Postpartum Thread! - Page 3
hugs to everyone. Postpartum is so hard.
Three weeks postpartum today. Zephyr feels like she has always been in our family. She is perfect and everyone adores her and the other kids are huge helps when it comes to doing anything for her/getting me diapers,etc.
Feeling much better physically. If I wasn't still bleeding, I'd be ready to get back to exercising. But I went on a walk today with baby in the Boba G3 (which worked awesome, btw!) and afterwards I bled red. *sigh* I have two postpartum workout DVDs I want to try but I don't know if/when that is smart.
Zeph slept 8 hours last night. 8 hours!!!! I do not expect it to last, but it was nice.
I've been trying lots of different things the past couple of nights for sleeping. Swaddling, not swaddling, chest sleeping, bassinet, crib, rocker, etc. Finally, about halfway through the night last night, I cleared off the bed, got rid of all the extra pillows, extra blankets, etc. I swaddled her tightly and just lay her on the bed next to me (cleared of all soft things) and like a miracle, she slept! She woke up a couple of hours later, fed a little. I changed her diaper, swaddled her again and lay her on the bed next to me and she slept again! We did this a few times and I was able to sleep too. I didn't have to touch her, though I could reach her if needed/wanted. Just being close by was enough. I'm hopeful that this might be a step in the right direction to transitioning to the bassinet. But, at this point, I'm just more hopeful that it will work tonight, too!
We're in a pattern of long feedings, too. Not 3 hours, but more like 25 minutes each side. She seems to have a shallow latch and I'm having some pain/discomfort. There's a local breastfeeding support group here on Tuesdays, which I'm looking forward to this week. In the meantime, we're trying lots of different positions, and lots of nipple butter and ice between meals.
Well, at least we are finding a few things that work! Lida, my 42 weaker was completely a bossy, hungry, non-sleeping snapping turtle, too. I was thinking that the difference is two weeks older.
my guy is sleeping three hour stretches during the day and won't be woken for love or money. But then at night he's been waking every 1.5-2 hours to feed. I have a suspicion that he just likes the unadulterated mommy-time that he gets at night when all guests are gone and its just us. At least, I'm looking at it that way. I tried putting him in the bassinet to sleep at one point in the night last night, but I couldn't take it. He might get cold! He might stop breathing! He might not like it! I might not wake up when he's hungry! (Uh-huh. and this is how we ended up co-sleeping last time). Fortunately my dd has taken to sleeping with dh in the big bed, so I have the comfy single and bassinet in the other room. Its been hard and sad to see her detaching from me, though. And nursing is a big battle- she wants unlimited time, and both sides, pretty much whenever she sees her brother nursing. Its not possible, obviously, and she gets really angry and sad. Plus, her teeth kill me, so its not even pleasant, and its basically the only time I get with her these days (relatives still here, all the time. Playing with her, which is great, but then she and I get basically no time together other than her little nursing-fests). I feel really bad about it :(
As for sore nipples from overuse. iam making sure to hand express a little breast milk after they feed and rpb it around and let it dry. Seems to have helped.
DPs parents are visiting and his mom keeps making comments about how much she's nursing. So annoying...She made sure to tell me how she started giving DP cereal and fruit when he was 10 days old otherwise he'd want to have a bottle every 2-3 hours. Yeah, pretty sure that's normal. Plus, they brought they're two little yippy dogs with. I really have nothing against the dogs being at their house but they bark and jump which gets our dog hyper and they poop and pee in the house. Really not what I want to have on top of having two extra adults here. The noise level is ridiculous. I'm just thankful they waited almost three weeks before they came over.
We're still co-sleeping, despite me saying I didn't want too. I just love having her next to me at night. And she doesn't settle down in the bassinet yet. I'm going to give it a few weeks and try again. It doesn't seem to make much difference if she's swaddled or not. What's funny is she'll sleep on our futon in the living room for hours even with all of us being around and making a lot of noise (we've even vacuumed and she doesn't move.) Right now I'm OK putting her there since she doesn't move but we won't be able to do it for long.
The hardest part so far is putting her in the car seat. She's screams and screams when she's in it. I pretty much don't even want to leave the house just because I don't want to put her in the car seat.
Dh got the call that work is canceled tomorrow because of the snow. He is happy since it took an hour to get the car out ofsthe drive way, then he got it stuck tryingsto swap cars around so my brother could use my car. Took another hour to get hiscar unstuck.
My only complaint is that I wish DH held her more. But that's not really his fault, as he takes her whenever I ask, and sometimes when I don't. I just feel like I still hold her about ten times as much as he does, but I don't want to pester him about it. :-/
Roisin doesn't like to be in the car seat, either, but it really helps if someone sits beside her and holds her hand. We do that whenever we can, and the rest of the time she seems to be getting used to it.
We are doing ok. I don't want dh to go back to work Wed :-( but I have no choice. I'm trying to make sure I have as much milk as possible (IGT and low supply with all my others) so I'm pumping as much as possible. During the night Linnea will only nurse on one side so I pump the other. Doing that now. Yawn. So far her diaper count and weight gain has been good. She'll be a week old tonight and we haven't made it to yellow seedy poop (stinky green currently) yet but I wonder if that's me eating something she's sensitive too.
Last night was a bit better, and this morning was the first diaper change where he didn 't scream bloody murder. I hadn't changed him in 12 hours or so, and his diaper was soaked!!! He pooped a bunch on his first day, but hasn't pooped since. Hopefully he will soon! At his checkup yesterday, he has lost a tiny bit more weight, 20 grams, but overall has only lost 6% of his birth weight, well within the norm for abreastfed baby. Hopefully at tomorrows checkikp he gains some back. My breasts are a bit sore, but not shooting pain. HOPefully things stay good. School was cancelled today because of the weather, but Dh forgot to get DD ready for school anyway, lol!
My goal for today is to bathe the baby, have a shower and put my belly wrap back on. Yesterday, I wore it for half the day and all night, and am slowly getting better at tying it.
You can also use something like the belly bandit or I also have the jolly jumper postpartum support belt, for going out. i like the bengkeung because its a natural fabric and I can sleep in it. It actally supports my back through the twisting around of cosleeping, I find. When you start wrapping may depend on how your incision is healing.