I've been thinking about this for a while and maybe now would be a good time to discuss it to take everyone's minds off our impending labors (or lack thereof!)
What are your plans for sleeping arrangements for baby? What have you done in the past that worked well or didn't work out as planned?
I'm all for co-sleeping, but bed sharing just does not work for me. I had DD in bed with us until she was 2.5 and I swear I never got a decent night of sleep-except when I was in the Army and away doing field training! And the only reason we stopped at 2.5 is because I deployed to Iraq. After I came home a year later she still wanted to sleep with me but was used to being in her own bed by then (actually, she still prefers to if given the chance and she's 10!) I don't sleep well another adult in the bed (we have a king size bed and DP knows to stay far on his own side) so having a baby or child next to me means I get practically no sleep. With DD I was always hyper aware of her being right there and any slight movement she made would wake me up. And of course she got use to me always sticking a boob in her mouth when she stirred so if that didn't happen she would fully wake up. We eventually figured it really was me....when she was 11 months old I had to be in the field for 3 nights and I was so worried that she'd end up awake and crying all night and ex-dh wouldn't be able to console her. He said the first night she woke up once, kind of fussed, sat up and looked around, realized I wasn't there, then laid down and went back to sleep for the rest of the night. And she didn't wake up at all the next two nights I was gone. As soon as I home it was back to waking up multiple times to nurse. I need decent sleep to be able to even function moderately normally and to be a nice person to be around. I really don't want to repeat those first few years with DD.
This time, my plan is to have baby in the bassinet within arms reach of my bed for the first months, then transitioning her to being on the opposite side of the room (so I'm not as likely to hear her normal shifting around and immediately wake up). When she's sleeping longer stretches (4 hours at a time, maybe?) then actually moving her into her own room. If I wasn't so adamant about exclusively breastfeeding (no formula) I'd let DP take over some nighttime feedings. He has no problem staying up til 2 am, sleeping four hours, then getting up and going to work. But I know that in the beginning those nighttime nursing sessions are important to building my milk supply. At least if DP is staying up I can just nurse her then go back to bed if she decides to be awake in the middle of the night. (This is actually what we did after I had my surro daughter. For the first 3 nights I stayed with them and slept in the room across the hall. When she'd wake up her mom brought her in, I nursed her, then her mom took her back to her room to do whatever and I went right back to sleep. It wasn't a bad arrangement at all!)
I'd love to hear what works (and doesn't work) for everyone else! No judging from me; I know it'll be different for every parent and vary from baby to baby as well.