my midwife that I wanted to have the MaterniT21 test (really, I don't care about the genetic part, just finding out gender early in a very non-invasive way) she asked me how old I was (first appointment). 37. She said, "Oh, good, you'll probably qualify for insurance to cover it as you're..... you're...." I cut in with a smirk, "Advanced maternal age." She looked embarrassed by the term. I know she's not worried about it, I don't think I should be either ;)
I haven't told anyone in my friend or community circle yet, but yesterday when I had a conversation with a 38-year-old friend about how she wants to get pregnant again (her one child is 11), I was so tickled. I loved hearing her backs and forths about it, and hearing her land on such a place of optimism and joy at the prospect of being a more experienced mother and person the second time around. It echoed some of my own best thoughts.