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post #141 of 163
Thread Starter 

lilac - "Growth spurts!" They're around 7 or 8 weeks right? If it is any comfort both DD and DS had that around 7-9 weeks. Freaking-out bloody murder screaming. Holding the head up, face beet-red and shaking his fists in mad fury. One night it was 3 hours in a row - fun times. DP wanted to take him to the emergency room. I told him, it is happening only in the evening, before bedtime. If it is something bad, he'll be crying all the time. With DD, it went on for two weeks and you could set a clock to it. Six o'clock and the screaming commenced. 

 

I'd say if the crying is happening at a set time (probably early evening) then I wouldn't worry. If it goes on all day, I'd check with the doctor again. 

post #142 of 163

Zeph has decided she doest want to go to bed til 12am-2am. yeah... not cool baby. 

post #143 of 163
@lilac:does your dh wear a housecoat? Mine doesn't need a carrier ;p


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post #144 of 163
Growth spurts is probably it. It is early evening when the cries happen. Last night we got both babies to take pacifers after they ate and they they totally chilled and went to sleep. Husband was happy and he was able to read for awhile in silence.

Sadly he doesn't wear a house coat. He may come around to the Boba carrier I have now.
post #145 of 163
Thread Starter 

It gets better! I promise :)  Soon they'll be taking naps and going to bed at a certain time.

 

Lida this is such a cool picture :D

post #146 of 163
Last night was better. DH really didn't want to go to church today because he hates being the center of attention and with our twins, that is definitely what happens. We compromised and went for the children's Sabbath School portion where they sang songs and listened to stories and left after an hour before anyone could really make us the center of attention. I just needed to get out of the house. DH thinks it is just too much work to go anywhere. Um, yeah, and that is why I need his help so I don't stay home 7 days a week and go crazy!
post #147 of 163
I need some encouragement that this will get better. I am in the " babies are screaming this week" more than ever and they are 9 weeks old. DH was really in a depressed "why did I father children" mood this week because of all their crying. That made me sad. He really doesn't deal well with noise. He wants silence to relax and with babies that just isn't reasonable.  I have been using a calypso sounding baby CD that usually quiets my younger son who screams the most but DH can't stand listening to it and can't wait the couple of minutes it takes for the music to calm the baby down.  "See it isn't working. Turn off the music."  Shake my head.

My oldest son has slept for 8 hours or more a couple times now.  I am ready to move him into his crib across the hall, but DH doesn't want to make too many changes at once but the changes have been a new mattress for us and new pillows.  I am so much more flexible with change. DH not so much. I know these issues will pass and I don't get distressed by what is occurring right now because I know this is not forever.

Thursday night, DH and I went out for the first time by ourselves to buy a new mattress and box spring. It felt weird to leave the babies at home with their uncle.  I fed them and changed them before we left and my brother kept that calm and relaxed for 2 hours while we were gone. Yesterday, I went grocery shopping alone and DH was beside himself because my youngest son was screaming for food.  I had started pumping a little breastmilk for the babies and had some in the frig.  I had forgotten to tell DH where the nipples to the bottles were, doh.  He fed the baby cold breast milk with a eye dropper.  It worked. Kept the baby calm enough to wait for me when I got home and fed him proper.
post #148 of 163
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Originally Posted by lilacvioletiris View Post

I need some encouragement that this will get better. I am in the " babies are screaming this week" more than ever and they are 9 weeks old. DH was really in a depressed "why did I father children" mood this week because of all their crying. That made me sad. He really doesn't deal well with noise. He wants silence to relax and with babies that just isn't reasonable.  I have been using a calypso sounding baby CD that usually quiets my younger son who screams the most but DH can't stand listening to it and can't wait the couple of minutes it takes for the music to calm the baby down.  "See it isn't working. Turn off the music."  Shake my head.

My oldest son has slept for 8 hours or more a couple times now.  I am ready to move him into his crib across the hall, but DH doesn't want to make too many changes at once but the changes have been a new mattress for us and new pillows.  I am so much more flexible with change. DH not so much. I know these issues will pass and I don't get distressed by what is occurring right now because I know this is not forever.

Thursday night, DH and I went out for the first time by ourselves to buy a new mattress and box spring. It felt weird to leave the babies at home with their uncle.  I fed them and changed them before we left and my brother kept that calm and relaxed for 2 hours while we were gone. Yesterday, I went grocery shopping alone and DH was beside himself because my youngest son was screaming for food.  I had started pumping a little breastmilk for the babies and had some in the frig.  I had forgotten to tell DH where the nipples to the bottles were, doh.  He fed the baby cold breast milk with a eye dropper.  It worked. Kept the baby calm enough to wait for me when I got home and fed him proper.

 

It DOES get better, I promise!!! This is my 4th baby and I have a DH who hates noise too, especially crying. Hang in there!! 9 weeks is known to be a tough one. 8-10 weeks are often known for fussiness. My babe is crying on my lap right now. She doesn't want to nurse, just scream. And go to bed at midnight. 

post #149 of 163
Thread Starter 

Hang in there Lilac - like Kali said, you really are in the toughest phase. I won't lie and say it'll be completely easier soon but slowly it gets better. Only in hindsight one realises that. And the first six months (especially with a new baby) are the toughest on the relationship. So many new things to figure out, all while being sleep deprived and tired.  I only felt I've got the hang of it around 6-7 months with DD. She was napping at regular times and I felt my days were no longer a whirlwind.

 

And I get you feel sad that DH has a "why did I father children" depressed mood. If misery loves company, I don't know how many times I thought "what did I do going and having two kids". Then I'd feel guilty about it.  Today was one.  He's been having a lot of good days, but today  was just all crappy. Crying crying crying until I just thought "I don't care anymore". That lasts about two minutes of course and then I get up and go to him.

post #150 of 163

Tomorrow one of my former coworkers is coming to visit. I think that will help me.  I have always been excited to have kids and having them has been exciting for me. I just wish the same would be true for my husband and I will keep trying to stay positive that this will pass.

post #151 of 163

I've found this site helpful for encouraging my husband in dealing with the baby crying: http://purplecrying.info/information-for-dads.php (my husband won't read things but he believes me when I summarize them for him).

post #152 of 163
Oh, I couldn't have come and read this at a better time. DD has been crying all the time, pretty much since 3 weeks. It seems like it's better for a few days then it's back to all day screaming. It doesn't really seem like anything is wrong, she just cries. I think part of the problem is she doesn't sleep. She only sleeps for 20-30 minutes and only if I'm holding her. Sometimes she'll fall asleep in the swing but still only sleeps for 20 minutes. Right now it's sleep for 20 minutes, nurse for 20, have about 10 minutes of happy time, scream for an hour, then another 20 minutes of sleep. All.day.long. It's pretty much driving me crazy. I can't do anything all day. I can't even remember the last time I took a shower. She's 10 weeks old today and I keep telling myself it's got to get better soon. So I don't have any helpful suggestions, but I can sympathize with you guys.

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post #153 of 163
I'm sorry many of you are going through the crying phase. DS is eight weeks and much calmer than he was for the first 5 weeks. I'm feeling very, very tired, tho. My oldest is going through yet another challenging phase. Honestly, it never seems to get easier with her. She'll be 5 this month and is still my most difficult person. She 's in school all week, and I still cant get through the weekend without wishing she were elsewhere greensad.gif
post #154 of 163

I have NO idea how to get this baby to go to bed earlier! These 12am or later bedtimes are crazy. She will nap on and off in the evening while nursing, but once she stops nursing, she'll wake again within ten minutes. I do the swaddle,, white noise, etc and she just won't give it up" til midnight at least. So tired. And I have a plugged duct on my right side now. bleh. 

post #155 of 163
Kali, I have to take 4800 mg of lecithin daily to prevent plugged ducts. If I forget for a day or two I start getting them again. And that's how our days are going. Dd will not sleep for anything during the day and she so tired and cranky all the time. She falls asleep nursing then either wakes up immediately after stopping or sleeps 20 minutes max.

We had our first well baby visit today (we had checkups with our mw until 6 weeks.) She's only up to 8lbs 6oz, barely 1.5lbs over birth weight (she'll be 11 weeks tomorrow.) She has reflux and spits up so much she's not gaining weight:( The doctor gave us some homeopathic remedies and some diet restrictions for me for the next two weeks. I'm hope if we can control the reflux it will help with the not napping and screaming all day in addition to getting some weight on her.
Edited by TrishWSU - 3/4/14 at 10:25pm
post #156 of 163

Plugged duct is better.

 

Trish, wow, she's a tiny thing. I hope you can figure out the reflux weight gain issue! *hugs*

post #157 of 163

Oh and I measured Zeph today; she is at least 25" (hard to measure squirmy baby). She's growing out of three month clothes by length. She is 11 weeks 5 days.

post #158 of 163
Kali, my boys are in their 3-6 month clothes because of length. My boy Edward has been throwing up more lately. The all night nursing to keep him asleep is getting to me. Last night I put him inthe swing and within minutes he was out cold and stayed that way while I slept on the couch for 1.5 hours. I am exhausted today. DH was home sick yesterday so 4 days of trying to keep the babies quiet because dh can't handle the noise is going to make this one long weekend.
post #159 of 163
Lilac, I've read several times the situation with your husband. I can't imagine how stressful it must be to deal with twins on your own and on top of that, trying to keep them quiet because your husband is bothered and can't read his book. Of course I don't know the dinamics of your household, but your husband should understand that children change your life and routines.
I'm sorry if I am being inappropriate, it's just frustrating to read you, you sound stressed and it looks very unfair to you. Babies cry, they are not things with a turn off switch, and your husband should at the least understand that and not add one more thing for you to stress about.
post #160 of 163
Trish - Linnea is about the same size as your baby. 6lb12oz at birth and now 8lb 6oz at ten weeks. Having a tiny baby is hard.

I'm having a hard time getting enough supplement into Linnea (fortunately I've find a lot of donor milk) and she won't take a bottle so I use an SNS while nursing. It's very difficult to do this out of the house. Having a low supply sucks. Linnea is going through a crying phase too. I want to just fast forward a few months..
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