The title says it all... My kids are 6.5, 4 and 4mo. My older ones should be able to pick up after themselves most of the time, but they hardly ever do. I haven't figured out how to make it happen in a way that helps us connect. Usually it feels like lots of nagging, whining, complaining, threatening..... generally not good things. My husband is barely better. I'm getting resentful about feeling like the little magic clean-up fairy. I do realize that as a mother, some of this is inevitable, but it needs to get better.
We have some checklists, routines, appropriate storage places...and I want to continue to improve on those things, but it doesn't seem to be effective. I feel like I could be doing so much better on the house myself if I didn't have to spend 30 minutes clearing the floor just to vacuum.