Originally Posted by cynthiamoon
That's a good point. I am always taken aback a bit when strangers pat me on the back and such. This seems silly, considering everywhere else his hands had been, but my OB touched mycheek in this tender sort of "there, there" way after a bad news checkup once and I couldn't decide if I loved or hated it.
Yeah, that's exactly it. I find that discomfort amplified when people do it to babies, especially newborns, who have far less ability to make their dislike known or to get away. I don't care if you're fascinated by the wonder of new life and babies- pregnant people are still people, newborns are still people, and they have every right to not have complete strangers invading their space and touching them without permission.
The other day one of the people who work at a cafe that we go to often enough, so the person is an acquaintance rather than a stranger, tickled my baby's foot- not a big deal- then interpreted the resulting babble as "stop it!". She made this big deal about how my baby was totally talking- then kept doing it to get it to happen again. (my baby was grinning and quite happy with the attention, the babble was just a happy squeal, or else I would have stopped it) If an adult had told her "stop it", she probably would have respected their wishes, it REALLY bothered me that she thought my baby was telling her to "stop" and that became a game for her.