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What to do when my child's teacher punished him wrongly?

post #1 of 9
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My son was accused of doing something (very minor) that I know he didn't do. When asked if he did it, he said "no." He was then punished for lying. He's pretty upset.

 

Essentially he was punished for being honest. I don't want him to learn that lesson, and am not sure what to do to fix it.

 

Have you dealt with this? Or are you a teacher that has had this situation? Is there anything I can say to the teacher that will help rather than offending?


Edited by rainytown - 12/9/13 at 12:02pm
post #2 of 9
I don't have a school aged child, but this would really bother me. I think I would speak to the teacher about it and if she is not willing to resolve it with your son, go to the principal and discuss it with her/him. If you are not comfortable with that or think it would make things worse, then I would just explain to your son that sometimes people like his teacher make mistakes, but it doesn't change the fact that he did the right thing. The most important person in his life is you so that should bring him some comfort.

On a side note, do children normally get called out and scolded in front of the whole class? I know that's how it was done when I was at school but I was hoping that we had evolved from that. :-/
post #3 of 9
Thread Starter 

Thank you for the kindness, Dalia.

 

The public "correction" does happen regularly in all the classes I've seen. :<

post #4 of 9

I suggest you approach this asking the teacher what happened from her POV. Saying that your child said XYZ and their absolutely couldn't be more to the story and your child would never lie isn't going to go over well. I think it is fair to let her know what your son shared most importantly "If the teacher and kids said I did it, I must have done it. But I don't remember doing it."

 

I do think it is important to talk about all people making mistakes too.

 

I hope you have  a good resolution.

post #5 of 9
I encouraged my dd to go to the teacher the next day and tell her it hurt her feelings when she said she did x even though she didn't. It has always worked for her. I don't get involved though unless it happens a lot and dd feels that advocating for herself isn't working.
post #6 of 9
Thread Starter 

Thank you for the suggestions. The situation is resolved!

post #7 of 9
What did you end up doing about it?
post #8 of 9
Thread Starter 

I just told her what my ds told me. She came to the same conclusion I had. She's a great teacher.

post #9 of 9
Oh that's great!!
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