The past few months we have been working on a mish-mash of behavioral issues including some of her own anxiety, and working with a LPC. Things are better, but her best friend/cousin moved out of state this past summer and she has had a hard time with that. DH found her laying on her bed holding an album with the pictures of them together and she says things like "I want to find someone who looks like (cousin) and be her friend". I have tried to facilitate contact via Skype, etc., but it has not been reciprocated by her parents, unfortunately.
The thing is, I see so much of me in her at that age, with the tendency to put all her energy into one or two friends because that is what feels "safe", only to feel lonely and lost when they aren't around. I have tried since she was a baby to get her out and playing with other kids, but she has been shy all along despite me faking my way through social gatherings. My circle of friends is still pretty small, and I could never get the gumption to do the playgroup thing, especially the last year as DD's anxiety has manifested in some pretty cringeworthy episodes. It kills me because I am the most poorly equipped to help her branch out. She spends time with closer friends outside of class maybe one or two times a month, but I feel like I should be getting to know more parents in her class. I am just so terrible and terrified at introductions and small talk, plus, most of the moms know each other from the previous year of Pre-K. I worked up the nerve to introduce myself to a fellow quiet mom (the twins' mom, actually) a few weeks ago, and was so focused on making the effort that I FORGOT HER NAME, and now I can't make myself ask her again... pathetic, right?
I am taking the fish oil/Vit-D/Magnesium trifecta to try and lighten my mood, since I have a heart condition that prevents me from being able to take SSRIs, try to get in as many trips to park and library and playdates as I can manage, but feel like I'm falling short. On the other hand, I don't want DD to feel like she's not okay to just be who she wants to be, which will probably never be a social butterfly. I know she wants a replacement for her cousin, though, and its hard explaining to a 4yo that she's got to network, when I can barely do it myself. Advice?