My son, age 3.5, is very sweet. But SO VERY PHYSICAL. Usually it is clear that his actions do not involve malice. Nonetheless the boy grits his teeth then pummels people all.the.time.
If he isn't pounding or slapping with fists, it is head butting. Or rubbing my back kindly, but within mere moments switching to scratching deeply or picking at my blemishes. It seems to be an unconscious switch.
We always pull him away and remind him to be gentle. He apologizes without prompting and gives hugs and cuddles. But within a few minutes it is back to the assault. (People aren't his only victims, he pounds on everything everywhere.)
He gets a LOT of exercise. I do grab him away when he is hurting someone, but I am not aggressive with him. His 7 year old sister gets physical with him in response, and can instigate as well. But it is well within the realm of "normal".
I spend a lot of time with other children my son's age. So I know that there are plenty of boys with plenty of energy and movement. I just want to handle this in the best way possible to help him learn to respect others and channel his energy in a positive way.
So...advice and suggestions would be very much appreciated! Thanks mamas!
PS: I don't know if this is relevant or not, but: Neither his preschool teachers nor the pediatrician (nor us) think he is on the spectrum. His father does have an audio processing disorder. We are gluten free at home but my son eats gluten often elsewhere. We are organic farmers and eat a ton of veggies and all organic meat/dairy.