My almost-2-year-old is going through a very disturbing phase, totally wigging out when she has to get dressed, change diaper, or get into her car seat. I'm talking a screeching, sobbing, planking, thrashing wrestling match! We are doing everything we can think of - giving her choices, taking plenty of time, trying to get her on board, dangling incentives, bringing along toys and animals, distraction, singing, you name it. But for the past couple of months, to get clothes on or off, or to get her into the car, we have to physically overpower and manhandle her. Diaper changes are almost impossible - I've all but given up cloth diapers because I can't handle that many changes. It's awful! I feel like a terrible parent for having to physically fight her, and I know that the battles only make it worse. But it reaches a point where there's no alternative.
Once she's dressed or in the seat, it's pretty much over. She rides just fine, and she wears her clothes no problem (except having a fit to take them off again). Weird thing is, it doesn't happen every time (but probably 90%). She almost never leaves my sight, but if she were in childcare I'd seriously wonder if someone was hurting or traumatizing her. It's that bad. Any ideas on how to survive this?
PS - We moved a month ago. The tantrums started a few weeks before. Could this possibly be adjustment-related? And if so, how do I help her?