We have a unique grandparent (my parents) situation... After sharing the same house for with them for 2 years (phew...), we moved into our own separate houses but we are on the same 1/2 acre property about 50 feet apart from each other. This creates a whole host of parenting problems that I'm not going to get into right now but the current issue is the toy battle. We are trying to trim down our toys significantly, rotate, etc. to keep stimulation down and try to open up more creative play. My parents used to always ask before buying toys but now they buy whenever and whatever they want. I have 2 problems with this: #1 too many toys between our 2 houses, #2 our kid isn't learning the meaning of anticipation which creates some excitement and gratitude when he knows grandparents will buy whatever he wants. In fact, just yesterday they took him shopping to pick out toys and didn't even say they were for Christmas, just gave them to him now.
I realize that there is a custom for grandparents to "spoil" the grandchildren but isn't this going too far? I believe I should have a say in how this works. I would welcome any and all thoughts and suggestions!