Well, my stbx and I are still argueing over what will happen with the kids.
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I want to protect the kids from him, but without a contested divorce, I can't. One of our kids was adopted (guardianship) just before my stbx starting doing crazy things, and we never did the final legal adoption in our state. So this is pending, and I want full parental rights, and his to be relinquished, because she has never known my stbx. She has seen him, and uses the word Daddy, but she doesn't understand that he is her father, or that he has ever cared for her. For 6 months, he gave her a bottle at night time, and she refused it from him. They would tussle, then he would open up the bottle and pour it down her thoat. She would then throw it up and cry, and then he pinched her legs (very high up at the top of her thighs). When I realized what he was doing (to the fullest) it was about the time that he hit my son in the head, and I locked him out. So yes, I feel horrible, like a horrible mother to not have done anything any sooner, but when I got the courage, I became like a mother tiger...roaring to protect my cubs.
Back to story, she has never known him as a father. More as a person who ruined her day with mommy, by coming home and giving her her bottle.
They have no relationship...and it was that way when he was living here too.
So I am trying to protect her and the other two, and keep them away from him...but don't know if I can. His attorney is vicious. She goes right to the throat. I have told him recently that I want to adopt her by myself. He went nuts. He wants to have access to her.
He also threatened me that I wasn't allowing the kids to see him (true) and that his attorney said he could win to have the kids in court, for my refusal to let the kids physically visit with him. I have let them talk, my son sends letters, but the visits have stopped since we can no longer visit at the childrens musuem. They have kicked him out of there.!!!
So now i am trying to arrange for him to see the kids at our local visitation center, and I have done my part, but he doesn't want to do that. I hope he doesn't get the kids in court. They might die in his hands.
Feeling so powerless right now. I need your encouragement and advice.
Thanks,
Moon Light Mama
:I want to protect the kids from him, but without a contested divorce, I can't. One of our kids was adopted (guardianship) just before my stbx starting doing crazy things, and we never did the final legal adoption in our state. So this is pending, and I want full parental rights, and his to be relinquished, because she has never known my stbx. She has seen him, and uses the word Daddy, but she doesn't understand that he is her father, or that he has ever cared for her. For 6 months, he gave her a bottle at night time, and she refused it from him. They would tussle, then he would open up the bottle and pour it down her thoat. She would then throw it up and cry, and then he pinched her legs (very high up at the top of her thighs). When I realized what he was doing (to the fullest) it was about the time that he hit my son in the head, and I locked him out. So yes, I feel horrible, like a horrible mother to not have done anything any sooner, but when I got the courage, I became like a mother tiger...roaring to protect my cubs.
Back to story, she has never known him as a father. More as a person who ruined her day with mommy, by coming home and giving her her bottle.
They have no relationship...and it was that way when he was living here too.
So I am trying to protect her and the other two, and keep them away from him...but don't know if I can. His attorney is vicious. She goes right to the throat. I have told him recently that I want to adopt her by myself. He went nuts. He wants to have access to her.
He also threatened me that I wasn't allowing the kids to see him (true) and that his attorney said he could win to have the kids in court, for my refusal to let the kids physically visit with him. I have let them talk, my son sends letters, but the visits have stopped since we can no longer visit at the childrens musuem. They have kicked him out of there.!!!
So now i am trying to arrange for him to see the kids at our local visitation center, and I have done my part, but he doesn't want to do that. I hope he doesn't get the kids in court. They might die in his hands.
Feeling so powerless right now. I need your encouragement and advice.
Thanks,
Moon Light Mama
Oh, wow, my heart sank reading this post!
