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post #21 of 33
In my case, I've noticed it in some other family members. Fortunately my mother "got it"--probably because she has it too.
post #22 of 33

I have only recently heard of the term HSP in the past few weeks, and it is definitely me 100% 

 

I'll be back later with an actual response - so glad this thread exists!

post #23 of 33
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I have only recently heard of the term HSP in the past few weeks, and it is definitely me 100% 

I'll be back later with an actual response - so glad this thread exists!
Welcome to the thread randomgirl!
post #24 of 33
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Another author recommendation: Alice Miller.

Her work on the "gifted" child is, in my opinion, very helpful to those of us whose high sensitivity was neglected, misrecognized or shamed in us as children.
She has many books of interest, but I can personally recommend The Drama of the Gifted Child and Thou Shalt Not Be Aware.

Wishing you all peace and healing.
Edited by bruna - 1/26/14 at 10:09pm
post #25 of 33
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Another author recommendation: Alice Miller.

Her work on the "gifted" child is, in my opinion, very helpful to those of us whose high sensitivity was neglected, misrecognized or shamed in us as children.
She has many books of interest, but I can personally recommend The Drama of the Gifted Child and Thou Shalt Not Be Aware.

Wishing you all peace and healing.

 

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It really feels good to make the connection with others. I feel pretty alone in this in daily life.
I believe my Mother is an HSP, although not very in touch with the trait.
My young son shows signs too. Anyone else find the trait ran in your family?

My 3yr old DS definitely is HSP (my aunt as well, she's about the only person in the family I keep in touch with and am actually close physically and mentally to - so grateful for her!!). He also shows signs for giftedness. I even tested positive for gifted in elementary school and still my mother did nothing about it, went through school as normal. It's one reason I'm homeschooling, I was so out of touch w/others (though am an oddity in the HSP world in that I'm outgoing and definitely a leader and type A!), and, though I always had friends, I never liked going and being forced to maintain their schedule. 

I'm already a bit worried about my son, like, how do I help him in life w/o sheltering too much? Right now I'm able to choose our friends, but we have one that really takes advantage of his personality. He'll push him, talk down to him, etc. (it's a good kid and I love his family, he's just a bit older and likes to pick on DS). When I ask he still wants to play with him, but did ask me "why isn't __ nice like I am?" last time we were with them:( He won't fight back, even to his younger sibling. He'll cry about it at home, but tries to hold it in when out. I've taught him to use his words, walk away, etc., but I can tell it hurts his feelings and doesn't stop the other person. I try not to intervene on children playing as much as possible but it breaks my heart! I'm so happy we are so similar and I normally know just how to deal w/him though! Thanks for the book recommendations Bruna, I'm gonna check em out!

 

post #26 of 33

Yippiehippie:  I think it's just something that takes many years to figure out for kids--how to build up some kind of tolerance for the rest of the world, and work on what kind of balance to maintain between self/others and deal with boundary issues (I guess to put it another way, how much crap you're willing to put up with from other people). One thing that helped me, growing up, was being surrounded by older male cousins and a brother--that helped me learn to be a little tougher, but it took years before I could truly let stuff roll of my back.

 

As far as I know, the only thing you can do is keep reiterating, "use your words", walk away, and so on.  Trying to intervene directly will probably back fire anyway.  If it turns into something more serious (like bullying), then obviously you'll have to step it up.  But as long as he's basically safe (albeit uncomfortable), I think it's good for him do some grappling with the messier parts of life, and figure out things for himself.  I think sometimes negative experiences have just as much teaching power as positive ones (as long as they're not too extreme).  I think your instinct not the shelter him too much is correct.

 

Sigh, I wish the world were a kinder, gentler place sometimes.  It takes a lot of energy to deal with pushy/negative/annoying people, but it is a life skill.  Not letting other people get to you feels like a superpower of sorts, especially if you're HSP!  :blowkiss

 

Cheers!

post #27 of 33

Hi all,

I'm new here. I've recently discovered I am HSP. I am also introverted. And usually misunderstood. : )

 

My husband and I have 3 children. 2 of which are rowdy and high-spirited. It makes for some unnerving days.


What about HS is challenging for you?

-I've been told throughout my life that I take things too personally. Btw, one of my pet peeves is being told to not take things so personally. ;)

-I can rarely withstand a lot of noise from my kids. When they are being super rowdy and loud I will usually go in a different part of the house in order to find some quiet and to give my nerves a chance to recuperate.

-I'm way too nice of a person sometimes.Working on that though.

-Sometimes, for no reason at all, I feel like the whole world is coming to an end (figuratively speaking)...random doom & gloom feelings. Just my emotions being weird.


What about HS is rewarding for you?

-I'm sure there are a lot of benefits, but at the moment I cannot think of any.


Do you have any resources (Books, Authors, Therapeutics, Practices, Et Cetera) that have served you well as an HSP?

 

Introvert Power by Laurie Helgoe

post #28 of 33

Stumbled upon this article today:

 

16 Habits Of Highly Sensitive People

post #29 of 33
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Welcome to the thread, NettleTea smile.gif
post #30 of 33

I also think of myself as a HS person.  I found some information about it last year and thought it was nice to see there are other people like me!!!

 

I have been told that I take things too personally and have been working on that for years.  I do think it helps me in being a very compassionate person in the helping profession.  

 

I guess the hardest part for me is feeling like I take into account others' feelings before I make actions, but then see people act with little regard to my feelings.  I am working on this as well.  

 

I think I will really enjoy this group and seeing how we all can grow and find comfort.

post #31 of 33
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Welcome Momma,mia ! smile.gif
post #32 of 33
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Just read and enyoyed this article by E. Aron titled; The Shadow Side To High Sensitivity. She offers some great insight on the parts of HS we may find hard to see and accept in ourselves. Thought I would share it with you all...
http://www.hsperson.com/pages/3Aug05.htm
Edited by bruna - 3/19/14 at 10:07am
post #33 of 33
Wow, reading that article really solidified I am a hsp. I need to have my husband read that as well.
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