My cousin moved across the country because all of her family is here. She specifically moved because of her sister, me, my two brothers, and our mom. My parents were surrogates to my cousins growing up.
Her son is 2 1/2 just like mine. We went to see them yesterday and her son, who has been in day care most of his life until moving, was growling, hitting my kids, knocking toys over their heads, screaming in their faces, pulling hair, etc. I mean he was a TERROR. My son and daughter (who is 1 1/2) didn't know what to do and when we left, my son said he was mean.
I really want to be close with my cousin but I really don't want my kids around her son. For one, I don't want them treated so terribly but also, I don't want them thinking that behavior is acceptable. My cousin put him in time outs and even spanks him (which I don't advocate for at all) but NOTHING changes.
How would you handle this situation?