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post #41 of 87
My little one is 21 months and she is up every hour or two at night. All I want is some solid sleep. I'm so tired. All I want to do is sleep. I was going to lay down and let the kids watch netflix and nap while she napped but my 4.5 year old woke her up. greensad.gif
post #42 of 87
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I night weaned this last week because I couldn't stand being woken up anymore. Crazy pregnancy dreams are already waking me like 5 times a night! Dd2 is 23 months old and it went REALLY well. Did the Dr. Jay Gordon method, but pretty much skipped to the end. She's hardly protested at all.

Motivated Mama- you don't really need to worry about who gets to nurse first or anything like that. Trust me, your body will produce milk for an army. We naturally produce more beyond the first time and then it'll signal that you need more. You shouldn't have supply issues. As for nursing on the one side only, I saw this really cool picture on Facebook the other day. A mom that was 32 weeks pregnant who only nursed on one side pumped both and there was very clearly milk on the side she still nursed on and colostrum on the side she didn't nurse on anymore. Our bodies are amazing. :-)
post #43 of 87

I saw that on Facebook!  The one boob-colostrum and one boob- milk thing.  Really and truly amazing.  

 

Ladies, I'm starting to wonder if I want to tandem nurse.  I have even though about weaning my son entirely soon.  He is 22 months, will be 2 in February.  

 

A friend of mine had two babies 18 months apart and tandemed for 3 months before she said she just couldn't do it anymore.  She finally totally weaned her oldest (he's also 22 months) and his behavior has totally changed...he used to be such a violent emotional toddler, now he is so much more calm and happy and no longer acts out.  Saw the proof today myself.   Makes me wonder.

 

I wanted badly to tandem nurse but now I just don't know.   Gotta feel it out more I guess.   

post #44 of 87
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It's different for every pregnancy. With my first, I also weaned her after 3 months of tandem. I don't regret it because it made me a lot more emotionally stable (and helped to mend my relationship with her which was severely on the rocks due to PPD), but even at 3 years and 2 months, I can tell she wasn't ready. She still, over a year and a half later, asks to nurse sometimes.

Even with that experience, I'm willing to try tandem nursing again. Who knows how it'll be this time around. At the same time, I won't be heartbroken if DD2 weans during pregnancy.
post #45 of 87
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Ladies, I'm starting to wonder if I want to tandem nurse.  I have even though about weaning my son entirely soon.  He is 22 months, will be 2 in February.  

A friend of mine had two babies 18 months apart and tandemed for 3 months before she said she just couldn't do it anymore.  She finally totally weaned her oldest (he's also 22 months) and his behavior has totally changed...he used to be such a violent emotional toddler, now he is so much more calm and happy and no longer acts out.  Saw the proof today myself.   Makes me wonder.

I wanted badly to tandem nurse but now I just don't know.   Gotta feel it out more I guess.   

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It's different for every pregnancy. With my first, I also weaned her after 3 months of tandem. I don't regret it because it made me a lot more emotionally stable (and helped to mend my relationship with her which was severely on the rocks due to PPD), but even at 3 years and 2 months, I can tell she wasn't ready. She still, over a year and a half later, asks to nurse sometimes.

Even with that experience, I'm willing to try tandem nursing again. Who knows how it'll be this time around. At the same time, I won't be heartbroken if DD2 weans during pregnancy.

You never know until you try, right? That's how I always see it. I like to look to others for examples and their experiences, but when it comes down to it, I'm most likely going to just have to try it myself. That colostrum/milk thing is really cool - I'll have to check it out. I suppose as long as DD3 nurses, I'll nurse her. And when the baby comes, I'll nurse him (or her). Whatever happens. Happens. smile.gif
post #46 of 87

I just want to chime in about sleep. My baby has been one of those "difficult sleepers" she is just a really high needs nighttime baby. An angel during the day but she was up at least 5-7 times a night until the week before she turned 2 and I snapped, and told her that milkies are going to sleep with Mr. Sun and she can see the boobies in the morning. And she was so pissed at me, but at least she was yelling and not crying and she was and is still in our bed now at 28 months. She got up and screamed "how about feeding me?!?" when my husband got up to feed the cat.

I can't imagine dealing with her up all night while pregnant right now, because I HATE nursing currently and feel horrible about it. But I know that gently night weaning was the best thing that ever happened, and that we had tried it a few months earlier and it didn't work and she cried hysterically until she puked. And then a couple months later she was ready and now she sleeps like a rock!

Sleep is a skill that babies learn, just like walking and talking and you can't make them do it any faster.

 

But on the topic of nursing aversion? Anyone else have it to badly? I want to scream and take a cheese grater to my nipples every time she nurses, it feels like she just latches on and flicks my nipple with her tongue, like she's not nursing at all, she hardly swallows and I used to have a HUGE supply. It's so repulsive to me, I'm questioning whether I will get to tandem or not, I just hate it, and it makes me angry at her, which I don't  like.

post #47 of 87
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Originally Posted by OtherSoul View Post
 

I saw that on Facebook!  The one boob-colostrum and one boob- milk thing.  Really and truly amazing.  

 

Ladies, I'm starting to wonder if I want to tandem nurse.  I have even though about weaning my son entirely soon.  He is 22 months, will be 2 in February.  

 

A friend of mine had two babies 18 months apart and tandemed for 3 months before she said she just couldn't do it anymore.  She finally totally weaned her oldest (he's also 22 months) and his behavior has totally changed...he used to be such a violent emotional toddler, now he is so much more calm and happy and no longer acts out.  Saw the proof today myself.   Makes me wonder.

 

I wanted badly to tandem nurse but now I just don't know.   Gotta feel it out more I guess.   

totally listen to your instincts.  there's not a 'right' or 'better' way on this!  it's really about you, your body, your babies and that relationship which is complicated!!!

 

i wasn't sad when my 4th baby weaned during my 5th pregnancy.  part of me wanted to tandem nurse, but it was good for me and my husband and i SLEPT so much that pregnancy.  the nursing aversion i think is a good sign that your body is peaked and overwhelmed.

 

i don't have any thing like that this time.  he gulps all night (it was cute, last night he came in and was nursing like a fiend and husband asked "is there a clock in the room?" "no, why?" "what is that clicking sound?" "the baby swallowing." "man, he's LOUD.  and fast!"), i am engorged if he's a few hours off from his feedings.  i've definitely been frustrated if he goes to play and doesn't finish a nursing (i could still pump on one side if i took the time).  but i do remember it!!!  i was relieved when i didn't have to dread the kicking, pulling, writhing, annoying toddler nursing gymnastics!!!

 

BUT- like EEEY2 said above- if it gets to the point of annoyance and resentment, i'd consider a new plan!!!  i so remember that horrible guilt inducing feeling!!!  i nursed through it w/ one pregnancy.  but usually i had to stop and find a better to deal w/ it that didn't make both of us cry and be angry w/ each other.  you're a great mama!!! it's just a hard transition time.

post #48 of 87

I don't have a nursing aversion, but my nipples are so sensitive right now, my left much more than my right for some reason. Last night my DD struggled getting to sleep and wanted to be attached to my boob, it was killing me and for some odd reason she kept wanting to nurse on my left. Normally she favors the right. I finally had to get out of bed and bounce her on our excersise ball to get her relaxed, but then had to nurse her back in bed. I really want to night wean, but am so nervous it's going to be awful. I tried one night and it was such a long difficult night, then I didn't continue because I got a horrible head cold the next day. Nursing during the day doesn't bother me, but she wakes up so often at night I feel like between her waking and me getting up to pee (which often wakes her depending on our positioning) I'm looking at the clock on an hourly basis. Then DH's alarm starts going off at 4:30 and don't always fall back to sleep until he says goodbye at 5:30. DD will wake for the day anywhere between 6:30 and 7:00, sometimes earlier. I'm so tired!

 

So after that long explanation, I am wondering if waitig until my milk supply dwindles would make night weaning easier? Does anyone have any experience with this? My DD is 17 months old and is very attached to nursing at night, so I don't believe this will be easy. Also, for those of you using Dr. Jay's method, do you stick to the 7 hour time frame or do they eventually stop waking to nurse longer? We nurse (and bounce) to sleep at this point and she wakes often in the first half of the night.

 

This is off topic of sleeping/night weaning etc. but I am seriously hungy. All. The. Time. I didn't feel my appetite changed at all wth DD and this time around I'm constantly hungry. I want to be careful because I gained a lot of weight the first time and would rather do a repeat of that. It took awhile for me to fall asleep last night and as I was laying there, needing to pee again, my stomach was literally growling! Is this due to nursing as well? I know I need extra calories because of it, but I really am surprised of my constant state of hunger I feel.

 

Being tired and hungry are the two sure things that can put me in a cranky mood and I constantly feel both! Ugh!!

post #49 of 87
I've night weaned both of my babies at 15 months follow Dr Gordon's advice. I follow the 7 hr system (11-6) and my DD wakes at 6 on the dot to nurse but falls right back asleep. Can you lie down and nurse instead of having to bounce?
post #50 of 87
When toddlers night wean do they generally start sleeping through the night? I'm going to do it. It's 3am where I live and I've been up for 2 hours with him suckling away. I'm feeling so dehydrated due to being sick and having to nurse. I don't want to wean completely yet just at night.
post #51 of 87
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Originally Posted by EEEY2 View Post

I just want to chime in about sleep. My baby has been one of those "difficult sleepers" she is just a really high needs nighttime baby. An angel during the day but she was up at least 5-7 times a night until the week before she turned 2 and I snapped, and told her that milkies are going to sleep with Mr. Sun and she can see the boobies in the morning. And she was so pissed at me, but at least she was yelling and not crying and she was and is still in our bed now at 28 months. She got up and screamed "how about feeding me?!?" when my husband got up to feed the cat.
I can't imagine dealing with her up all night while pregnant right now, because I HATE nursing currently and feel horrible about it. But I know that gently night weaning was the best thing that ever happened, and that we had tried it a few months earlier and it didn't work and she cried hysterically until she puked. And then a couple months later she was ready and now she sleeps like a rock!
Sleep is a skill that babies learn, just like walking and talking and you can't make them do it any faster.

But on the topic of nursing aversion? Anyone else have it to badly? I want to scream and take a cheese grater to my nipples every time she nurses, it feels like she just latches on and flicks my nipple with her tongue, like she's not nursing at all, she hardly swallows and I used to have a HUGE supply. It's so repulsive to me, I'm questioning whether I will get to tandem or not, I just hate it, and it makes me angry at her, which I don't  like.

Hey lady, that's just how I felt when DD2 was nursing through my second pregnancy. It's a pretty awful feeling. I was pretty relieved when she self-weaned four months into the pregnancy, even though she was only 17.5 months. It happened pretty suddenly--one day she was nursing 5 times a day, then she went like two days without, then to once a week and then she went three more weeks and then nursed once and was done. Not sure if that's what's happening with you and your LO but my MW at the time was pretty adamant I should listen to my body. But I was also very, very sick that pregnancy. Throwing up 5-10 times a day greensad.gif. So weaning really was a blessing I didn't fight.
post #52 of 87
The STTN varies. My daughter slept through the night for 2 weeks once we night weaned. Then we went on vacation and now she wakes up at 3a to just be shushed and goes right back to sleep. Either way it's much less stressful at night because I know I'm not nursing her.
post #53 of 87

I'm nursing my 20 month old. Feeling ambivalent about weaning. But I do want to wean her before the baby comes. I'm only 9 weeks but my milk supply has already bottomed out, I only really have milk for morning and before naptime feeds now.

post #54 of 87
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Originally Posted by WendyJo410 View Post

I've night weaned both of my babies at 15 months follow Dr Gordon's advice. I follow the 7 hr system (11-6) and my DD wakes at 6 on the dot to nurse but falls right back asleep. Can you lie down and nurse instead of having to bounce?
I only bounce her to sleep initially, so to go down for nap and bedtime. Then I nurse laying down when she wakes. Except when she decides to party at 1:00am and refuses to go back sleep, then it's back to bouncing on the ball. Something else I hope can get away from.
post #55 of 87
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Originally Posted by tapiocapudding View Post

I'm nursing my 20 month old. Feeling ambivalent about weaning. But I do want to wean her before the baby comes. I'm only 9 weeks but my milk supply has already bottomed out, I only really have milk for morning and before naptime feeds now.
I'm in the same situation with my milk supply. It seems like it's only drops this point, one side is worse than the other. This is happening sooner than I expected, I'm also 9 weeks. I wonder if it has to do with eating and drinking enough or if it just happens when it happens?
post #56 of 87

I have started nightweaning.  !!!  Last night did not give him any milk at all.  He cried, as expected each time he woke, but I gave him a drink of water and sang him back to sleep.  It wasn't as bad as I thought it was gonna be.  And definitely time, he'll be 2 next month.  This mama is DONE with night nursing.  I'll still nurse him 2-3 x a day.   

post #57 of 87
Congrats! How is it still going? I'm so worried of completely sleepless nights so I'm dragging my feet on starting, but need I hope it continues to go well for you, keep us posted!
post #58 of 87

Night 2 of nightweaning seemed to go a little bit better.  He woke up 3x instead of 2x though, but he cried for way less, maybe half the amount of time.  It was really intense crying at first but I sang him back to sleep and he quieted way easier..  I think he's starting to get it, because as soon as the sun came up he was awake and giving me the hand sign for milk and saying, "boobie? boobie?"  I nursed him once the sun came up.  

 

I have people pressuring me to wean him all the way but I don't want to. I still want him to have my milk.   I just need my rest.  I was getting super aggravated and felt really angry at him for nursing nonstop all night (I'm a light sleeper so I can't sleep if someone is suckling) so that for me was the sign I needed to wean at night. Plus the thought of waking with both the toddler and a newborn just made me insane even to think about.  So  I'm so glad we started the process.  It's a little bumpy, but my guy seems to be catching on and I'm hopeful I will have way more hours of consecutive sleep per night to help restore myself before round 2 starts in August.  

 

I feel a lot better about the tandeming idea now that I've placed a limit on night nursing.  Phew.  Curious as to how night 3 will go tonight.  

post #59 of 87

I hope night 3 was even better.

I haven't night weaned yet, though I'm sure we'll need to soon.  Poor little girl has been ill and is now getting 2 canines.  She wants to just hold my nipple in her mouth 24/7.  She's like a newborn, but with a 14 month olds strength and stamina.  Very exhausting.  Add in mood swings and I get very angry sometimes.  I know this phase will pass, but I feel like a bad parent.

post #60 of 87
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I'm totally feeling nursing aversion. I feel like she's chewing on my nipple rather and nursing. Like I know she has a good latch, but I feel like I need to keep adjusting it. I HAVE to distract myself or the nursing just wouldn't happen.

I was hoping to have a better time with tandem this time, but I just don't know how that's going to work out if I'm feeling so aggravated so early on. Maybe I'm just a one-nursling-at-a-time kind of mama?
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