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post #61 of 319
3lilchunklins I can't remember, are you planning another and just waiting or are you trying not to want?

Andthestars good luck with getting your husband on board for having another.

Writermama that is awesome!

I started a new home workout program and so far it is kicking my trash, I hope it gets easier or I start seeing results soon otherwise I'm not sure how I'm going to stick with it.
post #62 of 319
I initially was wanting to TTC in September but then I go back and forth wanting now, wanting to wait, and not wanting at all. Its insanity!!!!
post #63 of 319

Hello girls!  How is everyone doing?  It's been a bit manic around here, with our youngest turning 4 yesterday and various work bits and bobs!  The big news is that we have decided to just let it happen.  So we're not actively TTC but we're not preventing it either.  Of course, this may mean nothing as at my last appointment I was told I probably wouldn't be able to get pregnant without IVF and donor eggs due to my low AMH levels and the perimenopause, but we'll see.  If it's meant to happen I'm sure it will.  We've decided if it hasn't happened by about September time then we'll look into some extra testing to see exactly what's going on...  But for now we're just taking it easy and enjoying ourselves without pressure!

post #64 of 319
Well I think that's worthy of a congrats!!! Sending sticky fertile thoughts your way ;- D
post #65 of 319

Wow, a lot of us waiting (or potentially waiting?) for the summer to TTC. Might be a full ddc for March-ish. I've been completely bogged down with school work the last two weeks- both mine and the kids', and it looks like I really missed out on some action on this board. Congrats to Seven for the relaxing news, and to the ladies whose plans are still a "go", even if it's a bit sad when AF visits. And good on ya, Katy, for getting into a workout routine. I am still saying "we really need to start getting to the gym" about every other night at dinner, but I haven't done anything about it yet.  


I am going to check out some of the links you all posted a few weeks ago (when I get a few minutes), as I think more about healthy habits I need to start. 3LilChunklins, that's a good idea about a cleanse. I am not nursing (LO weaned at 2), so I might look into that, and pair it with some changed eating habits. DH & I were looking at the 5:2 diet, where you fast for 2 days, and eat normally for the other 5. I think that sounds more doable for the long-run, but I haven't had time to read the book yet to see how I'd have to modify it for pregnancy. 

 

I am thankful for my IUD, because I can't really be tempted to ttc earlier than our plan, even if I really want to. It'll require a special appointment at a doctor's office first, and I'm good at procrastinating. ;-)  I've been looking at strollers in my "spare" time before bed.

 

OK, well, my LO just got out of bed, so I'd better sign off and take him down to mine.  Ciao!

post #66 of 319

I second the congrats to Seven about the decision to just see what happens.  There is so much relief is having a direction even if you don't know where it will lead.  Not having to worry/time intercourse makes it better too ;)

 

writermama, your DH does sound dreamy....:wink  I bet you feel like a fertility goddess.  I'm a little bit jealous.

 

3lil, do you mind if I shorten your name?  Tell me now or I will run with it.  Fair warning.  I too am feeling so ambivalent.  It does feel slightly insane to go back and forth between wanting a baby NOW to thinking that's it's crazy to even consider another child.  I just want to make a decision, have DH make a decision and go with it.  It would be the most helpful if the decisions that DH and I are the same one.

 

Yaliina, I keep thinking that now is the time to get myself healthier too.  This time of year is always when I'm at my heaviest and blah-est.  Once spring comes and I can get outside in the garden, I'll feel better.  It's been 0-10 degrees for two weeks now here in PA and I'm ready for warmer weather.  Even the 30's sounds good at this point.

 

katy, keep going with the 'trash' kicking!  You can do it!

post #67 of 319
Thanks for the encouragement, I ended up working out 5 days this last week, a new record for me.

Andthestars, that cold sounds miserable, I hope it warms up a little soon.

Besides dropping weight/getting healthy, does anyone have any big goals, vacations, projects, activities, etc. that they want to do before they start ttc?
post #68 of 319
Andthestars - yes it totally fine if you shorten my name! I agree that just feeling like you've decided whether or not to have another is a wonderful feeling of relief. Like you can allow yourself to want more because some day you will have another. But if your not, then you can hopefully stop longing for another, and play these cruel games on your heart.
post #69 of 319
Thread Starter 

Katy, Big projects? For me, I am going to try my hardest to finish writing a YA novel before the next baby (if there is one). I have written 2 chapters so far and I am serious about doing it, dedicating 6 hours a week to writing only the novel, so yeah, it is one reason that I am trying to reign in my "fertility horses" that want to run free.

Seven, I am happy you have a plan that feels right for you! That's great.

 And thestars, hahaha! fertitlity goddess, yes that about sounds right :) but a little scary too. I am now confronted with the opposite issue I thought I'd have. DH wasn't really on board (or only half-heartedly) for some time. I thought my major issue would be having to convince him over a long period of time. But now I'm feeling a little nervous about having to contend with my baby-making hormones that would want me to keep getting pregnant every other year until menopause! I need to really figure out how I feel about it. Right now, one more feels good. I think that will be a god size for our family. But if it isn't a girl, I know I will want another.

 

Yaliina, I fast many mornings during the week. The 5:2 sounds interesting too. There are so many healthful fast strategies and I think what I've gleaned is that just changing it up on your body, making it stay on its toes and adapt to both famine times and food abundance is what is best biologically, keeps the organs and cells strong. I'd love to follow your progress with it. Keep us updated!

 

AFM, I am working a lot and it is keeping my mind off of TTC or WBW. But I just got my first shipment of OPKs from wondfo. And I am interested in figuring it all out, so I've been POAS on OPKs the past few mornings. it is funny how much I hope I see two lines and that I have to remind myself over and over that it is NOT a Pg test!! Funny that I always hold my breath,hopeful.

post #70 of 319
Long time lurker. Just made a profile.

If no one minds I'll join the waiting crowd. We have tentative plans to try for our first end of this year beginning of next. With a few factors waiting to be ironed out.

I'm trying not to push for him to be ready a little sooner. But it's hard.
post #71 of 319
So now I'm the one having a hard time waiting!! I was pretty set on June to start ttc, and I had good reasons! I wanted my 2.5 year old to get to at least 3 years nursing (I'm terrified that a pregnancy would cause him to wean), I could save more money homebirths are expensive!), and I could get through this year's travels without having to worry about constant nausea, And I had missed my moontime and would like to have a few more cycles before we head back into barren land! But I'm finding it hard to wait! I want to be pregnant yesterday, and husband feels the same... any thoughts? Suggestions? How do I turn off the baby fever, or should I?
post #72 of 319
I really don't have anything remotely helpful to say lol. What did you mean by moontime?? I'm sorry, I've just never heard that term before
post #73 of 319
Thread Starter 

Mama2, Those are great, rational reasons...if it were me, I'd think about how I might feel after getting pregnant. Will you regret not waiting the few extra months for any one of these reasons? Hormones and emotions are powerful forces, and it can feel soooo satisfying to give into them, but I'd weigh that momentary bliss against your goals. I am trying really hard to do this right now. I absolutely have goals like finishing writing a book, bfing ds3 until he is at least 18 mo (I will probably lose my milk during pg), and I keep reminding myself of those things almost on a daily basis. Once I am not in that fertile week during my cycle, though, it gets infinitely easier to AVOID TTC early. I'm just not as obsessed.

post #74 of 319
Writermama, I think that it is so cool you are writing a book. When I was in high school that is what I wanted to do, before I knew how difficult it can be. Now I'm content with reading the hard work of others smile.gif

Snowdrifter, I don't know if you can ever be truly ready for kids, I've always taken the "ready or not, here they come" approach smile.gif it's probably not the best way to plan a family but it has worked for me. Hopefully you can get on the same page soon.

Mama2chicknlil, I'm not much help either.
post #75 of 319
Katy, we are waiting for two reasons. Well it's sort of the same reason for both of us. Work. I just started this job, which is looking good to be a career, last sept and I'd like to be here at least a year. To sort of secure the position you know.
And we just found out the place my husband has worked at for 5 years is shutting down end of March. So he's on the job hunt.
My work will pay all the bills, just barely, so he really needs to work. Thankfully he's had several interviews in the past month so keeping my fingers crossed.

Katy, how long are you planning to wait before your next baby?
post #76 of 319
Snowdrifter, I just reread my last post and I don't think it came across like I ment it to, sorry about that. I was trying to refer to the mental aspect of being ready. Sounds like you have a good plan. It is so stressful when your spouse (or your self) have to find a new job, hopefully one of those interviews works out. If you don't mind me asking, what kind of work do you do?

AFM I don't know when we will be trying again. My two are 19 months apart, ideally we would start trying in May or June for a similar gap. Only problem is I am exclusively nursing my 5 month old and have no idea when AF will return.
post #77 of 319
Gah, no that was me. I'm sorry if I came across snippy. Darn you internet and the inability to communicate tone.
I don't think I'll every be mentally ready. I babysit my best friends 6 year old fairly regularly and I have no idea how she does it every day.

I'm in pharmacy. I work for a hemophilia specialty care company. It's somewhere between a mail order pharmacy and a home care clinic with a dash of office thrown in. I really like it. It's a fairly flexible job so I think I'd still be ok to work during and after a baby.

I don't really know much about how long it takes things to return to normal after a baby. If things were even normal in the beginning. Lol.
I know my monthlies have never been that predictable. It's been worse with the iud.
Er, sorry if it's tmi. I'm an over-sharer.
post #78 of 319
Thread Starter 

Being a woman is crazy business. After I gave all that good advice (that I fully believed 100%) I started longing again. But it's probably because I am due to O any day now. I am trying out my OPKs and it is confusing. they are all like different shades of negative for the past four days. I think this is normal, but I am afraid of missing the surge so I keep POAS to try to catch it...and since I am paying attention to my O time, I am also thinking about the egg that will surely follow. Hmm. Plotting. Rationalizing. hahaha.

post #79 of 319
Haha, I agree, it's so hard to communicate tone in writing, especially with people you have never met.

You never know what can happen in pregnancy it's great you will have some flexibility with your work.

I wouldn't worry about sharing too much, I don't know about anyone else, but I don't care smile.gif I've read some interesting things about people on boards like these!

So I was thinking about starting to track my basal body temperature, how much sleep do I need to get in order to get an accurate reading?
post #80 of 319
Well it's nice to know I'm not the only one who's waiting. Though I may be the only one waiting on the first.

All of my friends who want kids have one, or are into two or three. I feel like I'm lagging behind.

Writermama what kind of novel are you working on? What genre, I mean?
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